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[Losethem (imported)]

Thank you and everyone else for your comments and advice. As far as why or for whom I am doing it, functionally it is for her, I love sex myself. But I am driving her crazy, and she don’t trust me around other women or traveling by myself anymore, and actually for good reason. It’s also for me in that if she helps me to get it done the way a want, I get to live out my greatest lifelong fantasy. At this point in my life, especially with the availability of Depo Testosterone I think I can do without my balls. Even if I am as horny as ever with the injections, she will stop worrying about me having girlfriends because she is a farm girl and she understands that castrated animals lose their need for sex. In a way, I will be free because she will stop being paranoid and watching me like a hawk. Anyway, some of my motivations are altruistic but some are selfish. So I am human. Again thank you for the info.

If the idea is you're losing your balls so your wife can trust you, then you decide to take testosterone after, I'd say don't do it. The effect you're going for is only achieved if you do not take testosterone after you get castrated. Otherwise, there is no point to it, unless you just really wish to have your balls cut off.

[OneBallBoi (imported)]

Having seen what has happened in America in the last month, I would say, don't trust any woman. You do the least little things and you are charged with harassment. This past month has really made an impression to me. People from everywhere coming out with Sexual Harassment that happened 20-30 years ago. I know where I have to stand. I ain't taking no chances. My sister in law says the same thing, "Be careful, don't trust anyone anymore." She has a point. Be careful! I think this past month gives us reason, "Why should we have a wife at all.?" And it gives more reason to become a Eunuch. Get rid of the sexual desires and the reason to touch another woman at all. I really think the world would be a lot better place if all men were castrated!

[DeaconBlues (imported)]

Having seen what has happened in America in the last month, I would say, don't trust any woman. You do the least little things and you are charged with harassment. This past month has really made an impression to me. People from everywhere coming out with Sexual Harassment that happened 20-30 years ago. I know where I have to stand. I ain't taking no chances. My sister in law says the same thing, "Be careful, don't trust anyone anymore." She has a point. Be careful!

Not to hijack the thread or get too far off the topic of discussion.... But I must strongly agree with you on that point! When I consider the recent spate of sexual harassment cases, and some of the "victims" who had on the surface at least appeared to be very friendly with their harassing "predators," women who had continued to be friendly, sent "selfies" and letters and such to these "harassers" and then out of the blue claim that "thirty some odd years ago, that pervert touched my breast!" Oh MY GOD! I don't EVER want to be alone with anyone, male, female, or ambiguous, unless I have my own security cameras and audio recording of all the events. I am not (and never will be) a "high profile" sort, not a senator, not a major media mogul, but everyone who has even a meager income is a target for a law suit these days. Your sister is right, "don't trust anyone these days."

[Teachmywife (imported)]

Having seen what has happened in America in the last month, I would say, don't trust any woman. You do the least little things and you are charged with harassment. This past month has really made an impression to me. People from everywhere coming out with Sexual Harassment that happened 20-30 years ago. I know where I have to stand. I ain't taking no chances. My sister in law says the same thing, "Be careful, don't trust anyone anymore." She has a point. Be careful!

Great point. I’m losing hope for human race in general. All I can say is us humans are stupid! No, not “I think therefore I am” the only truth I know at this point is “humans are stupid!”

[SplitDik (imported)]

Not to hijack the thread or get too far off the topic of discussion.... But I must strongly agree with you on that point! When I consider the recent spate of sexual harassment cases, and some of the "victims" who had on the surface at least appeared to be very friendly with their harassing "predators," women who had continued to be friendly, sent "selfies" and letters and such to these "harassers" and then out of the blue claim that "thirty some odd years ago, that pervert touched my breast!" Oh MY GOD! I don't EVER want to be alone with anyone, male, female, or ambiguous, unless I have my own security cameras and audio recording of all the events. I am not (and never will be) a "high profile" sort, not a senator, not a major media mogul, but everyone who has even a meager income is a target for a law suit these days. Your sister is right, "don't trust anyone these days."

