Well,
Gosh, I thought that I was the only son-of-a-bitchin' asshole that cussed all the time. And maybe I still am, it's just that...well..you could have fooled me on this one.
Let me tell you this. Depression is never cured with ANTI-DEPRESSANTS alone. It seems that the ones so often afflicted with it are those who never act out, cuss, throw things, get abusive, so forth and et cetera.
Mike, you really should not do what I do, you should do what I say. If Mike done that he would get depressed. So, in some specific instances, anger is a defense mechanism. ANd, If you cannot get angry, then you turn to humor. Humor, is a GOOD thing. Better than angry, it is, Obe Wan!
I am a-telling you that getting nasty never gets you anywhere. But you won't depress me with nasty. Because I am going to laugh at you. All of you. Play nasty all that you want. It is amusing to me. Hurt each other because I am a sadist...as much as y'all are masochists. Either way somebody gets their rocks off. Maybe both ways> I'm a-comin'...I'm a-comin...
Sexual socializations as social constructs, well, genetic theory is telling us that chemical changes caused by genetics can be situational. I think that the more sexual experience that you get the more chemical changes that it causes. Endorphins from an orgasm are powerful, and the more that you get of them, the more that you want of them.
The Gay lifestyle is so attractive because of the availability of sex and the reinforcement of it. Let us also face the fact that some people prefer the hard body and tight butt of a man to the soft lush curves and fluffy vagina of a woman. Or vice-versa, but perhaps only because they have had the one and not the other or they have has 'em too long or even not long enough. It is situational and it varies. The ingraining of it comes from chemical changes, perhaps.
It is just the way that it is. On the other hand, the more reinforcement that you get, sexually speaking, the more chemically you become Gay or Str8. At least that is my theory. Gayness is inborn, at least the pre-disposition is. Straightness, however, is the same.
Then, it would stand to reason that you can "make" some straight person Gay or that you can "convert" a Gay person into being straight. I say that you cannot. Perhaps, though, not for the same reason that Paolo would say it, though. It also depends on you reaction to your care-giver as you are a child. There is also that component.
Can you bring yourself to truly "love" a person of your same sex? Can you bring yourself to truly "love" a person of the opposite sex? Do you love such a person at a certain age but not at another? Are you hung up on age? Think about this carefully.
I fear that it is much, much more complicated than we would dream in our wildest dreams that it was, and that we generally only understand it in the terms of our own experience.
The older that I get the easier it is for me to see it. We always stay in the sexual orientation that we are the most comfortable with.
Now, to throw a monkey wrench into all of this, how do transgendered fit into all of this? Is a man with a sex change a lesbian if she only prefers women now, or, still a Str8 man at heart? You see, it gets crazy, doesn't it?
We settle nothing by anger except to generate more anger. We get no where by cussing except getting cussed out right back. Unless, of course, you cuss an depressed person, who just might cry instead of cussing you back.
Well, playing nice is probably a term that is not appropriate for adults, but the thought is what counts. Robbie, criticizing Bboy's use of the term wounds him down in some covered-up layer and casues him much ANGST. OF course, we have no way of knowing how much ANGST the constant use of the term has always caused you. Especially, if you consider the term to be demeaning. Maybe that goes back to your upbringing and so forth.
So, let us not try to hurt each other and instead to help each other.
Woven through this discussion I see two well though through points with the truth for each individual lying somewhere between the two extreme ends of the spectrum.
How's that for fence sitting?
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