Journalist hoping to speak to some members of your community

[jcat (imported)]

We need the media to change the perception of us as 'freaks' and 'nutcases'. Ultimately, this is already being done by the likes of Tom Johnson and Richard Wassersug and others and the word is getting out to some of the medical community at least.

My problem with all this journo stuff is that it wants to put a label around our necks and put us in a defined box at every level.

The plain fact of the matter is that labels and binaries do not work at any level in society, let alone in this community.

The only way you will get any real insight is to read through some of the threads from beginning to end and look at the people in a completely open and non judgmental way. My journey has been interesting, dangerous and eventful, along the way, I have changed my whole way of thinking about what it is to be in this community.

I have made many mistakes and posted some stupid things and done some even crazier things. I might have said a few wise things too! All of which have moulded me.

What I can say, and this applies to all humanity is that everyone of us needs to balance how we feel inside with how we see ourselves in the world. For some they need a bigger or smaller nose just to be able to live. It matters not a jot to their inner being that the rest of the world perceives their existing nose to be cute. What matters is how they connect their inner being with their outer being. Our perception is irrelevant.

It is the 'norm' to accept cosmetic surgery for a whole range of body parts..... It is Ok for Angelina Jolie to remove her breasts for 'fear' of cancer, why won't they remove my bowels because I have so much bowel cancer on both side of my genetic tree and I probably will get it? Would I do it and live with a stoma? Maybe, surely the choice should be mine. I have used this as a very real example in my life.

So why can I not get my genitals removed because all my life it has felt wrong to have them. Do I want a vagina? No I don't. "Have a vagina and we will take the male bits away!" So you will replace one lot of bits with another lot I don't want? "Yes'". Are they fucking crazy or what? I don't anything there!

This is all about perception.

What does it matter if John Doe wants to have horns? Or have his testicles removed and his penis.

What matters is that whoever we are that there is a psycho aesthetic balance between our inner being and our outer one.

No labels, no groups, no clubs or binaries or boxes just freedom to be.

It does not matter whether it is the testicles or the nose. This is what has to be communicated to the media.

[want2bfixed (imported)]

I would like to share how I came to this with u how do I get in touch?

[Quillman (imported)]

Darn!

OK, I'll be firm but polite.

This community has seen journalists come in from time to time. Working in media myself, I get the reason behind sensationalism, etc. (It sells). That is exactly what has happened to us in the past - sensationalism. There has been NO attempt to paint us as anything but freaks, and frankly that has turned off most if not all of us that have actually had physical alterations to our bodies. We simply refuse to take part in any interviews with the media as we've been burned several times. See the Details Magazine article from 2006 - it's the reason I will NEVER speak to another journalist on the record about this subject ever again. My quotes were taken completely out of context and I was made to look like a freak.

After the Details magazine fiasco, I was approached by a TV production company from the UK. They tried to get me to go on camera about my "case" and physical changes to my body. They said I had nothing to worry about as it would never be shown in the US. Other than the fact that I know a lot of people in Europe, and they don't know this about my body, I didn't expect that a media COMPANY wouldn't sell this program to the highest bidder. I was 100% correct in that assessment. Not more than 3 months after it aired in the UK and Europe more broadly, there it was making the rounds on US cable television channels. So, I was essentially lied to by a reporter/the media yet again. I'm very relieved I did not participate.

This in no way means I want to imply you're without integrity. I personally know many reporters who have high integrity. However, those who do not have a shred of integrity have ruined your chances of getting anyone legitimate such as myself to talk to you on the record. So while I'd like to chat, I refuse to do so because of past poor treatment by people who have approached us as you have.

I really hope you'll be the exception to what we've seen in the past. Unfortunately, you have a very high mountain to climb.

--LT

I had wondered what became of that film what ten years ago and in the UK, I was involved with the initial setting up but other better individuals took it up, and I thought the result was most interesting and useful, although it did attract adverse criticism especially in the US. Sadly the law took my copy away (as they also took Mary Poppins and The Sound Of Music) but I stand by what I remember, and only sorry that I had not been more involved.

Quillman UK

[Hash (imported)]

Please feel free to read all of my comments/blogs here on the EA, under the name Hash. I am a recent nullo. No nothing, no testicles and no penis. You can send me a private message.

[kristoff]

Please feel free to read all of my comments/blogs here on the EA, under the name Hash. I am a recent nullo. No nothing, no testicles and no penis. You can send me a private message.

For him to send a private message, he will have to have 5 posts to gain the privilege, just like everyone else.

[AdamKovac (imported)]

First, sorry for the delay in answering. It's been a busy few days on other projects.

Just to be clear: the LGBTQ thing came from a conversation with Tom Johnson, who I understand is one of the premiere researchers on the field of castration. If what he told me was wrong, it's important for me to know and hear it from you guys. It's one thing to speak to an academic, and something else entirely to talk to people who are living it. So I'm glad you told me that - if it's an angle that's not worth pursuing, that's important to know.

My question is, what is the major objection to talking to me? I want to write about the community because I feel there isn't a lot of accurate information out there. Wouldn't a story that is accurate be beneficial? I'm working under the assumption that being better understood by the vast majority of people would be a good thing?

