Saying it out loud

[curiouscat1983 (imported)]

I recently had my first session with the gender-affirming therapist I sought out to pursue an orchiectomy. For a couple weeks beforehand, I was a little nervous about saying out loud exactly what I want to someone who isn’t my wife. But when it got to the end of the first session and she asked what I wanted to work on, it felt so completely natural to say “I want to pursue an orchiectomy” - no stumbling or hesitation or embarrassment at all, just a smile! It’s a little thing, but this feels like a real, concrete step to getting to who I should be!

[WheelyFixed]

I recently had my first session with the gender-affirming therapist I sought out to pursue an orchiectomy. For a couple weeks beforehand, I was a little nervous about saying out loud exactly what I want to someone who isn’t my wife. But when it got to the end of the first session and she asked what I wanted to work on, it felt so completely natural to say “I want to pursue an orchiectomy” - no stumbling or hesitation or embarrassment at all, just a smile! It’s a little thing, but this feels like a real, concrete step to getting to who I should be!

HUGE CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Those first few steps of actually telling someone else what you want can be the hardest ones to take, good to hear that you have made them.

I remember how scary I found it, first to tell my GF, and then eventually to actually make that first call to the local TG center and ask for an appointment. It was a huge hurdle for me to actually admit my interest to someone else.... Once I made that first step the rest got much easier, at least on the medical side....

I haven't told anyone outside my medical team an my GF, and don't know if I ever will, though at times it's tempting. But 'coming out' is almost as irreversible as surgery, and I really don't see why anyone has a 'need to know'...

[wanasoso2 (imported)]

The first big step indeed. The fact that you expressed it clearly by yourself it's because it is now really clear and accepted in your mind. Living with some ambivalence is always a restriction to the real expression. A situation that I'm living as explained by my sex therapist and I'm now moved by your testimony, my hart is bouncing. You should be on the right track from now.

[curiouscat1983 (imported)]

Those first few steps of actually telling someone else what you want can be the hardest ones to take, good to hear that you have made them.

Thanks Wheely! Yeah, I thought ut might be awkward or embarrassing, but honestly it just felt liberating! And knowing that I could say it and feel good about it felt even better!

I haven't told anyone outside my medical team an my GF, and don't know if I ever will, though at times it's tempting. But 'coming out' is almost as irreversible as surgery, and I really don't see why anyone has a 'need to know'...

I think I may be very much the same, and I don’t feel much need to wave any big flags about myself - more just a quiet feeling of being at peace in my own body. But having a therapist I can really talk to about all this is such a huge, helpful thing. It feels really good.