Spouse's Opinions Please

[BiBikerFL (imported)]

Hello everyone...

I am seriously considering surgical castration because I want to remove my T and my sex drive with it among other things. Been married to the love of my life for 30 years and we already have 2 grown children and we both want to be BFFs for the next 30 years without sex being a problem. My wife is going through menopause and since she also has an inverted uterus over the years from childbirth, intercourse is painful and unwelcome for obvious reasons. That and for about two years now, she has lost all interest in sex and I could take it or leave it when castrated I'd predict.

My question for the group is, what do your wive's, spouses or significant others think and feel about this with you?

What were their original thoughts and concerns and how has that changed since your castration?

I can't speak for others reading but I believe it would be helpful for those of us in a relationship and how it has affected it for the better or worse and what improvements you made for your relationship to stay successful, loving and still intimate? Intimate meaning, closeness in kissing and caressing for example. Little to no sexual activity. move of a loving relationship and not a sexual driven one as before.

Thank you for all your insight in advance as I and many others are thankful for your insight,

Bi Biker FL.

[Begoneboy (imported)]

Hello everyone...

I am seriously considering surgical castration because I want to remove my T and my sex drive with it among other things. Been married to the love of my life for 30 years and we already have 2 grown children and we both want to be BFFs for the next 30 years without sex being a problem. My wife is going through menopause and since she also has an inverted uterus over the years from childbirth, intercourse is painful and unwelcome for obvious reasons. That and for about two years now, she has lost all interest in sex and I could take it or leave it when castrated I'd predict.

My question for the group is, what do your wive's, spouses or significant others think and feel about this with you?

What were their original thoughts and concerns and how has that changed since your castration?

I can't speak for others reading but I believe it would be helpful for those of us in a relationship and how it has affected it for the better or worse and what improvements you made for your relationship to stay successful, loving and still intimate? Intimate meaning, closeness in kissing and caressing for example. Little to no sexual activity. move of a loving relationship and not a sexual driven one as before.

Thank you for all your insight in advance as I and many others are thankful for your insight,

Bi Biker FL.

BiBiker you have hit on the question of all times. And a great question that few if any ask. Living alone after divorce for many years

I finally found that sort of a relationship with who I am now a spouse. Granted, the situation differs from yours but not as much as you

may think. If you've read my intro I've shared a good bit and have nothing to hide. I am thankful for a forum such as this to share and hopefully

help others. Back to the story. At any rate meeting somebody and falling in love after castration can be a bit touchy to say the least. While on

the outside I do present rather female there is no such anatomy. So you can begin to imagine the similarities to your situation. He had some

physical trauma leaving him unable to have an erection from military service. I have no vagina. Hence, the many similarities to your situation.

He still is otherwise intact and no doubt produces an excess amount of testosterone. Naturally that can become rather pent up in many ways.

Since I am totally nullo there isn't much "T" on my end and I substitute the "T" with "E". He rather enjoys the intimacy and closeness without

ever having the need to perform actual sex which for him is all but impossible. That has made our relationship built on so many other levels

than physical urge that it just seems to get richer and richer as each year passes by.

He actually met me prior to my castration and was a big support during it all. Your wife could well be that same support if the relationship.

We've been together for over 25 years and it only seems like a few months at times. I often wish he had less aggression as you are looking

for with castration.

We were not married prior to my castration since the law would not permit it back then. Although afterwards we were able to buy a marriage

license which we did and have enjoyed the legal benefits of marriage since. We share many things, ideas and goals in life and enjoy so many

of the same things. So communication with your BFF about the situation and possible solution may well bring rewards beyond imagination.

But that (communication thing) is the secret to success. Without it, everything may be for nothing. If your relationship (other than sex) is

as close as you mention speak with her about it honestly and frankly in order to open the next step and hopefully to continued happiness.

Let her know the reasons and share the experience from beginning to end. And of course, if you desire additional insight as from my experience

I'm happy to share.

