Relationship difference between friends and family before and after modification!

[youngeunuch (imported)]

Hey everyone,

It's me Jordy again. I'd like to know how everyone's relationship with friends and family changed (if at all) post-modification (castration, penectomy, nullification etc etc). Do they know? How open are you about it? Did any of your relationship change? Did anyone looked at your differently because of it?

Please share some of your life experiences

For example, my relationship with my father and brother changed dramatically after my castration whereas my relationship with my mum, not so much. I'll elaborate below.

[Valery_V (imported)]

Hey everyone,

It's me Jordy again. I'd like to know how everyone's relationship with friends and family changed (if at all) post-modification (castration, penectomy, nullification etc etc). Do they know? How open are you about it? Did any of your relationship change? Did anyone looked at your differently because of it?

Please share some of your life experiences

For example, my relationship with my father and brother changed dramatically after my castration whereas my relationship with my mum, not so much. I'll elaborate below.

The closest relatives, of course, found out about my physical condition.

Although none of them ever questioned me personally.

But how and why it happened to me, I did not tell them.

My mother just took pity on me. The father was silent. My brother did not condemn at all and, as it seemed to me, for some reason almost envied. A friend of my mother gave me a volume of the writer Melnikov-Pechersky about Russian eunuchs of the 19th century.

I never advertised this to colleagues and outsiders. However, it was felt that some who knew me would like to know some details.

But I, as a rule, avoided frank conversations and direct questions on this topic ...

[CKAMoose (imported)]

I got castrated at the start of college, and outside of my partners none of my college friends ever really cared or minded [partners, ranged from being excited/cool about it to shock and horror, about 50/50 really].

My parents where about as upset as you would expect and are still a bit mad 3 years later, and I dont think any of my high school friends even know.

[dee2essohkay (imported)]

I believe that being castrated would be the modification with the greatest change - both physically and mentally. I was castrated almost 2 months ago and the only people who I have in my life presently, are my wife and kids. if I have changed in any way in the past 2 months it isn't very evident so I guess that's why the relationships haven't changed. but the wife and kids were accepting and supportive since before the surgery.

I'm really curious to see how my siblings will behave. they don't know I had it done and only 2 were aware that I desired it. they both had reservations and expressed that I should not do it.

to me, I am certain I see a touch of new femininity in my face, but that really could be wishful thinking on my part. I would think that if it is there, it would have a significant effect on how others relate to me. so far my immediate family has not indicated that they see it. I guess we will see over time if things change.

[ToTheQuick (imported)]

I haven't been modified yet, so apologies for bending the prompt, but I've told my family and friends about my intent to get castrated. I even had the surgery scheduled for yesterday. At first they seemed to...accept it. A very "whatever makes you happy." Even my Dad. Then, last weekend, when I was visiting my family, my mother had a breakdown. Just weeping, talking about all the things she wished she had done when I was younger so I wouldn't turn out this way (medically; I had a lot of developmental issues and she's sure if she had "fixed" those then I wouldn't want to be fixed now) and outright begging me to wait a year before I, in her words, "mutilated" myself. In order to think about it (as if I haven't been thinking about this since I was 13).

Just a shocking change to how supportive she had been a month prior.

I told her I'd postpone it for three months to give her time to come to terms with my decision. So yeah, pretty big change there.

My friends so far seem cool with it, though my best friend has been kind of poking around the issue, trying out some subtle arguments to change my mind.

I'll give an update when I do have my surgery.

[CKAMoose (imported)]

After reading some replies and talking to another friend who got castrated due to an accident, I honestly think a large amount of how people feel about it is based around how it happened. If it was due to an accident or medical reason I would imagine it would be more pitty or people being glad that you made it out alive and the like. For people who willingly got it done for no medical reason [how I got it done and how a lot of people here get it done] its a lot more "wait why?" and less accepting people getting freaked out due to it.

[Losethem (imported)]

I got castrated at the start of college, and outside of my partners none of my college friends ever really cared or minded [partners, ranged from being excited/cool about it to shock and horror, about 50/50 really].

My parents where about as upset as you would expect and are still a bit mad 3 years later, and I dont think any of my high school friends even know.

I'd imagine you're quite popular with the college ladies though, especially if the fact you're a eunuch is getting around. A guaranteed good time without worrying about a screaming bundle of joy 9 months after.

If that's the case, enjoy it! It's one of the great pleasures in life.

[Losethem (imported)]

I haven't been modified yet, so apologies for bending the prompt, but I've told my family and friends about my intent to get castrated. I even had the surgery scheduled for yesterday. At first they seemed to...accept it. A very "whatever makes you happy." Even my Dad. Then, last weekend, when I was visiting my family, my mother had a breakdown. Just weeping, talking about all the things she wished she had done when I was younger so I wouldn't turn out this way (medically; I had a lot of developmental issues and she's sure if she had "fixed" those then I wouldn't want to be fixed now) and outright begging me to wait a year before I, in her words, "mutilated" myself. In order to think about it (as if I haven't been thinking about this since I was 13).

Just a shocking change to how supportive she had been a month prior.

I told her I'd postpone it for three months to give her time to come to terms with my decision. So yeah, pretty big change there.

My friends so far seem cool with it, though my best friend has been kind of poking around the issue, trying out some subtle arguments to change my mind.

I'll give an update when I do have my surgery.

I'd likely not have postponed it, but that's me and you have to do what is right for you. If castration is right for you, and you've carefully considered it since 13 (just as I had since a child) then what is the point in waiting just to satisfy others? If your mother is upset now, she's likely to still be upset 3 months from now. She'll get past it. Others often do not understand that by us making them more comfortable, we end up suffering. I simply got to a point I wasn't willing to suffer because of others opinions about my own life, any longer. I was castrated only a couple years older than you are now, if your profile is correct. After a lifetime of wanting to do it before I did, I was very happy when I finally had my testicles removed.

I'm still very happy today.

Good luck!

[CKAMoose (imported)]

I'd imagine you're quite popular with the college ladies though, especially if the fact you're a eunuch is getting around. A guaranteed good time without worrying about a screaming bundle of joy 9 months after.

If that's the case, enjoy it! It's one of the great pleasures in life.

you know most of the people I have dated in college, even fwb, where on some form of bithcontrol like an IUD. Personally for me the best perk about it is that when I am out and about doing stuff like camping or caving I dont have to worry about that with anyone I meet or hook up with.

[ToTheQuick (imported)]

I'd likely not have postponed it, but that's me and you have to do what is right for you. If castration is right for you, and you've carefully considered it since 13 (just as I had since a child) then what is the point in waiting just to satisfy others? If your mother is upset now, she's likely to still be upset 3 months from now. She'll get past it. Others often do not understand that by us making them more comfortable, we end up suffering. I simply got to a point I wasn't willing to suffer because of others opinions about my own life, any longer. I was castrated only a couple years older than you are now, if your profile is correct. After a lifetime of wanting to do it before I did, I was very happy when I finally had my testicles removed.

I'm still very happy today.

Good luck!

You're absolutely correct. In fact, about an hour after I canceled the surgery I was like "Gah! I could have just done it in secret!" I've thought about rescheduling for sooner but the next few months have just enough going on that it would be a real pain in the balls to try and fit it in.

You're also probably correct about my mother's attitude. Still, I felt it was the right thing to do out of love for her.

But I'm glad to hear how well castration has worked for you! It's always nice to know about success stories, and it's a nice encouragement.