Sex has no appeal

[bobbilee (imported)]

Begoneboy: do you think that when we say we are bisexual what this really means is that we are the "third sex" which is recognized in other countries like in India? I can identify with what you just wrote...i have said before to you that I like most everything you have written. I have been told by my shrink that I have a low testosterone count. This might explain why I obsess over big boobs but don't want to have sex with a woman because I like her boobs. Nor do I want to have sex with a guy because he is hung. I also value the sense of friendship, trust, spirituality, loyalty in a person before I hop into bed. I have not had sex with anybody since 2002 and the only thing I think about is getting castrated. I also feel like I am so different that I will always be alone. I do have hope this will not be the case a year from now. Rest assured EA folks, I'm not suicidal...just in need of a hug.

[Oyktiro1 (imported)]

Back in 2005 I was seeing a girl and we had sex everynight.. I hated it.. I almost dreaded each night comming. After we broke up I told my friends about it and how I hated the sex. They thought I was crazy.. Sex everynight? That would be fantastic! But for me I hated it. Just recently I was helping a girl out because she was homeless.. She hit on me left and right.. She dressed in real skimpy clothes and walked around my apartment flaunting herself.. I did'nt have any ideas of having sex with her.. I just ignored her advances.. I just dont have any desire for sex.

I was reading about Asexuals and they were takling about being born as one.. However when I was a teenager I was a typical male kid.. Chasing girls always looking for sex.. But as the years went by I lost my interest.. I changed.. I know deep down after reading about Asexuality I'm most definatley Asexual. I just never knew anyhting about the term Asexual.. I had th evalues but didnt know the label all these years.. I'm 44 years old and I've been Asexual for about 12 - 13 years

[Paolo]

Looking back, I have to wonder if head injury (mild concussion) might have something to do with loss of interest?

In 1989, I fell out of a lifted 4wd truck and hit my head on the cement. Cracked the cement. Didn't knock me out, though.

[Begoneboy (imported)]

Begoneboy: do you think that when we say we are bisexual what this really means is that we are the "third sex" which is recognized in other countries like in India? I can identify with what you just wrote...i have said before to you that I like most everything you have written. I have been told by my shrink that I have a low testosterone count. This might explain why I obsess over big boobs but don't want to have sex with a woman because I like her boobs. Nor do I want to have sex with a guy because he is hung. I also value the sense of friendship, trust, spirituality, loyalty in a person before I hop into bed. I have not had sex with anybody since 2002 and the only thing I think about is getting castrated. I also feel like I am so different that I will always be alone. I do have hope this will not be the case a year from now. Rest assured EA folks, I'm not suicidal...just in need of a hug.

Not sure it matters what I think as I only think for me. While I do believe being bi-sexual is how we feel I'm not quite sure that equates to actual

gender as in Male, female or neither (eunuch). Mainly because in my opinion to be bi-sexual is not something that can be seen on the body

while male, female or neither (eunuch) can all be physically seen by other and oneself. Sure, male, female and neither can also be a feeling

but they are also physical medical terms. As in either one has a penis, vagina or neither can effect how a doctor would treat certain types

of illness where-as bisexual is not seen by a medical doctor for the purpose of treating physical illnesses other than perhaps STD type of

inflictions. In other words to my way of thinking to be bisexual is desire and we all know that desires can and often do change.

Where being eunuch is a physical fact that cannot be changed. IE; either the patient has a penis, vagina or neither during a medical

examination.

[Tany Squirrel (imported)]

I can honestly say that I feel the same.I have "ZERO" desire to be with another. The thought of being with someone else kind of turns my stomach, I have been alone so long, that I am consciously dismissive towards anyone else's amorous advances. I would rather spend the time learning/researching or having a discussion with others.

Then again , I am intellectually stimulated and naturally antisocial in some regards.

[Begoneboy (imported)]

Tany Squirrel: First of all I just adore your avatar. It so much screams innocence and naughty, while at the same time

curiosity. You go!

You are so on the mark at being aroused intellectually. Finding a great exchange of ideas is in large part what has drawn me to this forum.

And in life is one of those things I value almost as much as breathing. Thanks for sharing that.

[Oyktiro1 (imported)]

So.. Ive been reading about Asexuality and I'm now a Member of asexuality.org. I've found my identity that has eluded me for the last 12 years. I had thought I was the only guy who thought this way. I would like to Thank Paolo for pointing me in that direction.. I didnt know Asexuality existed untill last wednesday.. I so identify with this..

Now my problem is letting my family know about it.. I dont know how to break it to my mother. "Hi Mom, oh by the way I'm asexual and a Heteroromantic.."

[Tany Squirrel (imported)]

Tany Squirrel: First of all I just adore your avatar. It so much screams innocence and naughty, while at the same time

curiosity. You go!

You are so on the mark at being aroused intellectually. Finding a great exchange of ideas is in large part what has drawn me to this forum.

And in life is one of those things I value almost as much as breathing. Thanks for sharing that.

Thank you! It has literally taken me years to find an avatar that I thought embodied all I am .. and yes it is as you said, innocent,naughty, and full of curiosity. Not to mention, extremely playful.

in regards to the intellectually stimulated part.. its sooooo hard to find a good conversation in these parts.. Not that everyone is stupid or dumb, it is just hard to find someone on my level of consciousness. Those who tend to find all corners of life interesting. I find someone who has a keen mind very attractive, no matter the physical nature of the person. My soul has learned to love, unconditionally as far as the outward appearance, yet, as I have mentioned.. there has to be some gray matter between the ears. It has been so much easier remaining single, less of a hassle and frees me up for more time to do my favorite hobby....research! (that's how I found all you great people here )

[Begoneboy (imported)]

Tany,

gray matter between the ears.

A phrase I find myself have used so many times over the years.

And something that seems so lacking in this modern age. I agree, there's not much better than a good

conversation other than maybe a GREAT CONVERSATION You're on the money there.Thanks for lifting my day

with that one.

[Paolo]

Oyktiro1 (http://forums.eunuch.org/member.php?98057-Oyktiro1) , you're welcome.

I can't imagine 'coming out' as asexual could be perceived with hate or nonacceptance. For anyone I've told, that I have 0 sexual interest in anyone or anything, it's usually met with initial confusion, and then the "light bulb" slowly comes on over the head as in cartoons.