Couple's discussion

[Arab Nights (imported)]

I was chatting the other day with a gal I've known for years. Part of the discussion began with me saying wife made occasional comments about we needed to visit Thailand (wink wink). That led to comment about talking to her about why she wanted to go which led to couples discussion or forum about castration, which wife and I have made past reference to a time or 2. While my friend is normally take it or (mostly) leave it about castration, that idea intrigued her and she thought it would be interesting.

Anybody ever done anything like that?

[TooHorny123 (imported)]

Was she interested in a trip to Thailand because she wanted to observe castrations, or does she know someone who she would like to see castrated? Is it for a thrill for her or a need to improve quality of life?

[Arab Nights (imported)]

Separate from the j/o material potential, it might be good for partners of whatever orientation to take some time to talk about what things mean to each and what each really wants.

[TheHavier (imported)]

If differential sex drives are causing friction in the marriage, this I understand. Menopause and the ability of my sex drive to soldier on about ruined my marriage. My wife and I decided on castration. I was castrated a couple months ago. So far it has been wonderful. Both the wife and I love it! Early on as it is, I'm sure more things will change. I found help a lot closer than Thiland, wife was there for me, but not in the OR. I know castration affects men differently, so it may not be the best option for all couples in a similar situation, but it has sure made life better for us so far.

[10yeareunuch (imported)]

I wish that I had known about castration long before I did. My now deceased wife wasn’t interested in sex, which caused years of sexual frustration and animosity that harmed our marriage. It was only years later, when we agreed on my castration to lower my sex drive, that it improved our sexual compatibility.

Now that my current wife has gone through menopause, she is comfortable not having to worry about sexually satisfying me.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

Interesting life trajectory, 10 year. So you got cut during your first marriage and your second wife is happy about it. Would it have helped if at some point there had been a kind of formal opportunity to sit down and talk or is it one o those things that had to come about at its own speed?

[10yeareunuch (imported)]

My first wife complained about my sexual frustration and I told her that there were pills I could take to lower my libido. She answered, “Do it.” This led to my eventual castration within a year. She told me at the time I brought up my desire for

physical castration that she wouldn’t try to stop me but that it was my decision.

My current wife brought up the issue of painful penetration, knowing that my libido is reduced. She subsequently has started taking estrogen but still prefers no intercourse. I ask her about once a month if this is still what she wants and she answers, “Yep, I’m OK.”

[WheelyFixed]

Chiming in a bit... My GF was more than a bit surprised when I came out to her about wanting to be fixed... She said that she didn't really understand, and still doesn't really get why one would want to have such a thing done but was OK with it on a "Your body, Your decision" basis...

It probably didn't hurt that I'd been all but 'non-functional' in a most frustrating way for years due to my SCI, to the point where we had quit trying... She also had hit menopause almost exactly the same time I got hurt, so that took the 'kid option' off the table and greatly reduced her interest...

Her only really big ask about it was that I do it in a medically safe way - which I was inclined to do anyway so that was mostly OK with me.... However this was about the time that WPATH first released the DRAFT SOCv8, so I wasn't sure that a good medical option actually existed, so I was starting to look into the CaCl route as it looked like something that could potentially be done safely. However several of the mods and 'regulars' here convinced me to look into the TG center at the hospital where I was already getting most of my care, and I ended up being one of the early successful followers of the SOCv8 Eunuch Chapter...

I'm very glad I did, and the GF has had no complaints... We still hug and kiss some, but between all of our medical issues it is hard to do much more than that....

WheelyFixed

[Arab Nights (imported)]

Off topic, but one thing that has really impressed me in life is the number of couples that stay committed despite the slings and arrows that would have put me off back when I was a physically perfect teenager. Congrats.

[TheHavier (imported)]

As a perfectly healthy teenager I wouldn't have been castrated. As a sexually frustrated 52 year old castration was welcome relief and an improvement! I am extremely happy with the results!