Progress for a long time.

[Cleancut01 (imported)]

I have been reading and occasionally posting in this community from very close to the beginning at BME. I feel the need to post my ideas now.

I have learned much over the years here that has had a decidedly positive impact on my life. Gained knowledge about other folks lives that without this community I would have no easy access to. This has decidedly changed my perspective for the positive but we don’t talk politics here, do we.

Cleancut01’s ideas that might be helpful to you if you pursuing transition. Know yourself! Not casually, very thoroughly and from the perspective of being self-aware of how others view you. Have intimate (not expert unless you have the licensed or academic credentials) knowledge of the process you are trying to undertake. This is about what professionals working with you have to accomplish to help you. Be able to easily convey all the possible side effects of your procedure, how that could affect you and your relationships and be able to present a reasoned, understandable mitigation strategy to those to the professional you’re asking to help you. Understand possible alternatives to castration or transitions that professionals may recommend and be able to present reasoned or factual information on why you do not believe they are in your best interest. Be prepared to hear “No” a lot and often. Don’t pout, get angry, act out or try and lie your way to the result you want. It will not improve your chances at getting the result you desire. The idea of voluntary castration for gender conformation or other reasons is at best repugnant to the vast majority of society. General society cannot nor will not discuss the idea in a rational manner. The stereotypes and prejudices held in general also affect professionals working with this community. As hard as many try to be neutral and rational in their reasoning, the societal drumbeat affects their thought processes.

Why would my opinions or beliefs make a difference? Why would I write now? I am a 67-year-old straight cis white male in a 40+ year marriage who has been seeking to become a Eunuch since after the birth of our two very successful kids 33 years ago. I have been threatened with involuntary commitment, Jail, asked to leave form professional setting numerous times. Always for simply asking if it was possible for me to become a Eunuch. Please be aware all those professionals were “Trans friendly “Most had written letters for folks transitioning. I was well aware of alternative methods to accomplish my goal, but I consistently choose to do this in the system. I believe the more often this is accomplished as society requests or requires the easier it will become for the next individual. But in all this I now have a letter (form a pro that regularly reject unprepared individuals) and a surgery date of August 15. This is mainly thanks to SOC-8, my knowledge gained in how the system works, and frankly the folks on this site.

[magusuk89 (imported)]

Well said.

Wishing you all the best for 15 August!

[WheelyFixed]

Congratulations on finally getting through all the hoops! Hope all goes well on the 15th, and in the recovery afterwards...

WheelyFixed

[Losethem (imported)]

Congrats on having a date. I hope this all turns out to be what you've wished it to be over the years. Please do let us know how your progress is going, and how you feel once you've gotten to the goal.

For someone as long-term desirous of you, I'm quite confident you'll come out on the other side incredibly happy.

Good luck!

[Cleancut01 (imported)]

My feelings and desires have not changed from above but I will not be done on the 15 of Aug. My wife of 40 years and great encourager, confidant totally changed her mind after my date was set. We have returned to counseling to find out why. I still intend to achieve my goal at some point. I Just need time to find out why my life partner has made such a drastic shift in belief and thoughts. Sorry I have wasted your time if you were looking forward to reading about this moment in my life experience.

[WheelyFixed]

Sorry to hear that you have had this kind of barrier put up in front of you after so much work, but 'fecal material happens'... Hopefully you can work things out with your wife to everyone's satisfaction.

Keep good records of everything you've done so far, and hopefully you will be able to restart the process with a minimum amount of headaches when things have been worked out.

WheelyFixed

[Paolo]

You can say "shit" if you want to.

[Valery_V (imported)]

My feelings and desires have not changed from above but I will not be done on the 15 of Aug. My wife of 40 years and great encourager, confidant totally changed her mind after my date was set. We have returned to counseling to find out why. I still intend to achieve my goal at some point. I Just need time to find out why my life partner has made such a drastic shift in belief and thoughts. Sorry I have wasted your time if you were looking forward to reading about this moment in my life experience.

And I'm glad that your wife's opinion has changed and you've returned to counseling...