Introduction written while holding my breath

[buzz1981 (imported)]

Hi

I'm not sure ware to start but I just turned 33 and I though it was about time to deal with my body issues so I just the I'll begin.

I'm a 33 year old bi male who had a bit of an accident when I was young. I tide a bit of plastic around the base of my penis but it was too tight and I couldn’t get it off. I was too embarrassed to tell anyone so it was left on too long and I ended up in hospital needing a skin graft.

Needless to say this has had a big impact on my sex life. The head of my penis still works OK but I have reduced feel in the shaft due to the skin graft. Its not really a problem I can still get an erection so physically there is not a problem but I am so self cohesions I can't get naked or show my body to anyone. So I have remain a virgin and alone due to this paranoia so strong it can be paralysing.

Now I have got older I have gender issues and I hate my genitals thing is I don’t know if this is because of the accident or the accident was caused by the gender issues

This is really the first time I have told anyone and it feels good to get it off my chest but I am still nervous even though this is kind of anonymous go figure. Anyway thanks for reading any input / advice on dealing with this would be really apprenticed.

[tugon (imported)]

Welcome and this is a great place to learn and explore. We may not all share the same story but we all have one. As you become more comfortable and ask questions you will be surprised by the number of knowledgeable folks on this site.

[buzz1981 (imported)]

thanks Tugon

it felt great just getting my story out there it good to know there might be others with similar issue to me and great to know there’s somewhere I can final go to talk / vent about them.

[raymar2020 (imported)]

Hi Buzz and Welcome,

You have found a good place to confront your sexual issues. There are many others here who struggle either with an injury or a loss, or a feeling that they need to lose something. You describe a situation that may have some roots in BIID, or may just be the actions of a foolish teenager gone wrong.

A strong recommendation is that now that you have broken the ice by coming here, seek out a therapist to talk to about it. If you understand the root of your feelings, regarding your genitals, then you can move forward to deal with your feelings. There is nothing wrong with no feeling comfortable with the equipment you came with, nor is there anything wrong with correcting the situation if it is warranted.

As for the scarring that is inherent with a skin graft, a good plastic surgeon could work to improve that appearance , or quite frankly if you are honest with a potential partner, and express a preference that your genitals not be seen in the light, you will develop more confidence about being seen.

Surprisingly large numbers of men have some issue with their genitals, be it about size or appearance or the fact that they simply do not like what they have. These are very personal and individual feelings, and to truly understand them will take you on the path that suits you best.

Read extensively in the forums, and respond where you think it is appropriate. Look thru the memebrship, and communicate with those with whom you identify. Provate messages are not allowed immediately , but if you participate you will soon reach that capability.

We are all caring and helpful here. Reach out to others.

Raymar