Can't orgasm

[Rocket Number Nine (imported)]

Is there any way to fix this issue without adding any extra hormones into the mix? I can basically get near the edge but I can't get pushed over it at all, except very rarely and with much difficulty. Over time things have increasingly gone more towards a great difficulty in achieving orgasm. Low sex drive isn't even the issue - I have a low sex drive but I also still enjoy sex and am definitely into it in the moment, but in the moment I can only get very close to orgasm, it almost never goes all the way, even after hours of strong stimulation.

Also it isn't an issue about my partner, I'm very into him. I feel like I'm letting him down and making him feel inadequate because he can't make me orgasm (even though I can't even make myself either).

Anyone had similar issues? Any ways to fix it or make it less of a problem?

[Wellesley (imported)]

Even on TRT I would say it can take much longer.

So much of it is mental as well... Try relaxing more? If the emphasis of sex is only on orgasm then it can get stressful

[Rocket Number Nine (imported)]

So much of it is mental as well...

I think that is perhaps part of it sometimes. It feels kind of like there's just this wall at this certain point and at times it feels almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy - I'll get close and then think about how I haven't been able to, and then I wait for it to roll over the edge and it just doesn't and I just think more about how I haven't been able to, and the cycle continues or I fall back from the edge and have to build back up again, or I give up.

But then other times I'm pretty relaxed, particularly if I've had luck with it recently, yet I'll still have a really hard time going over the edge or even getting there.

I can deal with it but I still want to have them happen really bad every time, and I feel disappointed and cheated when I can't make it happen. It's already been a while since the last time I had one, and I miss it, it's like having an itch that I can't scratch.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

A puzzle: when I had no TRT, I had no orgasm, and no interest in one, but life was very good and full.

Now with T shots once weekly, I function well enough for a man of my age, but I feel that I am probably missing out on how good it used to feel with no T, good, but not really as happy as the eunuch state I enjoyed for just a few months.

[Rocket Number Nine (imported)]

I do give myself an estrogen injection weekly, and while I get a libido spike the days following it, I still usually can't orgasm. Actually having some form of active sex drive and wanting sex yet not being able to finish, it's a huge let down. I can't increase the dosage seeing as my levels are pretty good where it's at, and I don't want to add progesterone or anything like that because it could cause further breast growth, which I do not want at all. So here I am trying to figure out if there is some other way to make it easier.

[tugon (imported)]

I have found the manipulating the penis along with rubbing the pubic area above the penis will create orgasm. No ejaculation of course but very good orgasms.

[Rocket Number Nine (imported)]

I will try that next time, and I appreciate any suggestions.

I feel like I'm being a bit lewd with this, but: one of my concerns is that physical stimulation won't help much in that what once was my maximally effective method (8 inch x 2 inch powerfully vibrating object inserted, combined with stimulation of penis and other erogenous zones, all manipulation being done by my partner) is currently unable to achieve results, despite getting very close, right to the knife edge, red-in-the-face, uncontrollably shaky legs, so on and so forth, everything that happens -right- before an orgasm, but it just won't go over the edge. It even makes it worse considering after we quit such a session I'm basically in a low grade horniness for about a whole day after just from the freshly-pounded feeling, which just makes me want it again.

I know I've taken things in the past that have made it more difficult to orgasm (aside from Androcur ) - 5-HTP for example, definitely made it harder. Is there anything out there that has the opposite effect, and makes it easier instead?

[GeldedCowboy (imported)]

Three days after my castration I could no longer achieve errection or orgasm, I went on TRT two weeks after castration and within two days began having normal errections and orgasms again (with ejaculate). I agree that a lot of it is mental but the right hormone mixture does make it easier obviously. I do know a castrated pre-op transexual that can achieve errections and orgasm with estrogen, of course her penis is still smaller than usual and she produces no ejaculate but she says the orgasms (while not easy to achieve) are amazing.

What's the old song say...Relax, just do it...

[zeebster (imported)]

Are you taking any kind of medications? Some, particularly the SSRI's used to treat depression and PTSD, will cause what they call in the literature; "a delayed ejaculation". Also blood pressure drugs and a number of others can have a detrimental effect on sexual activities.

[Rocket Number Nine (imported)]

I do know a castrated pre-op transexual that can achieve errections and orgasm with estrogen, of course her penis is still smaller than usual and she produces no ejaculate but she says the orgasms (while not easy to achieve) are amazing.

What's the old song say...Relax, just do it...

Well when they do happen they are definitely better than they were before I did all this to myself. More of a full body feeling and of longer duration, hard to describe but it just has a different quality and nature to it. And yeah zero ejaculate. Perhaps part of my issue is the fact that I don't exactly get fully hard? Often I'm mostly or totally flaccid during sex.

Relaxing is definitely one of the issues I have at times but I don't think it's the full picture because I have had difficulty even while I would have considered myself relaxed.

As far as hormones go I don't really want to try changing anything. Increasing estrogen/changing administration route or adding progesterone could lead to further feminization, which is undesired, even though it would likely fix this issue. I already look like this, which is a bit too far, I don't want it going any fa

rther if I can avoid it: https://my.mixtape.moe/dujnta.jpg

Are you taking any kind of medications? Some, particularly the SSRI's used to treat depression and PTSD, will cause what they call in the literature; "a delayed ejaculation". Also blood pressure drugs and a number o

f others can have a detrimental effect on sexual activities.

Aside from Androcur and estradiol valerate injections I don't take anything. I actually quit using nicotine somewhat recently (around about a month ago), could that be related? When I quit I was a moderate user but once was a very heavy user.