after castration

[Rooster17 (imported)]

before castration i had daily needs to get intimate with men or women on a daily basis. since, it almost seems dirty and i have no desire to get naked with another person and touch their body. it isnt really a lack of desire for sex, but a complete turnoff even thinking about it. i do occasionally masturbate, but i wonder if others after castration feel the same

[Hash (imported)]

That's the result of castration, you become sexless. You lose your sexual desire and your desire for intimacy. I've lost most of my sexual desire even though I use a little testosterone gel to prevent osteoporosis and depression. You can add back some testosterone, which after a few days will cause erections and return some of your sexual desire.

[Rooster17 (imported)]

i am on a daily cream from a compund pharmacy but no erections whatsoever now, i do however feel my breasts are growing, at least really sensitive

[janekane (imported)]

While desiring to initiate neither diatribe nor debate, not everyone is a member of the "you" for whom the result of castration is, "you become sexless."

My sexual desire did not much diminish after my orchiectomy, what changed, though, is, it became much simpler, whenever I had something I regarded as more interesting to do, to ignore my not much reduced sexual desire. I have never taken any sort of androgen replacement since the day of my orchiectomy.

Some people prefer to communicate using "you messages." I, however, find "I-messages" to work better for me than "you-messages."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I-message

[kristoff]

My sexual desire never diminished, just capability. There is often reported an increased need for intimacy as opposed to sexual contact.

[erikboy (imported)]

YMWV as one legendary EA member said once. It appears that there is no unified result of castration and people have very different feelings and effects to castration. During my short chemical trial I did not feel sexual attraction when I saw people with appealing looks. But I still enjoyed the view more from esthethical beauty. Not sexual.

[Rooster17 (imported)]

YMWV as one legendary EA member said once. It appears that there is no unified result of castration and people have very different feelings and effects to castration. During my short chemical trial I did not feel sexual attraction when I saw people with appealing looks. But I still enjoyed the view more from esthethical beauty. Not sexual.

at first i was pissed off, it was more like a conditioned response. like lighting a cigarette when having coffee or having a beer at a campfire. the desire or lust just wasnt there. thru time i have come to accept the lack of feeling i have now. i really wanted to reaquire the horniness thru hrt but nothing is there now, at least im accepting it now

[unencumbered (imported)]

While desiring to initiate neither diatribe nor debate, not everyone is a member of the "you" for whom the result of castration is, "you become sexless."

My sexual desire did not much diminish after my orchiectomy, what changed, though, is, it became much simpler, whenever I had something I regarded as more interesting to do, to ignore my not much reduced sexual desire. I have never taken any sort of androgen replacement since the day of my orchiectomy.

Some people prefer to communicate using "you messages." I, however, find "I-messages" to work better for me than "you-messages."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I-message

I think that when someone uses the word "you" in this instance, he is referring to a class of people, in this case castrates. Perhaps the writer should have added "in many instances" but I think that he was understood by most readers here that loosing most of one's natural sexual interest is a common effect of castration. That doesn't mean that castration effects everyone this same way and there are variables, such as the length of time since castration, etc.

For me, I have almost no interest in sex anymore, except on rare occasions. and even if I try to despite using some supplemental T for health reasons. But I am pretty sure that I can still physically have sex on demand; I just have never been interested enough to find out. As far as non-sexual intimacy with the opposite sex goes, I still desire it and maybe even more so than before my surgery. All of these sexual effects that I have had from being castrated I understand are common among many other castrates but I am relating my own personal experience.

[janekane (imported)]

The sense that people in a particular "class of people" have enough actual attributes in common that one person can tell another what the another has experienced, has been given a name in, for example, the class of people who are not autistic and who study people who are autistic, that sense is sometimes named "theory of mind," and autistic people in enough ways similar to me are sometimes said to have, as an aspect of their autism spectrum disorder, a serious impairment in terms of theory of mind. j

Some folks have attempted to teach me to become "normal" i.e., "neurotypical" in autismspeak, without the slightest hint of success. In my model of existence, "theory of mind" is a severe form of brain damage or deficiency, and I regard many, if not most, so-called "normal" people as being seriously to disastrously autism-deficient.

I have attended pubic meetings led by a speaker who, in attempting to address the whole audience as a group, would state something as though "we" (the entire audience) believed it. Some years, when someone did that and what the person said would put me in the realm of the profoundly dishonest if I did not state that I did not agree with the speaker about his including me in his sense of "we", and stated why, the speaker said, to me and the rest of the audience, "I disagree with you ten thousand percent."

To which I said, to all present, "Your 'we' includes 'not-me'."

For me, "you-messages" tend to depersonalize, deindividuate, and disrespect the person to whom a "you-message" is directed.

I experience "you-messages" as a form of bullying, but that belongs on a different thread, I suppose, except that it is relevant for me on this one.

However, I do not find "you-messages" quite as disrespectful of my sense of self as I found testosterone was.

I do have an ulterior motive for not being "sexless," and it is my guess that orgasms, if they happen often enough, may be somewhat like a Kegel exercise, in. perhaps/perhaps-not putting off functional urinary incontinence; so I sometimes go for the perhaps, just in case it helps.

So, to demonstrate the nature of human biological diversity, the main reason I had for my orchiectomy was to not be sexless. Why? My brother became sexless at age 50, when he died from such cancer as I had set out to delay or prevent. He not only became sexless, he became lifeless. Following his example, I found not inspiring. I am about as inspiring as I am expiring (meaning, breathing), whereas my brother stopped inspiring when he finished expiring.

My brother and I were, and are, not the same.

[paring (imported)]

Castrated men still need love and affection, sex makes it a good opportunity to have some. From Top I went bottoms but I must admit that I didn't have as much sex as before, from 20 times a month I went to less than twice a month.

Most of time, we read that castration doesn't eliminate all sex drive but greatly diminish it, I believe, it's normal. On some rare occasions, some report that they have no sex drive at all, it's very possible. Some others say, they are as horny as before. Without TRT? That I'd like to see it to believe it.