Coming Out

[Qunuch81 (imported)]

I just had a drink with a straight, male friend who I'd been considering coming out to as a eunuch/wannabe nullo. I managed to muster up the courage to tell him I'd been castrated voluntarily. It was great; he was very receptive. I wasn't sure if I was going to tell him that I want to take the next step, but he asked me if I was planning to do anything else, which I REALLY appreciated since it showed he was legitimately interested and supportive. Unsurprisingly, he found penectomy a bit harder to process on a purely logistical level, but he really understood the impulse to modify your body to better reflect who you are and how you want to appear. I'm just so happy to have shared this with someone outside the community, I needed a place to cheer.

[Hash (imported)]

I think more men have thought about castration and penectomy then we could ever imagine. Yes, most would probably not take the step that you and I have, but they've thought about it, even though it might have been brief or they quickly put it out of their minds.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

My experience has been most staight men can t handle even learning a buddy is gay, much less that he is a eunuch or nullo by choice.

Even though most men are curious or even turned on ( to their own surprise and confusion ) by castration, they fear it. Losing their penis is like losing their face to lots of men, since it is such a huge part of their own masculine self image.

Most men can handle the idea of some other man needing a medically necessary castration or losing his balls or penis to disease or injury. That cannot be helped or avoided. So there is no choice to do it voluntarily.

It is a man eagerly choosing to lose his own dick or balls that freaks most men out.

[Jan_Linde (imported)]

When I told my boyfriend just over a year ago that I had a long standing desire for nullification and would happily have had my nuts and cock taken off at puberty he was not fazed by it at all. Although he wouldn't want penectomy for himself and thought his potential de-balling unlikely but not impossible in the future he could understand the desire to be cut and see the advantages. He also said he thought a eunuch or nullo with a good body would be incredibly hot. In the event he helped me with stage one of my emasculation, I am very glad to be castrated and he finds physical relations with a nutless guy highly erotic. All my close friends know that I'm a eunuch and I've not had any negative reactions, the general consensus is that modifying your body to reflect how you feel on the inside is a perfectly valid thing to do. For me that's means getting nullified smooth. I expect some consternation from some people but I intend to be open about it in private.

Jan

[justine77 (imported)]

I never had any problem or worries about revealing myself to be a eunuch. I was a bit nervous about it at first but once I'd adjusted to having been cut and particularly after I had the empty scrotum removed I was perfectly OK about being castrated and didn't mind if other people knew and in some cases let people see. I think a few were a bit surprised but I can't say I got any negative reactions. Being a young androgyne and sometimes dressing as a girl was quite different though, I got a lot of verbal abuse and some physical abuse for that.

Justine x

[Cseriess (imported)]

I am sad anyone head to face any for being themselves.

[Cseriess (imported)]

And I am also sad I didn't check the auto correct! I am sad anyone has to face any form of abuse for being themselves.

[Brycenosak (imported)]

As soon as I knew my surgery date, 16 years ago, I told my close friends and family. My outward presentation hasnt changed and I sometimes wonder how many of my friends even remember? On having the prosthetics removed, I guess I have been, visually at least, castrated twice? Its only since removing my scrotum that I feel really comfortable with being a eunuch. Its unmistakable that I have no balls, even at the most casual glance. The sensation of 'nothing there' is a continual reminder that I am happy with. Being told by a male and a female that I look 'hot', only serves to reinforce the joy of accepting yourself. Not that I will shout it to the world. I think I mean coming out to yourself, is a good start. I love that I am who I am.

[GruntFLA (imported)]

It took me over a decade just to come out to myself. It’s been a long process just accepting that becoming a eunuch is what I want and need. I can’t imagine coming out to friends or family.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

The lucky people do have close, genuine friends who accept all of their many facets.

But more often a lot of people will pretend to your face, but act very different when you are not there to see their attitudes and how they act with other people. Just saying, be very careful of who you trust with anything that is important to you. Choose carefully. Information is power. Be wise in who you giive that power to.