[sparkey49 (imported)]

My wife and I have been married 36 years 2 grown kids and 4 grandkids. Our relationship is closer than ever as I am way more focused on her than ever without the same drive for intercourse as before! For her she says it is like being a newlywed!

[stephaniesteve1 (imported)]

My wife and I have been married 36 years 2 grown kids and 4 grandkids. Our relationship is closer than ever as I am way more focused on her than ever without the same drive for intercourse as before! For her she says it is like being a newlywed!

Me too, Have been married 40 years with 2 kids . I use T gel at a low level. My ability to perform in bed is largely unchanged from my wifes perspective.If anything as I take longer to reach orgasm I probably give her more pleaure.Not having balls is really not a big deal if you have a stable relationship.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

First, it is so important to share with your spouse / partner.

We are happy, and now later in life. One grown kid.

(There were anxieties around the medical need to castrate, but this is not the question here.)

After it was done and deemed safe to replace the T, the sex life was maybe the best ever. contraception was ow not an issue.

Now, years on, we are closer than ever, but the T is not so important.

No T, and I get heavier, and more companionable; Replaced T, and potency returns, greasy skin, easier to keep weight controlled, etc etc.

In short, we shared all this stuff, and now life is good.

Footnote: While she finds the smooth area where the scrotum used to be fun and interesting, we don't tell any others that I am castrated, except those with a need to know (doctor, etc)

[BiBikerFL (imported)]

Hi Bebonboy,

Please share your intro as I have not seen it. I checked your profile but it was limited info. I sure do enjoy learning about you and your life. I'm happy you two have something special. Have you two talked about him being castrated to help with his level towards the Eunuch calm. The Eunuch calm is what I'm wanting to achieve with my castration and my wife is very much in support of it. She is a alpha and I'm beta now as my E is higher than my T but I still have a sexual drive that I can't wait to get rid of and my wive will be thankful and happy too as she wasn't it now almost as much as I do.

My wife is in total support of my castration. She is only concerned for my health and negative side effects. The both of us like me more as my T reduces. I use to be that alpha male, but as my T dropped I was able to experiment with buried emotional feelings of more feminine emotions and fewer male emotions and T influences.

All this said, we are not living the life as of yet and I would love to know what spouses thing and feel about it after our castrations. What does your spouse think and have to say about all this before and after your castration? I know our circumstances differ with our castrations, but I sure would like to know his thoughts too? As well as those feelings and thoughts from other eunuch spouses too.

Happy 4th...

BiBiker you have hit on the question of all times. And a great question that few if any ask. Living alone after divorce for many years

I finally found that sort of a relationship with who I am now a spouse. Granted, the situation differs from yours but not as much as you

may think. If you've read my intro I've shared a good bit and have nothing to hide. I am thankful for a forum such as this to share and hopefully

help others. Back to the story. At any rate meeting somebody and falling in love after castration can be a bit touchy to say the least. While on

the outside I do present rather female there is no such anatomy. So you can begin to imagine the similarities to your situation. He had some

physical trauma leaving him unable to have an erection from military service. I have no vagina. Hence, the many similarities to your situation.

He still is otherwise intact and no doubt produces an excess amount of testosterone. Naturally that can become rather pent up in many ways.

Since I am totally nullo there isn't much "T" on my end and I substitute the "T" with "E". He rather enjoys the intimacy and closeness without

ever having the need to perform actual sex which for him is all but impossible. That has made our relationship built on so many other levels

than physical urge that it just seems to get richer and richer as each year passes by.

He actually met me prior to my castration and was a big support during it all. Your wife could well be that same support if the relationship.

We've been together for over 25 years and it only seems like a few months at times. I often wish he had less aggression as you are looking

for with castration.

We were not married prior to my castration since the law would not permit it back then. Although afterwards we were able to buy a marriage

license which we did and have enjoyed the legal benefits of marriage since. We share many things, ideas and goals in life and enjoy so many

of the same things. So communication with your BFF about the situation and possible solution may well bring rewards beyond imagination.

But that (communication thing) is the secret to success. Without it, everything may be for nothing. If your relationship (other than sex) is

as close as you mention speak with her about it honestly and frankly in order to open the next step and hopefully to continued happiness.

