Is it possible to remove all attraction towards girls

[plix (imported)]

I make very little money, don't have much in the way of a career (at least that is the way most people would see what I do), drive an older car, and I have the added problem of being short (I tend to see this as one of the biggest obstacles to finding a partner, probably because it is a circumstance I personally experience - if you are fortunate enough to be tall or at least average height, I believe that half the work is done for you already). Yet even though I don't fit the formula you describe at all, I know for sure that two women have been interested in me, and it is possible there have been others I was not aware of. So I'm not so sure that men need any of those things to find a partner (though it is possible that having some or all of them makes it easier). However, I will give you that the women who were interested in me were not my ideal partner, and I am not willing to settle just because I can't seem to find the person I am looking for.

But as I said, the part of what you say that might have some truth to it is that a wealthy man will have an easier time finding a partner. Evolution probably plays a role here - certainly there was a time when men were the sole providers for the family, and women were attracted to men who could do the best job of providing. Back then it might have been the physically strongest men, but today that translates to the men who have the most money. So while I am not going to deny that money might make it easier to attract a woman, I know that I would not be compatible with a woman who insists that I am or that I become rich. Fortunately there are women out there who feel as I do, but they do seem to be a lot harder to find.

Yes, there are times when I think a relationship would be nice, but I also see a bright side to being single, and I know that I will be able to appreciate that for as long as it lasts (even if it does turn out to be for life).

As for whether all attraction can be removed, I have my doubts, at least for me. Yesterday I was out with a group of people, and there was a woman in the group who I found very attractive. I had no desire to have sex with her, but I still thought she was very pretty. I think that has been my experience since dropping the T - while I still find women attractive, I have little to no desire to have sex with them. But of course everyone is different!

[~Tiamat~ (imported)]

a male needs high value to be into a relationship including social status, excellent career, car, personality, overall appeal and a combination of many amazing things.

How much are you going to have in common with a woman who is only interested in these things anyway?! You're only young; as you grow up the women around you will too. If you're interested in teenagers perhaps that's half the problem.

Enjoy yourself and people will enjoy your company. Accept your quirks and people will enjoy those too.

One thing is almost for certain; if your T is low you're never going to be rich or confident and you're never going to have the status, career and car you feel you need. Blame the fucking patriarchy.

You seem to be enjoying your time when you pay for it and just wishing you didn't have to hand over money. Instead of trying to build a relationship on things you DON'T have why not build it on things you DO. Instead of "getting a girl to like you" why not hang around mixed company who share your interests. A lot of guys think they can go out and pick up the girl they want like they're choosing them from a menu. Not EVERYONE is doing this and don't let them bullshit you into thinking they are.

Oh, and paying a 16-17 year old for sex is illegal in the UK. Just so you're aware.

[moi621 (imported)]

" Old habits die hard. "

Moi

[paring (imported)]

Unfortunately it's not possible. Castration only removes your testicles not your eye balls. What was beautiful before will remain beautiful after. LOL

[shadow1ninja (imported)]

I really want totally not have any attraction towards girls.. i never dated a girl and its mostly not possible. girls are pursuing a man that is attractive, confident, excellent career, cars, personality and there is a combination needed to be this type of person who can score a girl. i only ever paid prostitutes for a erotic service which is short-lived and very expensive. i had to go on castration drugs to feel better. girls have ultimate choice in who they want. for every girl there is plenty of male interest and too much competition.

[paring (imported)]

I understand you point, I've been there too but castration does so much more than lower your libido. Even if it would remove all attraction to women, you'd still be a human being, who need love and affection. Most eunuchs here are either in partnership or old enough they don't have as much life to live as you do. I've had my lot of difficulties with women, at one point I've tried to castrate my self not to have sex with them ever again. I was straight just like you and homophobic. The urge to be with and feel the warmth of human being, brought me to try men. This wasn't easy but sex with men was so much easier and less complicated than with women. I've no regrets. So, perhaps before ruining you life and your health you could give a try and discover a new world. I'm still attracted to women but when I think of what would arise from a relationship with a woman, I prefer to look away. No man has ever broken my hearth yet.

[Jorge2008 (imported)]

This is definitely a good idea. It took me years before I realized I was really bisexual, though definitely straight-leaning. It's much easier to attract men. However, as I only consider really cute men as a partner, I've had to reject a number of eligible guys and got rejected awful lot of times by men I really considered as cute. Anyway I've had dates with guys and plan to have a sexdate with a guy who's living in Finland. But my advice to shadow1ninja would still be not to give up on women totally, even I get some limited attention from girls on dating sites and it costs no money - hence worth of trying.

I understand you point, I've been there too but castration does so much more than lower your libido. Even if it would remove all attraction to women, you'd still be a human being, who need love and affection. Most eunuchs here are either in partnership or old enough they don't have as much life to live as you do. I've had my lot of difficulties with women, at one point I've tried to castrate my self not to have sex with them ever again. I was straight just like you and homophobic. The urge to be with and feel the warmth of human being, brought me to try men. This wasn't easy but sex with men was so much easier and less complicated than with women. I've no regrets. So, perhaps before ruining you life and your health you could give a try and discover a new world. I'm still attracted to women but when I think of what would arise from a relationship with a woman, I prefer to look away. No man has ever broken my hearth yet.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

Yes, keep in touch with others, even if you don't feel attracted or attractive right now.

No man is an island,

Entire of itself,

Every man is a piece of the continent,

A part of the main.*

Relationships, platonic to the juiciest, come in so many forms to nourish the soul. Don't give up on any of us just yet. Girls or the rest of us. Some of us are even kinda nice to have around....

*John Donne, Anne Donne, Undone....

[madmickx (imported)]

I really want totally not have any attraction towards girls.. i never dated a girl and its mostly not possible. girls are pursuing a man that is attractive, confident, excellent career, cars, personality and there is a combination needed to be this type of person who can score a girl. i only ever paid prostitutes for a erotic service which is short-lived and very expensive. i had to go on castration drugs to feel better. girls have ultimate choice in who they want. for every girl there is plenty of male interest and too much competition.

Hi Shadow.

For what it is worth, I, too am neither rich, outstandingly successful or particularly attractive physically. On a ten point scale of appeal to the ladies, even at my physical peak, I would give myself 6 - 7 on my best days.

However, I am married and have been for quite a few years, have raised two children, both of whom became successful and decent adults who are now providing me with grandchildren. I also have a fairly wide circle of male and female friends and, in particular, I enjoy being old enough to relate to women of all ages without sexual desire intruding.

Let me acquaint you with a couple of life's stone-cold certainties. The ladies you mention who are only interested in rich, attractive alpha males are not worth having as friends or partners. Forget about them. Likewise, the ladies of the willow world may allow you to have sex with them for payment but on a personal level they wouldn't care if you fell under a bus on your way home. They are o.k. for a bit of occasional fun but only if you can afford them.

There are plenty of girls/women out there who feel pretty much the same way you do and unless you look like Shrek with a poisonous personality and no social skills they would be more than happy to settle for what you can offer them.

My advice, for what it is worth, is stop focussing on what you don't have and take inventory of your good points. Put yourself "out there" in social situations where you can meet women and start talking to them and soon enough someone will take an interest in you.

Winners never quit: Quitters never win.

[Neutered (imported)]

If you don't like yourself how the hell do you expect someone else to like you? Castrating yourself and hiding in the back room is only going to make things worse than they already are for you. Oh, and even Shrek found a girlfriend...