Discussing Sex Stuff with Boys.

[Atreyu69 (imported)]

Due to the transgender movement and the internet boys are clearly becoming aware of castration at an earlier age. On those occasions when a boy has asked me about matters pertaining to sex I'm a bit uncomfortable as I'm afraid the conversation might move on to questions about castration.

I'm not sure why this makes me uneasy. I suppose I'm afraid that I might say something that inadvertently arouses the boy's interest or that I might accidently "out" myself by appearing to be too knowledgeable on the subject. For these reason I avoid talking about anything remotely sexual.

Has anyone else had the same problem as I have?

[Decimus. (imported)]

I rather see it as a boy's right to be aware of the effects of castration before his voice breaks. There's nothing special or sacred about testicles or testosterone, and puberty is one of the worst periods of any male's life, with emotional mood swings, overaggressive self-assertion due to insecurity and power fantasies, and general awkwardness - they should know there's another path.

Besides, if it bothers anyone that you're discussing "sex" with a boy, you can kindly remind them that there is no more anti-sexual subject than the complete loss of virility and sex drive. My $0.02 anyway.

[Peter47-NL (imported)]

@ Atreyu69 and Decimus

In general I don't see a problem to talk with a guy/boy about sex or even castration. It depends on the situation, the mood of both of you. What do you like to tell the boy? Is he eager to know about sex and castration? You can talk with him in a general unpersonal way or in a personal way. It is OK that a boy knows about castration, even in a more personal way too.

But I can understand Atreyu69's hesitations very well too. Although experimenting with Androcur, you didn't take a final decision about a castration. Me too, I was rather reserved and afraid to talk about the subject. On the other hand I wanted also some guys to know about my desire to get castrated. But when I told one it was a relief and understanding that helped me further on = Is that all there is? But I'll mostly will keep it silent for myself, waiting for for the right moment and right person to tell.

[Freddyjack (imported)]

Anywhere in the u.s. its illegal to discuss sex with anyone under 18 without parental consent. I'd have someone arrested for talking sex with either of my boys. who knows what motives are in the minds of unknown adults.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

Anywhere in the u.s. its illegal to discuss sex with anyone under 18 without parental consent. I'd have someone arrested for talking sex with either of my boys. who knows what motives are in the minds of unknown adults.

It is not illegal to discuss sexual facts and information with people under the age of 18. It is illegal to have sex or commit sexual acts with people under 18 if you are an adult. Schools teach sex education and anti sexual abuse materials at younger and younger ages. Even pre school day care now teaches about the anatomy differences between males and females and good touch bad touch ideas to pre schoolers.

Talking about sexual matters with kids and teens is necessary. They live in the real world, not fantasyland and then miraculously know everything on their 18th birthday. They hit puberty and can engage in sex and have babies way younger than 18.

There is a huge difference morally and legally between answering questions and giving correct factual information verses trying to seduce a young person into sexual activity with yourself or others. That is the legal and moral line to not cross. Giving information is completely legal AND moral to do.

Most parents don t deal well with their own children s sexual urges, growth, and indentities, especially the younger maturers who hit puberty very young. Most kids and teens are not comfortable in becoming sexual in their parents eyes or revealing how sexual they are to parents. Its far easier for most kids and teens to talk and ask each other or older kids, or siblings, or strangers than to ask and talk to their parents about sex.

Its cruel to pretend people are not sexual and don t think and feel before they turn 18. Its every willing adult s job to safely and morally try to help guide under aged kids and prepare them to become adults far faster than most people expect. I hit puberty at age 9. I could father babies at age 9. Its nonsensical to pretend I wasn t a sexual male and a thinking person with questions, feelings, and sexual activities from age 9 to age 18.

I would have loved being able to be sexual with adults of my choice when I was under 18. But I knew it would get them in tons of trouble if I ever did. And the smart ones never would have anything to do with a jail bait under aged kid or teen. Its really a rotten mess for kids to be so denied their sexuality based on an arbitrary age of 18. Some are ready for sex sooner than 18 and can handle it. History and other cultures prove that 18 is too old for most people to become sexual. Most people become sexual far younger than 18. The laws are lacking reality. The age of consent should be lowered to reflect reality and biology.

[alexsmith (imported)]

It is not illegal to discuss sexual facts and information with people under the age of 18. It is illegal to have sex or commit sexual acts with people under 18 if you are an adult. Schools teach sex education and anti sexual abuse materials at younger and younger ages. Even pre school day care now teaches about the anatomy differences between males and females and good touch bad touch ideas to pre schoolers.

Talking about sexual matters with kids and teens is necessary. They live in the real world, not fantasyland and then miraculously know everything on their 18th birthday. They hit puberty and can engage in sex and have babies way younger than 18.

There is a huge difference morally and legally between answering questions and giving correct factual information verses trying to seduce a young person into sexual activity with yourself or others. That is the legal and moral line to not cross. Giving information is completely legal AND moral to do.