[AdamKovac (imported)]

First, sorry for the delay in answering. It's been a busy few days on other projects.

Just to be clear: the LGBTQ thing came from a conversation with Tom Johnson, who I understand is one of the premiere researchers on the field of castration. If what he told me was wrong, it's important for me to know and hear it from you guys. It's one thing to speak to an academic, and something else entirely to talk to people who are living it. So I'm glad you told me that - if it's an angle that's not worth pursuing, that's important to know.

My question is, what is the major objection to talking to me? I want to write about the community because I feel there isn't a lot of accurate information out there. Wouldn't a story that is accurate be beneficial? I'm working under the assumption that being better understood by the vast majority of people would be a good thing?

[AdamKovac (imported)]

Darn!

OK, I'll be firm but polite.

This community has seen journalists come in from time to time. Working in media myself, I get the reason behind sensationalism, etc. (It sells). That is exactly what has happened to us in the past - sensationalism. There has been NO attempt to paint us as anything but freaks, and frankly that has turned off most if not all of us that have actually had physical alterations to our bodies. We simply refuse to take part in any interviews with the media as we've been burned several times. See the Details Magazine article from 2006 - it's the reason I will NEVER speak to another journalist on the record about this subject ever again. My quotes were taken completely out of context and I was made to look like a freak.

After the Details magazine fiasco, I was approached by a TV production company from the UK. They tried to get me to go on camera about my "case" and physical changes to my body. They said I had nothing to worry about as it would never be shown in the US. Other than the fact that I know a lot of people in Europe, and they don't know this about my body, I didn't expect that a media COMPANY wouldn't sell this program to the highest bidder. I was 100% correct in that assessment. Not more than 3 months after it aired in the UK and Europe more broadly, there it was making the rounds on US cable television channels. So, I was essentially lied to by a reporter/the media yet again. I'm very relieved I did not participate.

This in no way means I want to imply you're without integrity. I personally know many reporters who have high integrity. However, those who do not have a shred of integrity have ruined your chances of getting anyone legitimate such as myself to talk to you on the record. So while I'd like to chat, I refuse to do so because of past poor treatment by people who have approached us as you have.

I really hope you'll be the exception to what we've seen in the past. Unfortunately, y

ou have a very high mountain to climb.

--LT

First, sorry for the delay in answering. It's been a busy few days on other projects.

Just to be clear: the LGBTQ thing came from a conversation with Tom Johnson, who I understand is one of the premiere researchers on the field of castration. If what he told me was wrong, it's important for me to know and hear it from you guys. It's one thing to speak to an academic, and something else entirely to talk to people who are living it. So I'm glad you told me that - if it's an angle that's not worth pursuing, that's important to know.

My question is, what is the major objection to talking to me? I want to write about the community because I feel there isn't a lot of accurate information out there. Wouldn't a story that is accurate be beneficial? I'm working under the assumption that being better understo

od by the vast majority of people would be a good thing?

I appreciate your courtesy. And I want to assure everybody, because it seems to be a matter of concern, I want to be as respectful to you and your experiences as possible. You guys have been burned before - I get it, and the last thing I would want to do is repeat that. For those who are willing, please tell me what you want from me to prove that I'm coming at this from a place of respect.

For those of you who would like to get in touch with me, you can reach me via email: adamjosephkovac@gmail.com

If it's ok with you, I'm going to stick around and keep reading. This is your place, and I don't want to violate it, so I'm not sure if I am allowed to post in other threads to ask questions. Please tell me to piss off if I make anyone uncomfortable.

-Adam

[C&TL2745 (imported)]

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If it's ok with you, I'm going to stick around and keep reading. This is your place, and I don't want to violate it, so I'm not sure if I am allowed to post in other threads to ask questions. Please tell me to piss off if I make anyone uncomfortable.

-Adam

I don't think anyone's going to object to your hanging around and asking honest, appropriate questions in any thread.

The one common factor tying all of us together here is an interest in men losing their genitals or the use thereof. Beyond that, this is a very diverse community of men, women, and those who don't feel the terms "man" and "woman" really apply to them. Many are gay, but many are not. Some want to disable their genitals without losing them. Some want what they perceive as foreign parts removed from their bodies. Many want to know how to proceed safely, either with chemical castration or surgery, given that very few doctors will perform the operation when there is no medical necessity. Some just come to seek validation of their feelings. For others, the subject is all fantasy, and they're turned on by stories of men losing their genitals. Some are transgendered or want to be or are in the process of being while others simply don't want to belong to either sex. In my own case, I initially came to better understand my hubby's fascination with the idea of losing his penis, and I've stuck around to share his journey and learn from others here.

In short, there is no "typical' member here. Remember that if you end up writing your article.

If anyone wants to respond to your questions, that's strictly up to them. I think you'll find that many would be willing to answer any question you have about them with the exception of their full name and address. As long as the world in general perceives men who've lost their genitals--or want to--as freaks or perverts, few will want to go on record with their identifying information in a published article.

Sandi

[Paolo]

Wouldn't a story that is accurate be beneficial?

Therein lies the problem.

Yes it would.

And many have heard it before.

It's not happened yet, either. That is why you may have a hard time earning anyone's trust here.

Of course, you're welcome to try.