Chemical to surgical

[jbird1955 (imported)]

Hi all.

I've been a member here for a few years and have dabbled with chemical castration a few times. This time though I've been able to figure out that I am bi-gender and along with the Androcur have been in transition for about a year.

So now I'm thinking that its time to move on permanently and just have them removed. As I said I am bi-gendered and still enjoy the ability to be with my wife every now and then (usually once a month and after a great deal of effort which has proved to enhance the experience).

So my question is what would be the difference between how I am currently - a year later of being chemically done - vs. full castration? Will I still feel the same as I do towards my wife (I still am very much attracted to her and when I can I do want to be with her)? Can I still act out my feelings as I can now?

I'm not knowledgeable enough to say to her that having them removed will make no difference to how I am now.

Thanks folks, Joe

[Wellesley (imported)]

Would you take HRT? I think that is a point.

No testicles, no HRT means no erections basically. I think experiences will differ though. Seems some men can still become erect without HRT.

I still love my wife. Our sex life was non-existent. Did not really change our relationship.

[Hash (imported)]

If you've been in transition for a year, you've already experienced what it's like to be castrated for the most part, although if you're still able to have erections and some sexual desire, you're probably not at full castrate levels. Once castrated, you will most likely experience some further deeper changes or feelings. Being with your wife will likely change because you will become more emotional as most women are. You'll cry more easily, but you'll also enjoy cuddling and touching more, even without the prospect of sex. Your sexual desire, without HRT, will be non-existent. I would guess that 95% of men who are castrated lose all sexual desire and rather quickly. I use a low dose regimen of testosterone replacement and though I wake occasionally with a rubbery half-flaccid erection, my sexual desire is tepid. I still like to hold my wife, tease her, reach for her, and play sometimes, but I really have no motivation for sex or intercourse, but she doesn't either. She's had a hysterectomy and that seems to have destroyed any sexual desire she once had.

If you're bi-sexual, I would expect one of two things to happen. You'll either lose most of your "bi" desires or you'll begin to lean more heavily towards them. Everyone is different. I do know that some transsexuals who have the surgery to transform their male genitalia into female, lose their desire to be female. Some, after surgery, revert back to their male character, even though now, they don't have their male parts. It's also true that some men who are castrated, lose their sexual desire(s) in every way and no longer care about being "bi, gay, straight, or anything" sexually. They just become asexual androgynous beings, so try to prepare yourself, because surgical castration will result in further changes. Your penis will shrink, sometimes more sometimes less. You'll experience eunuch bliss and you'll feel strangely enlightened. I think this happens because your mind is no longer dominated by sexual desire, you'll begin to indulge in other areas of living. Some eunuchs state that they gain a greater mental capacity and that once the sexual desires are gone, they feel free and it opens up a whole new world to them.

Well, I hope something I've said helps and one last thing. Since castration my desire to get rid of my penis has gotten stronger. I believe this is due to the fact that estrogen increases in eunuchs and in my case, becomes the dominant hormone. As the dominant feminine hormone, it's causing me to reject all things male, including my penis. I have resisted removing it, but I know that one of these days I'll cut it off. I've already got a reroute in preparation, so not much else will need to be done.

[jbird1955 (imported)]

Thanks for the responses Wellesley and Hash, very helpful indeed.

As I stated I'm bi-gender which is not bi-sexual. I have no interest in other men and my attraction is still completely towards women albeit dedicated to one now (not many women would like to be or understand the bi-gender aspect).

You've made the decision a heck of a lot easier, I'll stay with the Androcur!

Joe