Sorry but since the thread is already hijacked...

I have to strongly DISAGREE with the sentiment expressed here. None of the recent cases are "sexual harassment" -- they are sexual assault. This isn't about some construction workers whistling as a girl walks by but about guys forceably restraining, unezpectedly exposing themselves, drugging girls, coercing with implied threats to employment, and even actual rape. Calling it sexual harassment is seriously underplaying it.

While I also believe that there are women who will falsely accuse, and others who will regret what they did and change their tune, all of the cases in the news are extremely credible -- you don't have 50+ professional women come forward with consistent stories without a strong likelihood of truth to them.

If you don't understand why victims don't come forward until years later, you need to think about it harder (no pun intended). Even guys have been victimized. Imagine growing up acting and getting a chance to be in a movie and the producer calls you to dinner to give you acting advice and then he corners you in a hall and makes you watch him masturbate into a flower pot... first of all you know it is his word versus yours, secondly you know the guy is immensely rich and has all sorts of lawyers, further you know he can single-handedly ruin all your dreams, and lastly you know there are people who will question whether you were somehow leading him on... It is entirely normal and fully expected that most sexual assault victims don't come forward until decades later. I personally don't understand it because I'm never victimized, frankly if a guy did that to me he'd literally be dead on the spot (I hate predators of all kinds, don't think they have the right to live); however I understand that I have a lot of power (I'm physically intimidating, quite wealthy, and very good at getting my way) whereas there are lots of people who are meek, poor, physically small, etc. who simply don't have the wherewithal to stand up for themselves.

Geraldo made a lame comment about "criminalizing courtship" and you guys are hinting that you're at risk of your intentions being mis-interpreted but honestly the things these guys did (and by the way they've mostly admitted it) is not even remotely connected to "courtship". Have you ever worked in an office where a senior member (no pun intended) might be fully naked when you walked in? Charlie Rose admits this (claims he had to change in his office or some BS). Have you ever worked in an office where the guy was masturbating under the table during meetings?

I have several women who work for me, and I of course take care to never spend time alone with them that isn't on camera. I'm not stupid to think that false claims can't happen.

But please do not lump in these serial sexual predators with the guys that might tell a crude joke after a couple drinks at an office path. These situations are not even close.

And again, most of these guys have admitted it. Trump is on record with his own voice talking about being a peeping Tom at Miss Universe pageants, kissing women without asking, and grabbing girls UNEXPECTEDLY by the p*ssy; CK Lous admitted it. Spacey admitted it. Charlie Rose admitted it. Weinstein sort of admitted it. Lauer admitted it. This ain't no case of false accusations.

We all know that guys are/can be perverts. Heck half the guys here want castration to free themselves from their urges. We all know that some fetishes are predatory -- I'm glad that mine are related to self-harm but if I had the same compulsions to expose myself or force myself on others then I know I would be a real danger. The force of these sexual compulsions is super strong and you know that some number of guys given enough wealth and power are going to act out.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

A lot of what you say is true. One big problem is how everything is lumped together under sexual harrassment including rape, assault, exposure, and many criminal acts. Then mere annoyances are added under the same labels, such as harmless jokes, harmless comments, mere looks, whistles, and tons of non criminal human behaviors.

The intent seems to be to use actual criminal acts to falsely label harmless and minor annoyances as being criminal, which they clearly aren t. The agenda is to try to criminalize any unwanted sexual or romantic attempts that are not welcomed by the victims. The victims arbitrarily decide whose attention is welcomed and all others can be accused of a crime for exactly the same attentions if unwelcomed. A lot of this is to control males of all ages by threats, shame, and exaggeration of normal male sexual interests.

