Love and its many facets....

[Tany Squirrel (imported)]

We torture ourselves, mentally and physically for love, but why?

We seek the acceptance of others, both mentally and physically. We all have precepts of what our vision of love should and can be. It matters not what gender, what ethnic background, nor even social status, wealth or level of fame.

Our body image often betrays our worries and fears of what others may think. How they would receive us and accept us. This is often the case with most body image issues. Yes, there are some things we can change, and some, that we cannot. It is the task of accepting that we cannot change, however much we wish we could. There are limitations in this life that prohibit it. We must do the best we can to understand ourselves and the physical limitations that exist. Social limitations can be overcome, some physical ones, no.

Our mental image, that can fluctuate, it can be static, often times, they are born in the past, and carry through until we pass on. They are a bit more fluid and easily changed. Sometimes, it can be chemically enhanced or changed (i.e. hormonally), or, through social interaction, research or study. The mind is very malleable, if we allow it to be. One cannot be stalwart and stubborn, if they seek mental change. You have to be yielding to new ideas or concepts.

Love, is also fluid, it has many languages.. for some, its physical, for others emotional, and for some (like myself), it is intellectual stimulation. I read a good book once: The Language of Love . I do not often recommend psychology books, however, the author who wrote this, I feel, nailed it on the head with his interpretation of love's many facets. It is finding the right person that reciprocates how YOU love, and likewise, that makes it all work.

Why am I talking about love, on a Eunuch website? Simple: With the aspect of castration, many things can change, physically, emotionally, mentally... many do it for various reasons, and yes, it can affect others in the way they can love you, or perhaps *should* love you.

For many, it should not change, for those who are already partnered with someone. But what of the person who is seeking love? what of the difficulty of having an intended partner understand why you have castrated yourself? It should not change, if a person truly loves you, they will find understanding and be accepting as well, perhaps even curious.

As the old adage goes "love conquers all". (it truly does). So do not be downhearted. Love will find you, and accept you, for whomever you may be. Accept the you , that you become, and others will accept you as you are.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

Just so. I have a partner who has been with me all through the medical adventures that led to castration, the period of no T, the removal of scrotum remnant, the exploration of who we are now, and so it continues. She says I never get old. (I think she fibs, maybe?) I think I'm blessed.

Many years ago she married a young man from US and now she still has him, but a different state.

In short, we have been many things for each other over a long time. An open mind for the other, and life goes on with a lot of fun and opportunities. What happens next? I suspect it doesn't represent a threat to us, but a new stage of the adventure.

Yes, she love this old eunuch. Why? I can only wonder....