Let her know the reasons and share the experience from beginning to end. And of course, if you desire additional insight as from my experience

I'm happy to share.

[BiBikerFL (imported)]

Hi Starkey. Good hearing from you. We are pretty convinced that our relationship will get even better without the influenced of T. Can you embellish more on why your wife says its like newlyweds? I find myself enjoying sharing equally domestic chores with her. Would like to learn more on your and her feelings

about all this before and after

castration.

Unlike marriage, castration is non reversible, so you only get one chance to do it right, so emotional needs and desires need to be addressed and I want to make sure that she feels the same or better about me after castration. Testosterone and testicles are two things that women are naturally attracted to and I wonder what her thoughts and feelings are after the T and testicles are gone along with the masculine male she married.

Anything you can share is more welcomed.

[BiBikerFL (imported)]

Hi Daifu-Orchid,

Interesting name. I am so glad to hear that you two have a good relationship. I have two long replies above that I want to share with you too, but didn't want to repeat myself with a wordy reply.

My one fear is weight gain. Do you exercise and eat healthily? My hope is my exercise and eating habits will keep the weight at bay. Begonboy mentions that estrogen treatment helps prevent osteoporosis but I worry I'll become too feminine looking to the point my wife will lose interest in me as a man.

If you could do it again, would you have done it again and younger? We've talked about how it would have been good if I was castrated shortly after our second was born instead of just a vasectomy. I would have certainly have been a better spouse and household partner. How about you two?

Happy 4th

[sparkey49 (imported)]

My wife loves how much more inventive I am towards her and satisfying her needs than beforehand. I used to be a lot more set on my own gratification than I am now.

[Begoneboy (imported)]

Hi Bebonboy,

Please share your intro as I have not seen it. I checked your profile but it was limited info. I sure do enjoy learning about you and your life. I'm happy you two have something special. Have you two talked about him being castrated to help with his level towards the Eunuch calm. The Eunuch calm is what I'm wanting to achieve with my castration and my wife is very much in support of it. She is a alpha and I'm beta now as my E is higher than my T but I still have a sexual drive that I can't wait to get rid of and my wive will be thankful and happy too as she wasn't it now almost as much as I do.

My wife is in total support of my castration. She is only concerned for my health and negative side effects. The both of us like me more as my T reduces. I use to be that alpha male, but as my T dropped I was able to experiment with buried emotional feelings of more feminine emotions and fewer male emotions and T influences.

All this said, we are not living the life as of yet and I would love to know what spouses thing and feel about it after our castrations. What does your spouse think and have to say about all this before and after your castration? I know our circumstances differ with our castrations, but I sure would like to know his thoughts too? As well as those feelings and thoughts from other eunuch spouses too.

Happy 4th...

Well BiBiker: You don't need to worry about becoming feminine unless that is your personal desire. The "T" can and will cause a change in aggression. I've NEVER taken "T". Weight gain is certainly manageable with proper diet and exercise which of course has a multitude of other positive health benefits. IE: heart, lungs, liver etc. Not to mention energy. I personally stay on a controlled carbohydrate diet as much for heart health and energy as keeping weight where I like. Make no mistake, taking some form of bio-identical estrogen in small amounts helps a great deal with preventing weight gain as well as helps prevent bone loss. There are many topical bio-identical "E"s available on-line that just take a small amount to have a positive effect without the feminine effect you want to avoid. It is all in amount. It takes a large dose of "E" over a long period of time to make visible changes that men would consider bad. I have taken enough "e" during my life time and continue to do so that my numbers are very near a CIS gal. That is my choice and doesn't mean it is needed for others.

As to my husband, no, he's happy the way he is. And he is equally happy the way I am. He was very supportive and has been there every step of the way since we met.

Unfortunately for me we have a pretty big difference in age (16yrs) so I'll most likely outlast him by a good bit. In the meantime we are very close and very protective of each other. Our relationship has been very intimate over these many years. I will truly hate to be without him.