Newbie and wannabe.

[Renatelli (imported)]

Hello everyone!

I'm a 22 year old college student. I'm Mexican (and I live in Mexico).

I'm a gay man, my gender identity is androgynous and I recently started to consider becoming a eunuch.

It all started after reading (on Wikipedia) that castrated men do not lose their hair. I'm genetically doomed to be bald and just the thought of it makes me feel terribly sad. So after reading this I naturally considered the idea of becoming a eunuch but I didn't give it serious thinking then and after commenting what I read with my parents (which I kinda did to test them) and receiving their negative reactions I left the idea behind.

A couple of weeks later I started to read a book which surprisingly turned out to be about XVIII century castrati, so the idea of becoming a eunuch came back to my mind but this time I did gave it a more serious thinking.

As shallow as it might seem to consider castration just to avoid getting bald, it is an important matter to me. And not to mention that it might be really nice to be able to wear tight jeans without having to worry about your testicles' notoriety. But putting superficial aesthetic matters aside; as I've mentioned, I'm gay and unfortunately I've never had luck with love and I also have a pretty high sex drive (in my opinion). Sometimes it's really hard for me to have all these feelings and needs and having no one to share them with. I've tried casual sex a few times, but it hasn't helped because, in the end, it is not casual sex what I really want.

I believe that it'd be good for me to be freed from all these needs and thus not being sad for being lonely or feeling sexually frustrated. I'd like to live in a state of calmness that allows me to completely enjoy myself and my life. Because I've an androgynous gender identity I wouldn't mind not having my testicles, in fact, I think it might help me to connect my gender identity with my physical being and since I'm gay I won't be needing my testicles to procreate.

My three main concerns right now are, if I'll be able to find a doctor to remove my testicles, my parents, and of course, the money I might need to become a eunuch...

In any case, I haven't decided anything yet 'cause I know this shouldn't be taken lightly, but I'm glad I found this site and I'm hoping to get more information about being a eunuch, so that way I can make a conscious decision.

Please feel free to share your thoughts and opinions and receive my regards.

[Hash (imported)]

As with all newbie wannabe's, I always tell them to try chemical castration first, because it's reversible. Once you cut your testicles off, they're off for good and you'll never be the same, even though you can restore your sex life/sexuality with testosterone replacement therapy/HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy). I use HRT and it's not the same as having testicles, others might tell you differently, and it might be somewhat different for each of us, but it'll never be the same as having testicles. So try chemical castration first, if you like the effects, then you can pursue castration from a qualified surgeon.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_castration

http://www.hairlosshelp.com/forums/mess ... adid=52378

[raymar2020 (imported)]

Hi and welocme to the zoo.

As a nearly life long eunuch,( testicles that did not drop/work) I have used HRT for a very long time. I did have a few occasions when they tried working briefly , but not long enough to gauge which is better. I do know that for me HRT does the job.

You seem very young to consider castration for such a vain reason. Today there are things that can be done, to stop hair loss, and also numerous methods of hair restoration. Getting started on those early , would mean you would resolve the problem without castration.

As for your desire to be rather angrogynus, well, that is a different matter. For some people the form that nature gave them does not fit with their personal mental image. That is a valid reason to consider castration. To alter your body strictly to please that inner self, is not in the slightest unusual.

As for relationships and sex, well at your age, no one these days seems too serious about a long term relationship. It is possible to find that , but requires effort on your part, and choosing carefully who you date/ sleep with. Your sex drive/libido are at their absolute peak at your age, so when one is not dating, it can be very frustrating.

While you make valid points about your not needing testicles for procreation, and that not having them helps with that androgynus desire, it is not a step to be taken lightly.

As Hash has suggested, why not try chemical castration first. You may find that a life without Testosterone is NOT for you. You should also at least try to meet and date someone of appropriate age, and see if you can't build that commited relationship you desire. You could actually try both at the same time. If your libido is turned off, then you would be acting toward others without sexual energy being in the picture.

Should you decide after careful consideration to go ahead with castration, there are a few doctors in Mexico, that will do that type of surgery. There are other threads on this site that discuss them.

Whatever you choose, choose carefully, for once they are gone, there is no going back.

Raymar

[bestofboth (imported)]

Welcome here, Renatelli!

I can understand your reasons very well - indeed, besides of not being gay, mine were the same. Avoidance of baldness or other aesthetic reasons may seem too unimportant to justify such a consequential decision as castration, but it is your self-perception that is important. If you are not able to abide how you appear, your self-esteem suffers - and with that your self-confidence, communication ability, social success and happiness. Is this really unimportant? I think it´s not.

But, as Hash said, don´t start with the irreversible. Try chemical castration or - since you already identify as androgynous - estrogen treatment. The latter can give you the desired benefits without the disadvantages of castration, like loss of energy and osteoporosis. Especially in a person of your age, this is important to consider. But be prepared that some of the effects may be permanent if you decide to stop.

If you like it, castration may even be not longer desirable, and you can be spared the risk and cost.

Taking hormone medication perpetually may not seem very attractive, but most eunuchs do it sooner or later out of necessity, and at least you are not dependant of it if intact.

[Renatelli (imported)]

Hi again!

Thanks for your honest opinions (:

I feel l've been a little misunderstood. Yes, hair is very important to me and I'd love to keep it forever and though it was this what initially made me consider castration it is no longer a reason of weight to consider it, after all, there will always be the wig option for me. It is the idea of living in a state of peacefulness and calm as well as achieving a more androgynous exterior that matches my interior what is making me consider castration now.

I haven't considered chemical castration because, as I've just mentioned, I'd like to match my androgynous identity with my body.

I know that a surgical castration has no return and I appreciate your comments, that's why I joined this forum, to get information that helps me to form a concious decision.

[george2u2 (imported)]

Yes chemical castration doesn't reshape your body, but you can feel the effects of more dificult erections and ejaculation, the reduced body odor, and Hot flashes.

You might realize that castration is just a fantasy at least it will let you know more of how it affects you.

And lastly you can't masturbate too much. If you are wearing your penis raw you need to use more lubrication. It's no bigger a waste of time than watching television.