excitement!

[incuse (imported)]

I just want to give the creators of the Eunuch Archive my thanks. I have been a non-partcipating member for as many years as I can remember. Back to the netcom days... anyhow, last week, I started partcipating in the chat room for the first time.

I met luvpain, a very nice guy who I have enjoyed talking to. Just a few minutes ago, he got plane tickets to come down and see me so we can meet.

I know this seems kind of quick to be meeting, but we've just fell for each other after all the chatting and talking on the phone that we've done.

I really hope things go off well for us.

Back to what I was saying, I wanted to say thank you for the people that brought all of us eunuch wannabes and eunuchs a place to join. Without this board and chat room, I would have never met luvpain.

Since I don't know all of the people involved in the management of this site, I won't mention names since I'd leave someone out, but you definately should know that I am very appreciative of your efforts.

on another note...

Both luvpain and I seem to have very simular ideas on castration, because of this, we'll most likely end up getting castrated sometime in our lives. I wonder how 2 eunuchs could live together...

God, Im so excited and nervous and happy.

Thanks again!

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zkcuDreally

[luvpain (imported)]

Well I first want to welcome zkcuD to the Archive.

I am glad I was able to chat with zkcuD, and help lift him out of some depression, which in turn help lift my spirits. That is one of the great things about the Archives; the majority of people will go out of their way to make sure people are not feeling so down and out.

Well this site and BME member area is where I spend most of my free time, since people here and on BME are a community that share common interests. Being there to support others with common interest is what makes this site so great.

Well I know I for one do my best to support and be there for people that visit the chat room, and have seen those same qualities in the other Operators and some of the regular users that stop by. I couldn't ask for a better group of people to be in charge of.

Well I do hope things work between zkcuD and myself, I'm also curious to see how things would work out if we both become eunuchs. It will be very interesting to see.

[A-1 (imported)]

Be careful going somewhere and meeting somebody that you met on the computer in a chat room.

It might be O.K., but then again it might not be O.K.

Just...be careful. Leave somebody an itinerary so if you don't make it back somebody can come and hunt for you.

Don't go without a picture of whoever you are going to meet left with a relative, etc.

When you get there do not go with somebody who has not sent you a picture. Lay down and have a siezure or something. You get the drift...

I know of a case where two rode a bus to Indianapolis, but just one came back and they have not been able to get anything out of the one about what happened to the other one.

Just...be careful!

A-1

[luvpain (imported)]

I understand your concern about safety and it is always something I think about before meeting anyone in person. I have been chatting and meeting people from online for the last 3 year. I have come to really gauge someone by just chatting with them. I have also spoken with zkcuD on the phone a lot also.

Don't worry I'll fake a seizure, or yell for Help if I feel the least bit threatened. I have been taking care of and fending for myself and have manage to avoid getting into a situation where I fell uncomfortable or threaten.

I will be letting a close friend (Riverwind) know of the time, dates, flight #, and other details. I already know I will be away from Oct. 25-30 so don't expect me to be online those days. I plan on calling Riverwind while I'm visiting zkcuD so he doesn't worry, and can share with the rest of the people here that might be concerned.

[Losethem (imported)]

Gee A-1, thanks for giving me the creepy-crawlies...

I met someone in Indianapolis and went for a visit.

I think he still comes to the archive, but I don't know. We didn't hit it off though, I guess I wasn't his type or something. All I remember is I was being spoken to in e-mail and over the phone one day, and the next day I didn't exist in their mind.

No problem. I think I ended up with someone infinitately better, so they did me a favor.

LT

[incuse (imported)]

Be careful going somewhere and meeting somebody that you met on the computer in a chat room.

It might be O.K., but then again it might not be O.K.

Just...be careful. Leave somebody an itinerary so if you don't make it back somebody can come and hunt for you.

Don't go without a picture of whoever you are going to meet left with a relative, etc.

When you get there do not go with somebody who has not sent you a picture. Lay down and have a siezure or something. You get the drift...

A-1

I'll keep luvpain safe from the nastiness of the south east, and as far as I'm concerned, I plan on telling a friend about my whereabouts in case something happens. Since the friend Im referring too is also my exbf, who didn't care for the whole eunuch thing I spoke about, I think I'll ommit that portion of it though.

