Changes with time

[Arab Nights (imported)]

I noticed on the 3rd anniversary post that there were several members 3 to 13 years in. Interesting to find out how people's reaction to their castration changes over time and I don't want to hijack another's thread, so will start a new one. I am pretty certain there are guys who wanted it, got it and are happy and never waivered. Probably some who wanted it and now think it was a mistake. Some who did not want it but got it by accident or medical necessity and resented it but slowly have come to find it was positive.

Anyone care to weigh in on their thoughts over time? Does sexual orientation make a difference? Does having group or partner support make a difference?

Thanks.

[sparkey49 (imported)]

I am at 5 years and have no regrets and I have a very supportive wife which is very helpful.

[justine77 (imported)]

I was castrated just over 3 years ago after an accident. For the first year I found it very difficult to adjust to not having any balls even though I ID'ed as androgyne and was already a bit feminine. Another 6 months on and I accepted that I was a eunuch and there was no going back. Altough I took T replacement for a year I still felt less and less male. Now after 3 years I consider my gender ID as eunuch. My physical appearance is feminized eunuch which matches how I feel about myself internally.

Justine x

The psychological side of this is complex so I will think about it and elaborate later

[Begoneboy (imported)]

At 25 years since removal, time has brought about many changes. Ok, there have been changes to the body and perhaps the way of thinking or looking at things. But then again, age also brings on changes over time. And while being eunuch or nullo may be in the infancy of being acceptable by society the politics of it has not changed. Sure, one State out of all of them has allowed eunuchs to change the sex on their identification to non binary or some such wording. However the U.S. government still requires either male or female without exception.

Personally I have become much more passive over time. Make no mistake, While I am still a rebellious redneck on so many fronts I have become way more passive in my outlook. Not to mention much more passionate and sensual on the romance front. Sex itself has changed for me and I've grown to love it since I have become far more tender and caring towards it with partners over time.

Desires have changed from the "leading the charge mentality" to simply enjoying the ride on every front. My choice and use of clothing has changed. My choice in the people I have surrounded myself with has changed as well. I would never want to go back to my previous form. Through this journey I had my one long term relationship of who "until he passed" was always supportive and that made me feel wanted. Feeling wanted I suspect was one of the many changes over time that I noticed. Prior to being cut I never had a consideration of any need for feeling wanted. Since being cut over time I noticed within myself the need for feeling wanted growing. On every level. So yes, many changes came with being cut and they were all welcome changes to me. My one and only regret is not having it done many years earlier.

[Lesley (imported)]

Begoneboy,

Your yearning to feel wanted makes me think that the Indian practice of eunuchs living in households together, would be a good idea! There the like-minded and physical similar could have a haven from a hostile world and develop their and expand their gender and possible their sexuality.

[madnomadtoo (imported)]

Begoneboy,

Your yearning to feel wanted makes me think that the Indian practice of eunuchs living in households together, would be a good idea! There the like-minded and physical similar could have a haven from a hostile world and develop their and expand their gender and possible their sexuality.

Only if they squeeze the toothpaste tube correctly.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

And they agree whether the toilet paper plays out across the top or down the back. You know, important shit.

[Begoneboy (imported)]

Lesley, you and I both understand that the hiras of India are a subculture to themselves and considered a much lower part of India's caste system of society. They are considered a plight on society and only considered useful for some religious concepts and indeed partly a form of witchery. There is no being wanted other than perhaps physical needs for the hiras. They are not free and only find solace among themselves for in the general population are looked down upon by society. After many years with my partner/best friend who always made me feel wanted I miss the feeling since he passed away. I would never confuse my desire to feel wanted with anything physical as within the communes of the hirah or however it's spelled. The vast majority of hirah are fully intact males with a huge percentage having HIV and/or AIDS. Most die young due to malnutrition or physical abuse. I would not desire to be a part of that system as I so value my freedom and independence. I know the Hirah of India because I have spent time visiting with them during my many travels and their lifestyle is not my lifestyle in any way.