Why do people say one thing and do another?

[Slammr (imported)]

Oh to make it extra-painful, texas girl herself is trans and she's doing this to me...

The Texas girl is in Texas, and you're in the UK. That probably has more to do with it than anything. Long distance romances hardly ever work. A bird in the hand...

In my younger days, I often pursued a girl until I bedded her, after which I lost interest. I'm sure I left several girls feeling just like you do. Some I was hot for dropped me, too, so it goes both ways. I don't think this is as much a trans thing as it is a relationship thing. I know I broke some hearts, and I got mine broken two or three times, too, depressed about it for weeks or months wondering what I could have done to change things. Often it lasted until I met another girl.

[punkypink (imported)]

The Texas girl is in Texas, and you're in the UK. That probably has more to do with it than anything. Long distance romances hardly ever work. A bird in the hand...

In my younger days, I often pursued a girl until I bedded her, after which I lost interest. I'm sure I left several girls feeling just like you do. Some I was hot for dropped me, too, so it goes both ways. I don't think this is as much a trans thing as it is a relationship thing. I know I broke some hearts, and I got mine broken two or three times, too, depressed about it for weeks or months wondering what I could have done to change things. Often it lasted until I met another girl.

I doubt the distance had that much to do with it. She has 101 ways of contacting me. Even if she feels we won't work out, she can be honest about it, and we can be friends. Of my exes before the one who outed me to my department, I am on very good terms with both of them. Even the last one who outed me I'd already forgiven her, that she can't stay in touch out of guilt or whatever it is, it's not my fault. If they don't want to contact me anymore, fine, at least let me know. The worse is when people just don't even have the courtesy to do that.

So no, I don't think distance has anything to do with it. I will point out that moneygirl is in London, where I am. But nevermind, really, I have decided I'm not going to really bother meeting people anymore. People just all take advantage of my good nature. Nobody appreciates me for the things I want to be appreciated for anyway, I might as well save myself the hassle.

[punkypink (imported)]

Find someone better. You'll grieve for the loss, but in the end you'll be better off. The people who will stick with you will be the ones to treasure.

Looking at my recent dating history I'm sure it's a trend that will continue.

Betrayed, betrayed, gold-digger, vanishing act, vanishing act, what's next? Someone who will murder me for being trans? Then again, why not, nothing to lose.

[Elizabeth (imported)]

Looking at my recent dating history I'm sure it's a trend that will continue.

Betrayed, betrayed, gold-digger, vanishing act, vanishing act, what's next? Someone who will murder me for being trans? Then again, why not, nothing to lose.

I understand how you feel. I remember not long after I came out of the closet, my marriage was over, the sham that it was. But I was in the same place as you. And this wonderful woman from the crossdressers-forum told me to stop trying so hard. That love would find me. That it just had to. And she was right. Not long after I made the following post, I found the woman of my dreams and I have been with her for seven years now.

Hi girls,

I have been a little down in the dumps the last few days with this incredible feeling of hopelessness. It seems I no longer have the one thing I cherished the most,someone to love.

There was a time when I was a young man that I thought I would never find anyone to love me. But mostly that I would never have anyone to love. Someone to hold onto when I was lonely or afraid or proud or excited.

Now here I am in the same position again. How do I find someone. I don't want to be a fraud and go out dressed as a boy to lure women in only to be disappointed when they don't accept the real me.

I know there are women out there that are feeling lonely just like me and would be happy to have such a caring and loving person as me. But is seems the system, as always, is set up to work against me.

I know many of you have found accepting wives or SO's after losing your first love. And others have made a decision to not even try to pursue finding someone.

Can anyone tell me? HOW DO I FIND LOVE??

Love Always,

Elizabeth

It will find you too! I am certain of it. You are a kind and caring person that will make someone very happy and they are just waiting to find you.

Elizabeth

[Losethem (imported)]

I'm surprised that it's taken you this long to figure it out, but congrats nonetheless.

--LT

[punkypink (imported)]

So Anno 2070 is a really tough game. One campaign is taking me over 18 hours on one mission and it's still nowhere near finished. I think I may have found the only thing I'll ever need in this life. I bet the next person who dates me will just end up murdering me for being trans anyway. With my luck, that's a given, best take no chances.

Had an interesting afterthought.

So I recently made a friend who's also trans, and she's just starting to socially transition. I'd long abandoned the LGBT society at my university but as she wanted to attend their events and wanted someone to come along, I decided to be a friend. The funny thing is, a lot of the girls knowing she's trans seem to be interested in her. At the same time however, it seems they're interested in her specifically because she's trans, which does irk her. So this makes me feel rather conflicted. Lol, no doubt, I envy her for getting the attention, but at the same time, if it really IS the wrong kind of attention as she says, I'm not sure if I should be feeling like I'd just dodged many many bullets.

I wonder if this is what being stir crazy is like?