Ive met several people online in real life and, so far, everyone has been who they said they were. I think most people focus on the one or two that happen each year that show up on the news which are blown out of porportion and could have been detected by anyone who can see through some chats and phone calls.

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zkcuD

[Paolo]

Indianapolis is a scarey place.

I much prefer secluded, rural and peaceful areas of the state.

Good advice, though. It took me almost 5 years to get up the nerve to meet my online friends in person, and then I wound up on his doorstep greeted by a ferocious attack cat ... LOL.

Always have a plan and a schedule of where you are and check in times with the "real" people in your life.

Love ya's, talula & gem ...

[luvpain (imported)]

Since everyone seems to be concerned about me or zkcuD meeting I figured I would post a reply I sent off as a PM.

I know there are a number of people that care deeply about me and that I also care about, and I wouldn't want to go risking my life visiting someone that I didn't feel was being honest with me.

I feel I know him very good, have talked to him for 3 hours on the phone, and would say that I have chatted with him for 24 hours the last 3 days. Our interests in meeting are not based on just sex, but also on the outlooks we have on life and other common interests.

We will first meet at the airport, which means we can back out if things don't seem right. As I mentioned in the follow up to A-1's post I'll be informing Riverwind and maybe a few other friends I trust.

If I had any doubts about my safety I wouldn't be flying there, and would be working on chatting with him still to gauge any issues that I felt needed to be solved.

The main thing that I'm nervous about is how things will work out between us. I know we are a match at most levels especially the ones I care about the most. There is a lot a person can gauge from chatting online and talking on the phone, but certain things like mannerisms, etc. can only be gauged in person.

I am glad that everyone is so concerned about my well being, I promise to avoid getting into a nasty situation that I can't walk out from.

I agree with zkcuD on meeting someone, the media has blown things way out of proportions on the few mishaps that occur. I agree that people need to play it safe, but if you dwell on the bad things and are paranoid about meeting someone from online then you are missing out on life.

I would say I have met about 25 people from online in person and none of them has ever been any worse than I imagined them being from the conversations I have had with them. Yeah a few of them have been loser, and I just didn't want to accept that from the chats I had with them before hand.

After all the time I have spent chatting with zkcuD online, and talking on the phone I have no doubts that I will be in safe hands. I know I have at least made myself another great friend from here, and hope it turns into something more.

Now I hope this gets all of you worry warts out there to stop worrying about me.

[Losethem (imported)]

Hey Paolo--

I didn't really find Indy to be all that bad. I had a friend come up from the University for a visit while I was there. Honestly, I should have seen the blow off from my host coming the first day. I came in late in the evening and the next day he planned to take off work, but then he suddenly decided he needed to go to his job. <shrug>

He had to work the next day also, which wasn't a problem as this was prearranged and i had the person I knew for years came up to see me. This is also the person that knew where I was so if anything went down people would have been contacted.

I had more fun visiting with my friend than I had visiting the host. I didn't find the host to be a bad person overall, I just wish when he decided he didn't want to talk with me any more that he had just said so instead of blowing me off and ignoring me. I can take being told, "Hey, it isn't gonna work out." I just didn't think it was nice the way he went about terminating the friendship.

I was greeted by this guys "ferocious" attack dog. She was actually very affectionate, but needed someone to play with. She spent a lot of time alone when the host was at work.

Oh well, live and learn. The moral is, be sure someone knows where you are no matter how well you expect a meeting to go.

Indianapolis is a scarey place.

I much prefer secluded, rural and peaceful areas of the state.

Good advice, though. It took me almost 5 years to get up the nerve to meet my online friends in person, and then I wound up on his doorstep greeted by a ferocious attack cat ... LOL.

Always have a plan and a schedule of where you are and check in times with the "real" people in your life.

Love ya's, talula & gem ...

[luvpain (imported)]

Well Since I will be visiting incuse tomorrow and be flying back home on Wednesday so if you don't see me online that is the reason behind it.

I'll see about trying to sneak on a little while away, but slow dialups and using a laptop drive me batty.