After your surgery: Did you tell your friends about your surgery? Reactions?

[Lifewithout (imported)]

After my surgery, I kept this to myself mainly due my fear that my friends would be shocked. It took me a year before I mustered up enough confidence to talk about this.

1) How did other men deal with this? Discussing this with friends.

2) How long did you wait until you were ready to share this with others?

3) Were you surprised with their reactions?

Thank you for answering.

[Wellesley (imported)]

Basically I only tell people who need to know.

Some people I work with know.

Some people that I might work with I will tell for various reasons. Stamina being one of them.

I don't generally tell many men. The culture here is not really excepting of such things.

[eab221 (imported)]

I have not been cut yet but I have posted here for several years, injected alcohol into my testicles, taken androcur, and made contacts. One of my friends and I had a falling out and he googled my e-mail address. Stuff I posted here came up. Stuff about me wanting my penis removed. He told all the other mutual friends myself and him shared. They were suprised, they knew I was gay but did not know I want to be a nullo. They called me and asked me about it. Two very embarassing phone calls. But aince that they have still been my friends and they will occasionally tease me about it but not in malicious way. Because they know my interests here it has actually given people to talk to.

[Losethem (imported)]

I've never felt a compelling need to say anything about it to anyone other than those that may see me nekkid.

--LT

[eunuched (imported)]

Due to the fact that my bilateral orchiectomy was elective, only my wife and sister know about it and I left out major points. The only person that has complete knowledge of what transpired is my psychiatrist. Even the urologist did not know all the issues. I do not believe that disclosing this would be of any benefit to myself or my friends or other relatives. Sometimes personal secretes are best being that.

[micdavi24 (imported)]

My immediate family know as do two friends, both of whom suffer with the same problem that caused me to desire the removal of my testicles. I told them that I was now totally pain free and that besides for the lack of my balls and pain, I was totally normal in all ways. Two of my female friends also know and neither of them could care less. They found out that I had been in for a small surgery and asked what it was. I decided to try to shock them but that backfired as the both asked why I had waited for so long to have it done.

My two male friends looked green when I told them and mooted the possibility of them considering my solution, but I guess they either hadn't had problems for as long as I had or their problems aren't as severe as mine were or else were just not ready for the finality of the solution.

[Frida G Cavic (imported)]

Hello, Although I have not done surgery, no yet,;) My family and friens and nobody , except one friend, knows about the fact that I´m castrated with chemicals in my case.

Share this kind of decision is hard. I am gay and is the same thing. My family Is learned about my sexual preference but the people who I´m in touch everyday doesn´t know. I have about four gay friends that know my preference but barely bump into them.

Concerning castration Only one gay friend knows about it and he has said that If It makes me happy and If It Is my own decision I should go ahead with castration. Even my partner ignores the issue.

I think that There Is no need to tell anybody .

On the other hand If you feel to impele to telling , only when you feel prepared then you should telling to others, especially who you think that would be really necessary was learned. And people who you really trust. Or simply whom you want to. You will decide on your own

I guess male friends is harder to tell about than female friends, which has been seen in my experience

[rollerboy_1979 (imported)]

My urologist has recommended an orchiectomy because of the poor condition of my testes, and the small lump on the Left one. If and when I have the surgery, I most likely will only tell those closest to me, and others will just hear that I went in for a hernia repair. I am a nudist, so I will opt for saline-filled prosthetic implants, only because I don't want to have to explain constantly why I don't have any balls. If for some reason, the implants don't work out, I will probably just leave the sack empty and deal with it. I do admire a nice set of low hangers, so I'm going to ask for the largest size available, and given my stature, 6'1", 220lbs, I can't walk around with tiny testicles (as they are now from atrophy).

[kristoff]

My urologist has recommended an orchiectomy because of the poor condition of my testes, and the small lump on the Left one. If and when I have the surgery, I most likely will only tell those closest to me, and others will just hear that I went in for a hernia repair. I am a nudist, so I will opt for saline-filled prosthetic implants, only because I don't want to have to explain constantly why I don't have any balls. If for some reason, the implants don't work out, I will probably just leave the sack empty and deal with it. I do admire a nice set of low hangers, so I'm going to ask for the largest size available, and given my stature, 6'1", 220lbs, I can't walk around with tiny testicles (as they are now from atrophy).

Most people won't notice the loss, and the few that do likely won't ask or say anything. Most prostheses are hard and non-malleable - even the saline filled ones - very unnatural. There is a new, but expensive set available that are fairly "normal" feeling, but most insurance won't cover them. Urologist has been trying to convince me to use them and I want him to cut the damned scrotum off. Good luck

[kristoff]

I told some of my friends and a few family members. Most didn't give a shit as long as I was OK with it. Most simply forget about it, and is rarely an issue. It has been 14+ years.