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[Teachmywife (imported)]

A point in a past post was that news/newspaper organizations are not here to report the news, they are here to make money. They make money by selling advertisements. Advertisers want eyeballs and the news organizations get those by headlining rules like 'if it bleeds it leads.' I write as a hobby and I agree with that. Periodically there will be some wave sweep over the world like the current one of harrassment and bullying that has eyeball grabbing stories. Personally I think the current issues need airing, but my point is we tend to go overboard. What did Lorenna Bobbitt and scattered cases thru the years have to do with the lives of millions of men and women? What do 20 or 40 headlines in Hollywood or Washington have to do with my personal life? Not much. More of running joke with couples with senses of humor.

Once the internet came along and you could connect with men who have castration fantasies/reality, it was interesting to me the number who would not even tell their wife because they were afraid of her reaction. In my old age I am still trying to understand myself and life. Right now I am doing a series of webinars on enneagram types and how, really deep down below the subconscious there is a core good/bad programming that runs us. It is amazing how often I do a LOL because it absolutely hits the nail on the head. Same for my wife. The bad side would have a story line like: "How bad am I? I am so bad that nobody could ever love me." That is the deep core where personal insults can stick even if you breezily wave them off as ridiculous. I am not a shrink and maybe one or two here would have some comments, but I do wonder if some of the story line that you have to keep it to yourself, even from you wife and closest female friends, does not ultimately come from that core programming.

Obviously you do not march up to every female at work and ask her to castrate you, but that does not mean you have to keep it absolutely to yourself as your guilty secret. In my life there are maybe 5-10 females or maybe a few more who know my fetish. I even got a small cloth sack with two nuts inside for Christmas from a married female friend from high school. I am very active in my profession and in my community and have never found had an issue with being open with select female friends. That has gotten me over the guilt stage to where I now acccept it as just a part of me.

Good information, thank you.

[notsomanly (imported)]

You have a good point. My first sexual relationship was with another boy. While we never progressed to anal intercourse we did about everything else. We were just extremely horny and needed an outlet. I became disenchanted largely due to guilt. I'm certain that, absent guilt, we would have continued and gone further. We weren't gay because we weren't in love.

Maybe we should go back to what the ancient Greeks and Romans already knew and practiced with their men. Make it culturally approved for males to walk into any men s bathroom or locker room or similar male only places to enjoy gay sex as openly and guilt free as we piss in public men s rooms. Let the extra horny males service, enjoy, and exhaust each other voluntarily and 24 hours a day with no police chasing and arresting them for relieving a very natural male need and desire, especially for younger males lacking wives and ever eager and willing to have sex girlfriends. Males can enjoy their higher sex drives together.

You don t hear of much sexual harrassment or rape where men can empty their balls as much as they want with each other. Then their testosterone can be super high and just enjoy it with other horny males of their choices. The under aged jail bait would need to service each other to prevent those problems from always ruining it for everyone else

[notsomanly (imported)]

I don't think testosterone is the only factor, but it is a powerful hormone that can tip the balance toward abusive behavior as long as we can rationalize it. There is no way to tell what dropping T levels in a population would do to male behavior other than large-scale testing.

I am not certain the cause is testosterone, as much as arrogant misuse of power with impunity, and the lack of basic value for the dignity and respect toward others. Testosterone is an easy excuse for lack of self-control and self-responsibility for one' selfish actions.

While public castration may not be a deterrant, it would send a strong consequence message to many men who value their balls and manhood over dignity and respect toward others.

You surely have one thing correct--we are in a totally different generation than In which I grew up, whereby the dignity and respect for women and other men was taught as a cherished value personal characteristic, and our character should be protected from self damage and destruction, as we can seldom recover in many ways from character damage.

[Losethem (imported)]

You have a good point. My first sexual relationship was with another boy. While we never progressed to anal intercourse we did about everything else. We were just extremely horny and needed an outlet. I became disenchanted largely due to guilt. I'm certain that, absent guilt, we would have continued and gone further. We weren't gay because we weren't in love.

Love has nothing to do with sexual orientation. A straight man can experiment with the same sex at a young age but it wouldn't make him gay if ultimately he starts forming relationships exclusively with women. Same for a gay man the other direction. Love has nothing to do with it.

[nutless1 (imported)]

That sounds like gay bathhouse experiences prior to the advent of HIVS/AIDS in the early 1980s had devastating results in the gay community. I believe I am alive and HIV/AIDS-free today only because I stopped such activity because widespread HIV/AIDS outbreaks in our gay community..

You have a good point. My first sexual relationship was with another boy. While we never progressed to anal intercourse we did about everything else. We were just extremely horny and needed an outlet. I became disenchanted largely due to guilt. I'm certain that, absent guilt, we would have continued and gone further. We weren't gay because we weren't in love.

[notsomanly (imported)]

Hey, this is fantasy. STDs will have been eradicated!

That sounds like gay bathhouse experiences prior to the advent of HIVS/AIDS in the early 1980s had devastating results in the gay community. I believe I am alive and HIV/AIDS-free today only because I stopped such activity because widespread HIV/AIDS outbreaks in our gay community..

[Jorge2008 (imported)]

There's an interesting thing I've noticed: most of the young men today who identify as homosexual actually have had a sexual experience with a woman, too. I.e. gay men are immeasurably more willing to ''experiment'' with the non-preferred gender compared with straight men.

Love has nothing to do with sexual orientation. A straight man can experiment with the same sex at a young age but it wouldn't make him gay if ultimately he starts forming relationships exclusively with women. Same for a gay man the other direction. Love has nothing to do with it.

[Losethem (imported)]

There's an interesting thing I've noticed: most of the young men today who identify as homosexual actually have had a sexual experience with a woman, too. I.e. gay men are immeasurably more willing to ''experiment'' with the no

t-preferred sex compared with straight men.

I'd say it's a wash, myself. Not sure. I'd think in the past years where it was more expected a man would always be with a woman (and vice-versa) that gay people were more inclined to sleep with members of the opposite sex, just because society expected them to.

In my case it only took two times of me taking my skin boat to tuna town before I realized that wasn't for me. I have not been with a woman since.

[Paolo]

You never know until you try.

[Losethem (imported)]

You never know until you try.

Strangely, she's a "devout Christian" now and often tells me I'm going to hell. I often tell her in response I only ever slept with one woman and she turned me gay.