In my work as an engineer, I choose to build bridges of diverse natures, and only demolish a bridge as part of the building of a better one. To do that, I first design and diligently test the design, of the new bridge before I set out to demolish the prior one.
Not only that, in terms of social bridges, I always actually build and test the new bridge well before starting the demolition of the demonstrably less safe one.
I have poured years of research and actual life effort into understanding public safety aspects of the Anglo-American Adversarial System of Law and Jurisprudence, and have found it, in its present-day form, unconscionably unsafe at the level of its foundational principle and everywhere above that foundation.
Instead of promulgating the destruction of that System, I have worked at achieving the successful design of its effective, economical, and efficient remedy, and find that remedy to be fully designed and developed, and fully ready for practical and practicable implementation.
In a society in which the prevailing paradigm appears to me to be grounded in a "NO, but...!" mindset, I find that I am as though imprisoned in the apparently flawless, absolutely perfect, freedom of, 'Yes, and...!"
My actual life is as though absolutely alien to many incontrovertible-by-color-of-law, established-through-long-standing-purported-values, beliefs which function transactionally as neurologically, shatteringly child-abusive sociocultural traditions.
I do not fault people for finding ways to survive what would otherwise (in the absence of ways of surviving) have been lethal child abuse.
The core of child abuse is the punishing of children for being truthful regarding procedural learning experiences, and doing so until children find it safer, in the short run, to be dishonest than to be truthful.
Teaching children to be dishonest by teaching them to be insensitive to dishonesty, is what makes "The Terrible Twos" phase of socialization so terrible.
My personal expertise? My life circumstances allowed me to understand the nature of the infant-child transition before it came to be time for my transition. I understood that transition, and its effects upon people who had transitioned, and upon their lives, well enough to have allowed me to reject going through the infant-child transition regardless of any punishment or other forms of abuse inflicted upon me by people who had transitioned.
I find that I would, more likely than not, have died from shock before accepting the notion of the infant-child transition, the essence of which I find to be the authoritarian parent command to a child, "Because I said so!"
Such appears to me to be of the way I have been given to be autistic.
When I have been told to do something, or to not do something, and the one telling what to do, or what to not do, arrives at the reason, "Because I said so!" I always find that I have been told to be dishonest by the person whose ultimate reason is, "Because I said so!"
In my life, every form of, "Because I said so!" is a sign of dishonesty in the one who uses that form of command reason.
I find that the social construct of guilt is, from a biological-neurological perspective, purely delusional; it is, at best, a profoundly tragic form of the assigning to disposition actually situational factors that are absolutely outside a person's actual locus of control, this being an inescapable consequence of every aspect of what is typically labeled "dispositional" actually being purely situational.
The best "lie detector" I have ever found is the presence of authoritarianism.
A-1, it is because I respect you as a person that I am led to mention my view that the bold-face words in your post on this thread of Today, 11:25 AM, are sadly besmirched and forlornly bulbitated by the coercive mindset of authoritarianism.
I find no fault with you over this, for your beliefs have been shaped by your life experiences in the same basic manner as have been the beliefs of Moi, and the beliefs of anyone, and everyone else, myself included.
For every way not yet learned to do something well, there may be a vast hoard of ways to do the something poorly. When enough ways to do something poorly have been found out, what remains may be of the way to do it well. I do not find fault with people, who, confronted with a problem not yet solved, find out what does not solve the problem, as doing that is essential for economical, effective, and efficient problem solving.
Of my own conscious will I will not fault the messenger for the message the messenger brings.
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Sorry, janekane.
The large fonts disturb people and force immediate attention.
I, myself, find it an utter travesty of all that is human to siphon off 42.5 million for running a corporation for a year, regardless of what you accomplish. Especially in light of the fact that the money has come from not paying benefits to the insured and from not paying physicians for services rendered and billed for in good faith.
They blamed it on a computer software malfunction and hired attorneys to ensure that they would never have to pay to consumers or providers the money rightfully owed them.
What could have spoken with a larger font than that?
I stand by my post and I stand by my font. As for authoritarianism, it is more socially acceptable to use a large font than a LARGE SHOTGUN LOADED WITH DEER SLUGS...
...and in our society today the only reason why some people are still alive is because it is against the law to kill them...
The large fonts disturb people and force immediate attention.
I, myself, find it an utter travesty of all that is human to siphon off 42.5 million for running a corporation for a year, regardless of what you accomplish. Especially in light of the fact that the money has come from not paying benefits to the insured and from not paying physicians for services rendered and billed for in good faith.
They blamed it on a computer software malfunction and hired attorneys to ensure that they would never have to pay to consumers or providers the money rightfully owed them.
What could have spoken with a larger font than that?
I stand by my post and I stand by my font. As for authoritarianism, it is more socially acceptable to use a large font than a LARGE SHOTGUN LOADED WITH DEER SLUGS...
