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[Losethem (imported)]

I'm so sorry you had that experience, LT. That sucks.

I'm glad you've found others to offer you positive experiences. FTM folks are a very mixed bag, and I've not found the majority of that "community" to be a good fit for me, particularly the straight-identified ones. They don't tend to like me either.

*hugs*

Yes, it sucked but I've got an otherwise thick skin. I was actually quite bewildered at how they went off on me. I was feeling like I was personally ripping the balls of the natal male half of that couple and he was threatened by me somehow. It was a shame really... I'm one of the most supportive people for those who wish to change their bodies to feel more comfortable with themselves and be who they are. It's just sad they couldn't see that though I wasn't traveling the same path, it is a similar path and I was reaching out to others who have dealt with it. Granted, my path is easier as I'll never have to change the way I present myself to the world other than when I'm naked. They have a LOT more work to do and I'm supportive in their effort to do so.

Your post actually helps me quite a bit. It gave me some insight into how the FTM community exists. Thanks.

--LT

[Polygenitalious (imported)]

Granted, my path is easier as I'll never have to change the way I present myself to the world other than when I'm naked. They have a LOT more work to do and I'm supportive in their effort to do so.

Sir has said this same thing to me before, and it always baffles me to hear it. I don't think you have it easier. You just have it different. Or, at least, I know he does, and assume your situation is probably somewhat similar to his. But the dysphoria is there, and the struggle is there, and I know how damn difficult it is to move through the world feeling invisible and like your true gender identity has to be hidden. Sir has told me he has it easier because he passes as cis male and people treat him accordingly, but I personally feel like sometimes that has to be so much harder to deal with.

Yeah, I've constantly had people telling me I'm not good enough, but at least I have the ability to defend myself openly. He's got nothin' to defend himself with. People don't know he's trans. When they call him "man" or "cisgender" or tell him he doesn't have any clue what it's like to feel the way they do in their bodies... he just gets to sit silently and nod politely, because if he were to come out, if he were to defend his gender the way I get to defend mine, he'd be faced with the same kind of hurtful crap that was said to you, LT. Cis folks and binary trans folks alike -- the vast majority would not be supportive. I feel super protective of him in this way, and it shoots my blood pressure through the roof when I hear people call him a man, because I know it makes him feel awful but he doesn't feel empowered to correct them... with good reason, sadly.

So I definitely wouldn't say that binary-identified trans folks have it harder. They just have a different set of struggles. At least they're transitioning to a gender that society recognizes. But sadly, it seems like a good many of them only do so because they've been pressured into choosing between two wrong options. It's like asking a banana to choose whether it's an apple or an orange. It's likely to become a very angry banana in short order. But getting angry is its own privilege, too.

Your post actually helps me quite a bit. It gave me some insight into how the FTM community exists. Thanks.

Happy to be of service.

[Losethem (imported)]

I say for me it's easier because I have no intention of being anything other than male - I just don't want my crotch to have male parts or female parts.

So to the outside world, it's easy. I don't have to tell anyone I don't wish to. In your case, you initially present as female and are making a change so the world sees you as male. I don't have to make such a change, and that is where I see your path as being more difficult. I do agree with many of your points for my situation. When it comes to finding a husband, I'm going to have a difficult time because they may not understand why an intact male would want to have his genitals cut off. Though I've found a few that are generally o.k. with it.

--LT

[Majicdan (imported)]

You can smooth out the peaks and valleys of testosterone injections by taking them every other week or even weekly.

I have found that every other week works for me.