Hello! And help?

[Polygenitalious (imported)]

I also know who the person you're referring to is, and I'll keep that to myself and let them out themselves if they so desire.

I will repeat here what I said on FetLife - you're over thinking this. I'm not saying that to be harsh or mean.

I know your desire is to be helpful and as fully understand what is going to happen to your boyfriend when his testicles are removed as you can, but as a person who has had that surgery myself it's mostly a non-event for those around them. If he's taking testosterone after he does it, he'll pretty much function as he does now, only he'll be sterile. The reason it is so much different for you is you went from having miniscule amounts of testosterone in your system to having tons of it. So for you the change is a lot more noticeable.

What you should watch out for is a lowered libido - essentially if he doesn't take testosterone after it's done, his sex drive is likely to crash. Hard. What you'll notice is that he'll just suddenly cease caring about sex and will be perfectly fine with your taking care of your own sexual needs through masturbation. He might be interested if you initiate activity, but don't count on a lot of sexual initiative from him. Basically, if he doesn't take testosterone, he'll have the OPPOSITE effect you experienced.

--LT

Thank you. He told me that you're right: I am overthinking this. At the same time, that's pretty much my MO when it comes to Big Questions. I could blame autism, but he just calls it "one of my features".

There actually isn't any before/after change for me to be aware of in terms of sexual function. We don't currently have a sexual relationship. I don't know if we ever will (that's entirely up to him). So his sex drive isn't nearly as much a concern of mine as just his overall mood, energy, and behavioral consistency. I've read things about the phenomenon known as "eunuch calm", which sounds like a lovely place to be but entails a substantial shift in overall disposition -- one that sounds not especially compatible with Dominance, perhaps?

I am not nearly so anxious about this as I was the first couple days (when I posted on Fetlife), to be fair. At the time, I had a lot of other things going on in my head, too, combined with a general lack of understanding about what all this might mean. I had a moment of intense panic at first, like Oh god, my Sir might be going away and never coming back! I might have some abandonment issues going on there. :p I don't really feel that way so much now though, as I've done more reading and sorted through more of my feelings about all this.

[Polygenitalious (imported)]

The bodies belong to their original owners, not anyone else. It seems great care is needed.

Choose with care, and be free to choose it.

YES. I actually stumbled upon some erotica the other day here; it was the first story I came to. I had the most ridiculous sort of panic about it because the guy in the story was getting his bits cut off for an M/s relationship with a partner he'd only known maybe 6 months, and my brain just went splat. I was trying to envision Sir doing precisely this, being in a position where if the right person came along, he'd just give up something so important to him on a whim -- and I know that doesn't make any sense, because that's not how he is at all. But it definitely disturbed me to consider that possibility for a while. I'm glad to have since encountered other accounts of being a eunuch that involve personal agency, choice, consent, and what I would consider healthy decision-making. I think he is absolutely doing this for all the right reasons.