...and in our society today the only reason why some people are still alive is because it is against the law to kill them...
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The best lie detector is a conscience.
Too bad they are not distributed equally.
:realpisse dishonesty really pisses me off.
Especially, if they cultivate my trust for the 'event' like a con or have my trust and lose it.
That is something I feel in common with my best friend, Mexy American whose family has adopted me and
is cool with whatever, but do NOT, ever, betray.
There is no Fury like a Mexican American who has been betrayed And I say that respectfully and ID with it.
Moi
Mexy American by adoption.
The parents decided not to speak Spanish or teach the kids, my friend and sisters, Spanish
Like my Mother's parents gave up speaking anything but English at home in 1919 when she was 5.
Too bad they are not distributed equally.
:realpisse dishonesty really pisses me off.
Especially, if they cultivate my trust for the 'event' like a con or have my trust and lose it.
That is something I feel in common with my best friend, Mexy American whose family has adopted me and
is cool with whatever, but do NOT, ever, betray.
There is no Fury like a Mexican American who has been betrayed And I say that respectfully and ID with it.
Moi
Mexy American by adoption.
The parents decided not to speak Spanish or teach the kids, my friend and sisters, Spanish
Like my Mother's parents gave up speaking anything but English at home in 1919 when she was 5.
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Yep, my mother spoke Spanish but it stopped with her generation, none of the next generation from any family learned Spanish. My grandmother and her sister spoke it all the time, it was their first language.
I think that is normal in this country, from native tongue to English in 2 generations, however my mothers side of the family had been in California for many generations.
River
I think that is normal in this country, from native tongue to English in 2 generations, however my mothers side of the family had been in California for many generations.
River
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moi621 (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 23, 2012 7:51 pm The best lie detector is a conscience.
Too bad they are not distributed equally.
:realpisse dishonesty really pisses me off.
Especially, if they cultivate my trust for the 'event' like a con or have my trust and lose it.
That is something I feel in common with my best friend, Mexy American whose family has adopted me and
is cool with whatever, but do NOT, ever, betray.
There is no Fury like a Mexican American who has been betrayed And I say that respectfully and ID with it.
Moi
Mexy American by adoption.
The parents decided not to speak Spanish or teach the kids, my friend and sisters, Spanish
Like my Mother's parents gave up speaking anything but English at home in 1919 when she was 5.
moi,
After cooling off and allowing time for the conscience to kick in I should like to tell YOU that I am sorry for how I did this. However, if the past were an indicator of the present, I felt like I had to do this as forcefully as possible to get YOU to see what has happened.
It is true that we all have been hood-winked and cheated by allowing the money-changers into our temples of healing in the medical field. The Medical Insurance Companies in America are indeed beyond redemption. This is why the McCarran - Ferguson Act was repealed. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XWBxwxHdWIA) The Medical Insurance Companies in America have became way too powerful. Keep in mind that the Tea Party Congressmen were almost UNANIMOUS in voting for the repeal.
Understand that normally because of life positions you and I would not operate on the same level and my voice would be soft and weak and not nearly as forceful as yours. I am sorry if this has intimidated you. I am sorry if I have humiliated you.
I felt like I did what I did because it had to be done. If I had not did it, I feel that it would not have been possible for you to listen. Forcefulness is like that. Once you are used to using it, you seldom examine your position and when you do and you find that you were wrong your have to save face or you lose forcefulness.
I feel that I owe you now and there will be some time in the future when I will be allowed an opportunity to support you when you are morally and ethically correct. I want you to know if and when that day arrives that you can rely upon my support.
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I will tell you what pisses me off, people who drive and talk on the phone or worse text. Please somebody explain to me what is so damn important that you must endanger the lives of not only yourself but everybody around you, just what is so fucken important?
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Riverwind (imported) wrote: Mon Sep 24, 2012 3:54 am Yep, my mother spoke Spanish but it stopped with her generation, none of the next generation from any family learned Spanish. My grandmother and her sister spoke it all the time, it was their first language.
I think that is normal in this country, from native tongue to English in 2 generations, however my mothers side of the family had been in California for many generations.
River
Do you ID with
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".moi621 (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 23, 2012 7:51 pm There is no Fury like a Mexican American who has been betrayed And I say that respectfully and ID with it.
One day I just went off the handle at my Mexy American nurse. Still a close friend today. <whew!>
She had witnessed me and the M.O.T. cardiologist arguing one week and speaking friendly the next and said,
"I thought you guys were mad at each other". and witnessed how if did not last.
Well, for weeks she did her job dutifully but would give me no eye contact or personability.
I had to work my way back.
Some of the son in laws of the family I am in have been not good and are, . . . . .
Warning: If you betray a Mexican American you regard as a friend, be prepared. Agree River? Have you observed that?
Moi