Chatroom

[surf_toad (imported)]

i see my origional thread was supposed to be 2 threads and deservidly so. i feel we could certainly use a place where we could nominate Ops candidates, and another where we can make chat room related suggestions. this one would be for the chatroom suggestions. I could not agree with Andrew and Mac more, that the room gets frustrating at times. You are getting half-way through typing a good thought (not me, not a good thought in the cranium) and somebody privates you unsolicited. I think that this porblem could be easily solved by simply making another room for those who need to have a private room can go and have their private chats and the lobby is reserved for those who really need the public forum to be public.

i make it a point to point out to those who private me, that unsolicited privates are against the rules of good neiborship and one should ask first. i also have so little to add to privates, as i would never, under any circumstances, do anything that could possibly do harm to another, and i am still completely male. but at least i try to do it in a non-rude way. Some need to be here in a private way, others don't. i am a public person, but that is what works for me.

i don't even enjoy ciber, but a few yucks among friends is a good thing. and being around some folks who don't mind the fact that i was born male, but choose to see myself as less than that is a very good thing.

Again, thank you Bboy, River, IE, LP, MacWolfie, Christina, Lilac, Sag111 (and you too, SlutBoy) and all of the rest of you who go out of their way to make the chatroom a fun place to be.

[Tomas (imported)]

Yes, the few times I've shown up in EA chat (via xChat IRC client) the most annoying thing has been the sudden PMs with "What's your interest?" questions.

I'm not at all a person into cyber or any other 'fantasy trips in text' and even though I'm polite, the very needy sounding offers are not something I look forward to, hence the few times I have shown up are short.

Too bad I can't figure out how to turn PM's 'OFF' while in the EA chat. Oh, well.

I suspect that the shortness of my stays are why I've never actually seen a conversation in the lobby ...

[surf_toad (imported)]

Yes, the few times I've shown up in EA chat (via xChat IRC client) the most annoying thing has been the sudden PMs with "What's your interest?" questions.

I'm not at all a person into cyber or any other 'fantasy trips in text' and even though I'm polite, the very needy sounding offers are not something I look forward to, hence the few times I have shown up are short.

Too bad I can't figure out how to turn PM's 'OFF' while in the EA chat. Oh, well.

I suspect that the shortness of my stays are why I've never actually seen a conversation in the lobby ...

Thomas you are still and always will be my idol! i have appreciated all the help you have given me through the years. someday i would like to meet you just to say hi. The chatroom has begun to once again come alive with some people actually preferring to chat in public, though it is mostly good natured banter, there is some casual mention of everybodies favorite kink in there too.

we would love to have you back.

Toad

[moon_palace_min (imported)]

Hello,

I have been on the chat quite regularly for about a month now. Having private chats appear can indeed be rather annoying. It allso depends on the client you use wether they just pop up and take over what you were doing or you just get a discreet indication of it and can take it up when you feel like it.

Disabeling Private Chats altogether is not possible via the IRC protocol. Some server versions might offer that possibility.

On the other hand you should think of the freedom the net with its open protocols have given us. Trying to restrict that freedom for your own little comfort will not make it a better experience for all.

(sorry, i have some ideals )

Regards,

Moon Palace Mind

[Tomas (imported)]

Hello,

..

. Disabeling Private Chats altogether is not possible via the IRC protocol.

... On the other hand you should think of the freedom the net with its open protocols have given us. Trying to restrict that freedom for your own little comfort will not make it a better experience for all.

(sorry, i have some ideals )

Well, I would not even begin to suggest turning off PM's for everyone in the EA Chat, what I would like, though, is to be able to block them at my client when they are aimed at me. As the EA Chat rules clearly state: Ask first.

And I, too, have ideals. They include folowing rules when they are sensible, being nice to others, not annoying others, recognition that we each have our own desires and needs, and that they are not necessarily the same (or even similar).

If it were possible to turn off PM's in the EA Chat completely I would argue strongly against it.