[minuteman (imported)]

The intent seems to be to use actual criminal acts to falsely label harmless and minor annoyances as being criminal, which they clearly aren t. The agenda is to try to criminalize any unwanted sexual or romantic attempts that are not welcomed by the victims. The victims arbitrarily decide whose attention is welcomed and all others can be accused of a crime for exactly the same attentions if unwelcomed. A lot of this is to control males of all ages by threats, shame, and exaggeration of normal male sexual interests.

Agree absolutely!!

[Prismatic (imported)]

Dude, don't let your wife tell you what to do with your balls. They are yours and yours alone and if she wants them gone because she doesn't want sex she is a bad person and you would probably be better off without her, because if she can't accept you for you, she shouldn't be with you trying to change who you are into who she wants you to be.

[SplitDik (imported)]

A lot of what you say is true. One big problem is how everything is lumped together under sexual harrassment including rape, assault, exposure, and many criminal acts. Then mere annoyances are added under the same labels, such as harmless jokes, harmless comments, mere looks, whistles, and tons of non criminal human behaviors.

The intent seems to be to use actual criminal acts to falsely label harmless and minor annoyances as being criminal, which they clearly aren t. The agenda is to try to criminalize any unwanted sexual or romantic attempts that are not welcomed by the victims. The victims arbitrarily decide whose attention is welcomed and all others can be accused of a crime for exactly the same attentions if unwelcomed. A lot of this is to control males of all ages by threats, shame, and exaggeration of normal male sexual interests.

I definitely agree that it is a mis-characterization to lump these all together.

However, I don't agree that this is part of some evil scheme/agenda. There is no agenda in news except to make as much money as possible -- they are corporate entities. All the talk show hosts and other talking heads are just actors (or maybe more like professional wrestlers). Guys like Bill O'Reilly don't believe most of the stuff they say. There isn't any "liberal" or "conservative" media, there is just some media outlets that know they can make money with click bait that attracts liberal people and other media knows they can make money with click bait that attracts conservative people. Don't think that means that these organizations care about any of those ideas. That is why there are actual fake news outlets now too -- as long as you make someone click on your article you've achieved your agenda (to make money).

There is also no women's agenda. The only thing the women in theses cases have to gain is to hopefully make other weirdo guys think twice before forcing people to watch them masturbate.

There is no need to fear women like you do. Women don't have and never have had any significant power, and I am not aware of any woman ever that is dangerous in the way you're worried about. There are some mentally ill women who can cause physical harm, and there are some gold-diggers who may make opportunistic false claims, I don't doubt that. But the idea that there is a concerted strategy by women in general is absurd. If you don't believe me just eaves-drop on what women talk about when they are together -- it is not at all related to coming up with an agenda to dominate men.

Men are the real thing to fear -- they are the dangerous ones on the street, in the boardroom and in the bedroom. I actually like that because I like the competition!

Even dominatrixes (and I've got a decades of experience in the femdom world) are fake -- they only have power over men because men let them have that power. And the occasional sadistic domme is usually one who is acting out due to the fact that men have domineered them all their life, basically they are emotionally damaged by men. You can tell they are fake because they need all that protocol, play-acting and costumes. In contrast, as men we can saunter into any room or situation and simply take control naturally without any rigamarole. There are no women in any positions of real power in the world, and those that might seem to be are usually just props for an organization to look progressive. The vast majority of women spend their time cooking, doing laundry and sucking cock to keep men happy.

If you're worrying about flirting being mistaken for harassment simply stop mixing work and pleasure. Whenever you have power over someone, simply don't flirt. There are so many women out there that there is no need to flirt with your personal assistant, student, or co-worker. Just keep it in your pants (literally!) in professional situations.

Overall, I think all this fear about women is just paranoia. In fact these cases in the news should make you LESS afraid of being accused of harassment. If you think about it, these guys were serial sexual predators and only years later did the women get confidence to bring it up and only due to the sheer numbers of accusers are they being considered. Basically, apparently you can get away with a lot more than I ever thought possible.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

Congratulations, SD. You have come thru all your personal things over the years to be a fair and balanced observer of the human scene.