Sexual orientation of EA members

[Sparhauk (imported)]

I'm a monogamous, submissive, married, owned bisexual male. Mostly, I like to give pleasure to others. My Wife is my Dominant Goddess and owner. Her sex drive is almost non-existent and She doesn't believe in infidelity. So part of my desire to be castrated is to match my sex drive to my Wife's. I'm locked 24/7 in chastity, so as frustrating as that is, the fantasy of a penectomy is very tempting. My Wife doesn't have much of a sex drive, but She does enjoy the power of controlling me and She has a wicked and nearly limitless sadistic streak.

So, is submissive a sexual orientation?

[C&TL2745 (imported)]

I sometimes wonder whether we're not too quick to apply labels to ourselves and others. Sexuality, like all aspects of personality, spans a range in multiple dimensions, and simple labels like "straight" and "gay" seem to pigeonhole people into preconceived roles that are not only misleading or inappropriate but also tend to constrain the thinking of both the one labeled and those who apply the label, preventing the individual from developing the qualities that make him or her a whole, unique, and valued human being. I think most people would consider me "straight," but I've experimented with sex with other women. I don't think most people would call me a sadist, but I've derived pleasure from beating my hubby's testicles and participating in destroying his penis. My hubby and I are not what I'd call swingers, but he has given other women orgasms with his hands with my approval, and he has approved of my playing with another man's penis. And yet we have limits we will not go beyond in sexual activity with others. We have no children, but two young friends call us Mom and Dad. I don't see how a single label can capture all that. Why do we insist on wearing the straightjacket of a label--or dressing others in one?

Sandi

[~Tiamat~ (imported)]

Sandi: along with your post in the psychiatry thread that's the most intelligent thing I've read on here in a long time.

Myself, I'm far too narcisistic to care who I'm sleeping with I guess.

[Buster316 (imported)]

Im an intact gay male.

[cheetaking243 (imported)]

Sandi's actually 100% right.

I'm not sure how many of you have seen this TED talk, but when people are given a scale of 0-100 to describe their sexuality rather than just the binary options of "gay" or "straight," the most common answer was not 100, it was around 70-80. Every binary system is nothing more than a best-fit label trying to classify non-binary people.

https://www.ted.com/talks/io_tillett_wr ... des_of_gay

[Ernie of Maine (imported)]

I agree with Sandi and Cheetataking I have tried many thing and I'm not sure yet.:-\ Ernie

[No Nuts Phantasy (imported)]

Would be in your group( depending on the day;)

[OneBallBoi (imported)]

Gay Vs Straight.. Vs Eunuch.. I think a Eunuch is complete different. They are neither Gay nor Straight. A Eunuch has no sexual interest. I know I could only be in love with another Eunuch. I wonder what other Eunuch's Think. But I would have to in preference conclude that too they would only want to be with another Eunuch. A Eunuch is a Eunuch is a Eunuch. I know I would only want to fall in love with another Eunuch. Is that wrong?

[devi (imported)]

I wouldn't say that a eunuch has "no" sexual interest as in absolutely none. It is there. It is definitely there, only on maybe a lower key is all. As far as the general population is concerned basically everybody is "bisexual" on some level and eunuch mirror this.

[OneBallBoi (imported)]

I can only speak for me. All I want Is to find a farm again and be alone on that farm. I have absolutely no interest in another anymore. The T level is so low. I guess I have given up on love. Find me a farm far away from an others and I will be fine.