But the way it is now is just the opposite: One is forced to accept them, eh?

It comes down to having a simple rule - "Ask First" and then getting people to follow it. Of course that would be an 'ideal' situation ...

Take care,

Tom

[Riverwind (imported)]

Hi all,

Yes I too dont like pvt chats unless the person has asked first. Many dont and the first question I get is "what are you into", or "you want to ciber". My standard answer is "I am the head chat room oper, I am a eunuch" then I wait, most of the time that does it. We would prefer that eveybody chatted some in the Lobby, but some never chat there. It is a problem but a problem we must live with.

River

[Christina (imported)]

I agree that most of us would not like to see the private chats blocked. However, getting people to use the several other rooms that we have there may be a problem for some users. I would suspect some do not even know these other rooms exist. The lobby is the first place most come to when they enter the chat, and it's a place where they should be able to ask advice from an OP. I don't mind chatting with someone in private. I love a good conversation, but I have seen the types you speak of, like: "what's your interest?", or "what brings you here?" (as if they didn't know they were talking to an op). This doesn't mean that they want to chat about cyber sex. I've have many good conversations that start with these types of first responces. Most nights I'm in 3, 4, even 5 chats at a time. If I get too many private messages, I tend to say politely that I'm busy and will chat with them later. It shouldn't take very long to figure out what the person is looking for in a chat, it's your choice if you want to continue it or not. We should be known for having a friendly chat room. If you treat people nice odds are they will stick around, if not, it's probably not the chat room they were looking for in the first place.

One last note, if you use an IRC like Bersirc, you do have the option of turning on the ignore function for rude and persistant people that like to pvt you every time they enter.

[jemagirl (imported)]

I agree that most of us would not like to see the private chats blocked. However, getting people to use the several other rooms that we have there may be a problem for some users. I would suspect some do not even know these other rooms exist. The lobby is the first place most come to when they enter the chat, and it's a place where they should be able to ask advice from an OP. I don't mind chatting with someone in private. I love a good conversation, but I have seen the types you speak of, like: "what's your interest?", or "what brings you here?" (as if they didn't know they were talking to an op). This doesn't mean that they want to chat about cyber sex.

I agree, as I just finnished chating a few minutes ago with some one who is into the cyber sex thing. While it was very disturbing, dealing with this person's cyber bable I was having a wonderfull conversation with some one else from New Zealand. I can put up with the minor headaches so long as I get to eat the icecream.

One thing that did bother me was the advice that I was getting from this cyber boi. He was trying to convince me that castration was as simple as cutting m' off, and that there is no major blood vessle as the testicles don't need it. I guess he has never heard of the spermatic artery. I didn't even have a chance to get into the isue of schock and infection with him before he became rude when he decided I wasn't being a good sport (I was a bit feisty actualy). I am glad that I know better, but I wory about others who might be misled by his advice. I think there must be some way to balence the positive aspects of private chat with the negative ones.

Jema

[BossTamsin (imported)]

One thing that did bother me was the advice that I was getting from this cyber boi. He was trying to convince me that castration was as simple as cutting m' off, and that there is no major blood vessle as the testicles don't need it. I guess he has never heard of the spermatic artery. I didn't even have a chance to get into the isue of schock and infection with him before he became rude when he decided I wasn't being a good sport (I was a bit feisty actualy). I am glad that I know better, but I wory about others who might be misled by his advice. I think there must be some way to balence the positive aspects of private chat with the negative ones.

Jema

I believe the person you were talking to was likely going by the name "penectomyal".

He's been banned from the chat several times, but keeps managing to find a way back in, sadly.

If it happens when there is an op in the room, please let the Op know. These are the kind of people that we would really like to keep out of the chatroom.

[Riverwind (imported)]

To all who like to chat.

If someone is bothering you in pvt chat or requesting it, please let one of the ops know. As IEunuch said, we dont want these people in the room and we will take care of the problem.