Need advice for a friend

[rivendale (imported)]

I have a younger friend I have known since he came out to me over 2 years ago. He began his transgender journey very soon after. His mother was supportive, but he wants to move faster than she is willing to allow him to subject himself to. It has been an enormous strain on their relationship, bordering on total estrangement.

The transgender community has abandoned him due to his age, and while I was working abroad for 4 months, he became romantically involved with a man. The man introduced him to a couple of people he had provided the orchidectomy for when they were his age, and had progressed very differently physically from those who had waited until they were older in to have it done. He became obsessed and combative about it.

There was nothing I could do from where I was while I was gone but I chose to contact his mother about it to intervene since I could not be there. The man had relationships with some in the TG community and they would not intervene. By the time I returned from my absence, my friend had moved out a couple of time to be with the man and another person his age, destroying his relationship with his mother in the process, and refusing to communicate with me because I was the one that got involved. A week ago, he called out of the blue, saying he is having the orchidectomy during the upcoming spring break along with the other person. He may be open to having some sense talked into him. He says he has seen videos of it being done to others like him and it makes him very nervous.

I want to stop this and give him options to consider. Does hormone therapy work to stop the ravages of puberty? He wants to develop feminine features instead of let puberty take its toll on his face and body, and the man claims it is easier now than later, and that he is already too late to take hormones to stop puberty, which really surprised me since neither him nor the other person have any dramatic changes yet at all.

How do I honor his journey but still do what is right? Resources? Links?

[Cseriess (imported)]

Surely, even in Newfoundland there are LGBTQ services. Contact them. I am sure you could contact a help line in the USA. Sounds like he is contemplating a very dangerous action. Report the adult for child endangerment.

[HumanFly (imported)]

Is this a minor? Who would perform an orchiectomy on a child for non-medical reasons? This should be reported to the police.

[Paolo]

This whole post sounds off to me.

I have to agree, if the person in this case is minor, then there are quite a few (it reads like) that need to be turned in.

I think some clarification is in order here.

[rogerwpbfl (imported)]

This whole post sounds off to me.

I have to agree, if the person in this case is minor, then there are quite a few (it reads like) that need to be turned in.

I think some clarification is in order here.

My flags go up every time a post like this surfaces from a member who’s been part of our community less than 24 hours. But that’s just me.

[Losethem (imported)]

This one makes me ask, if this is so important to the friend, why are they not the one asking?

I'm strongly feeling this is the same person I've run into elsewhere, and I posed the same question. For me this is either not true, or the person is masquerading behind this "friend" wanting the information for themselves. Unfortunately since they've approached it this way, my trust in them is already gone.

[rogerwpbfl (imported)]

This one makes me ask, if this is so important to the friend, why are they not the one asking?

I'm strongly feeling this is the same person I've run into elsewhere, and I posed the same question. For me this is either not true, or the person is masquerading behind this "friend" wanting the information for themselves. Unfortunately since they've approached it this way, my trust in them is already gone.

Me and LT in agreement. Mark the date!