Seeking thoughts of Eunuchs, Nullos, and Penectomized, and serious wannabes

[Begoneboy (imported)]

As far as I am concerned, I only have a gender when I'm filling out a form or using a public bathroom. In those cases, I prefer "Other" and "Gender Neutral" respectively.

Individuals may wear whatever clothes they like, use whichever bathroom they feel most comfortable in, and insofar as practicality allows, be treated however they prefer.

I don't understand exactly what the terms "gender" or "gender identity" mean, but they seem to be very confusing words that mean different things to different people. I don't think I will ever need to know what they mean.

The least grating term that another person has used to describe me is "not man not woman." The "non-binary" label is in theory innocous, and should simply refer to the regular word non-binary--neither male nor female, or not solely male or female, but not at all describing exactly what. It could be anything. However, the word seems to be very confusing to most people, and has become a label that some take to mean something specific. Additionally, I could say that my gender is extremely binary--it is 0, or false.

Overall, I'm not fond of strangers using unfamiliar words to describe me in my presence, and if someone asked me what my "gender" or "gender identity" was out of curiousity, they may have better luck extracting such a thing from a concrete wall. The wonderful psychologist who wrote my first surgery referral used "he" pronouns without ever asking me about it, and I never noticed until the second practicioner I saw pointed that out. The second practicioner had me fill out an insurance form when I first came in, and told me I didn't have to fill out anything I found uncomfortable or confusing. Naturally, I skipped right over the pronouns box. I later found out she didn't notice, when she called me asking what pronoun she should use for me in the referral. I told her I didn't mind, and she accepted that with some confusion and told me she'd use whatever seemed fitting. Apparently, she eventually decided on "they."

It doesn't matter one bit what somebody refers to me as. My preference is simply calling me by my name without the Mr, Mrs, he, she or whatever. We all have a name and the most respectful way of referring to or about a person is simply to use their name.

[Dekeldoh (imported)]

It doesn't matter one bit what somebody refers to me as. My preference is simply calling me by my name without the Mr, Mrs, he, she or whatever. We all have a name and the most respectful way of referring to or about a person is simply to use their name.

I agree completely. Growing up, I hardly ever even heard people refer to me as "he." My family and those otherwise involved with me always referred to me by name.

[neonstad (imported)]

Chromosomes aside, I identify as a non-male. And despite the sex designation on my driver's license, I am proceeding in the process of "deconstructing" my gender status as female to the extent possible. I long wanted to be liberated from my male apparatus; alas, when I became a client (albeit "guinea pig" is a more apt description) at the University of Minnesota's gender dysphoria clinic in 1988, I was confronted with a grand total of two choices: I could either continue to suffer as is with a male sexual anatomy, or I could contort my "self" into a female gender identity. Desperate for surgical intervention, I chose the latter option. A quarter-century later, I have at most, only a vague template of a gender identity as a "woman". Not that there's anything wrong with being a woman, or a man, but I've moved on in how I think of myself and who I am and who I am not. I'm at peace with what's down below, but I hope to get top surgery when I save up the cash.

Maybe at this stage in my life I would best be described as a "Neo-Nullo".

[neonstad (imported)]

I like your statement. "Just be yourself; everyone else is taken." --- Oscar Wilde.

[gay2girl (imported)]

Genetic male trying to be masculine but becoming gradually feminized. My balls are are gone so I if I'm honest about it my gender is eunuch

Is that because you are not on t??

I felt future was uncertain as a eunuch, so embraced my female identity and have "presented" as female since a year or so after castration.

[Rafaella (imported)]

Hi gay2girl, I've been on T replacement from the word go. Unfortunately for me it doesn't work the same as T from the balls. I've got energy, good fitness and a strong libido but I struggle to get an erection and can't always keep it up. Psychologically I can feel myself becoming feminized.

[gay2girl (imported)]

Hi gay2girl, I've been on T replacement from the word go. Unfortunately for me it doesn't work the same as T from the balls. I've got energy, good fitness and a strong libido but I struggle to get an erection and can't always keep it up. Psychologically I can feel myself becoming feminized.

Sorry to hear that. Seems like you'll find your cock getting smaller and erections harder so you can't penetrate any more, but no doubt you'll find other ways to give please to a partner. Just remember there's alternatives to straight women.

[Rafaella (imported)]

Hi gay2girl, you are quite right. Luckily for me I have a girlfriend who is OK with dating a castrated guy. If I can't penetrate for long enough for her to climax, then she absolutely loves oral sex. She has told many times she likes eunuch boys better than intact males.

[DifferentZach (imported)]

Because of my peculiar circumstances, I’m sort of taking a different path to the same place many others here are taking, or have already taken. I’m a penectomized male advancing toward castration which will make me fully nullified, so I guess my I would/should be “nullo” or a “masculine eunuch.”

I don’t think that’s necessarily an oxymoron.

Zach

[Begoneboy (imported)]

Because of my peculiar circumstances, I’m sort of taking a different path to the same place many others here are taking, or have already taken. I’m a penectomized male advancing toward castration which will make me fully nullified, so I guess my I would/should be

“nullo” or a “masculine eunuch.”

I don’t think that’s necessarily an oxymoron.

Zach

Zach: your story has been an interesting one to follow. And rest assured, throughout history there have been many masculine eunuchs. You can be also if that is your desire. The secret is to seek advice along the way from the medical community. (which is something I did not do) If I had my life may have turned out differently. I'm not complaining mind you and rather like my life and all the experiences I've enjoyed along the way. Even the unpleasant ones as those made my resolve. Sure, I'm not exactly masculine in looks. But I'm still me and you can always be who/what you want if you don't give up. You're posts have indicated a lot of strength throughout your life. Keep with it and it'll just get better.