Most parents don t deal well with their own children s sexual urges, growth, and indentities, especially the younger maturers who hit puberty very young. Most kids and teens are not comfortable in becoming sexual in their parents eyes or revealing how sexual they are to parents. Its far easier for most kids and teens to talk and ask each other or older kids, or siblings, or strangers than to ask and talk to their parents about sex.

Its cruel to pretend people are not sexual and don t think and feel before they turn 18. Its every willing adult s job to safely and morally try to help guide under aged kids and prepare them to become adults far faster than most people expect. I hit puberty at age 9. I could father babies at age 9. Its nonsensical to pretend I wasn t a sexual male and a thinking person with questions, feelings, and sexual activities from age 9 to age 18.

I would have loved being able to be sexual with adults of my choice when I was under 18. But I knew it would get them in tons of trouble if I ever did. And the smart ones never would have anything to do with a jail bait under aged kid or teen. Its really a rotten mess for kids to be so denied their sexuality based on an arbitrary age of 18. Some are ready for sex sooner than 18 and can handle it. History and other cultures prove that 18 is too old for most people to become sexual. Most people become sexual far younger than 18. The laws are lacking reality. The age of consent should be lowered to reflect reality and biology.

I completely agree with you, especially with your last point. Age of consent laws are totally arbitrary and often tyrannical. But try telling that to most people in a country like America; they will hang you!

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

Circumcision, laws, morality, monogamy, marriage, and most of the constraints on our masculine sexuality are designed to control and de sex men and boys. The age of consent laws are designed to deny males sex right when our teen hormones and sexual abilities are peaking and awesome. Its neutering by rules and social constraints that harm males in every case.

Yes, it prevents lots of teen pregnancies as its designed to do. But it wrecks all the gay, bi, and non reproductive sex for males by design too. AIDS very conveiniently appeared just as male gay sex was finally getting into full bloom in the US. How conveinient of timing for the anti gay sex forces to kill off that sexual revolution so brutally.

[Wolf-Pup (imported)]

When I was a boy, talking about sex was about SEX and girls. Castration never came into it. I don't know why it would come up unless a specific boy had an interest in it. Much more likely a boy might be gay than looking to be castrated.

I really believe some people on here forget this is a niche community and not routine thought.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

Farm and ranch boys are all exposed to castration long before puberty and it doesn t traumatize them. Other boys know and hear about it in the bible stories and hearing the news and stories from other kids. Now the commie government is trying to cut the balls off every kid s male dogs by city codes and boys see those empty dog scrotums every day.

Any boy with minimal observation skills will ask why dogs get their balls cut off at some point in growing up. Its a common practice in pets and all livestock.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

When I was a boy, talking about sex was about SEX and girls. Castration never came into it. I don't know why it would come up unless a specific boy had an interest in it. Much more likely a boy might be gay than looking to be castrated.

I really believe some people on here forget this is a niche community and not routine thought.

I think it would get around to some questions about castration if a kid finds you to be a trusted source of information and started asking you all the things he s not comfortable asking other people, like his parents and teachers

If the man he s asking is a eunuch or he is gay or enjoys uncommon sexual practices, then the usual kid questions of what do you do ? Think about ? Get personal real fast. And unless you lie in anseering him, you need to answer with age appropriate and safe answers that match his age, knowledge, and maturity as well as give you some privacy.

A good example is circumcision. I was radically cut as a newborn, and there s no hiding or missing it in showers and locker rooms. Any kid who s not blind can see I m very much circumcised. Naturally that leads to questions from the uncut kids and some cut kids. My answers vary based on age and on if the kid asking and the kids hearing my answer are cut or uncut. I don t want any kid to feel bad about being cut or uncut. For young kids, I explain I was circed as a newborn and didn t have any choice in it. The next question is always why did you get circed ? I answer that parents decide and some like the way circed penises look and some like the look of uncut instead. I leave out the lame excuse of it being easier to clean since that s proven bullshit and no uncut kid should ever be told his foreskin is dirty or unclean or ugly. That s usually enough answer to satisfy a young boy. Teens and men get longer answers with more details and that I d prefer to be uncut, but too late for that, and no medical necessity to get circed exists since even phimosis can just be stretched out and solved without cutting off the whole foreskin.

In the case of being gay or a eunuch, it depends on how much you feel comfortable revealing and who is asking and what situation appropriate answer is best for that asker s age and knowledge level. I agree with Ateryu69 that you don t want to start a fetish in a young impressionable mind or distort their concept of what s normal or good. I d just keep the answers general and non personal to keep away from lying or revealing too much by saying, most men, the common thing is, most, usually men, and similar to answer in the whole population instead of you personally. Of course, if you are naked and the kid is looking at your empty scrotum, there s no way to avoid his questions except to either answer him in age appropriate terms or gently tell him to ask his dad. Most dads wouldn t know what to answer about a castrated man his son sees in the locker room showers except it was medically needed. That kid might ask you more detailed questions the next time he sees you naked or dressed.