EunuchAusTX (imported) wrote: Sun Apr 22, 2012 6:06 pm
Well we finally got the car back Tuesday after two weeks in the shop. Turns out it also needs a new high speed fan for the a/c but that's another $500 we don't have so that will have to wait. We may have to do without the a/c this summer to keep from overheating the engine. Hopefully that way we can nurse it along until next tax refund season.
On top of that I'm worried about my dad. I knew he was having some health issues but apparently they are more serious than he's been letting on. He needs surgery to relieve artery blockage in his legs but they can't do it until some problem with his kidneys is corrected. He's on medication for the kidney problem but it seems to be taking a long time to correct. The blockage is causing him a great deal of pain so he is also on pain killers. He also has a small hernia but again they can't operate until the kidney problem is fixed.
I'm also getting very depressed about how long it is taking to get a hearing on my social security disability application. It's been almost a year since I requested the hearing and still no word. The longer it takes the longer I am forced to rely on my dad for help with rent money. If something doesn't happen soon I may have to cancel the application and try to find a job that I can handle doing and that won't cause panic attacks. I don't know what kind of job that might be. I just know I'm feeling worse and worse about the situation as it is. I never dreamed it would take this long.
All in all this has not been a good month. Hope next month goes better. *sigh*
The average on Social Security is two years. It took me a year and mine was approved first time through, which in and of itself is rare. I have read however that the backlog is huge because so many people have filed for disability because of the weak economy. As you already know, there is not much you can do but wait. Good luck.
I am soooo bored! Being a house-husband isn't all it's cracked up to be. The housework takes maybe an hour a day and the rest of the day is watching tv or screwing around on the computer, trying to pass the time until Troy comes home from work. I'm thinking of trying to go back to work. I think with the cocktail of meds I'm on now I could probably handle it. I just don't know how to talk to Troy about it. He witnessed the breakdowns that led to me losing my last job and I know he would worry about it happening again. But I've only had one full-on panic attack in the last year so the meds are doing a pretty decent job of keeping me even. I think if I was picky about where I applied to I could find a place that would be a good environment for me. I can see myself in a pet care facility or a bookstore. Of course there would be some drawbacks. It's doubtful that Troy and I would have the same days off so we wouldn't get to spend as much time together, and we only have one vehicle so transportation would be an issue. Also, going back to work would void my disability application so if it didn't work out I would have to reapply and start the whole process over again. But I think it might be worth a try just to get me out of the house and around people again. I need to figure out how to bring up the subject with Troy in a way that won't worry him too much.
Elizabeth (imported) wrote: Sun Apr 22, 2012 10:00 pm
I think of things this way. Sex is a major part of any relationship, but not as a piece of the puzzle. Sex is the glue that holds everything else together. By itself it may not seem that like a loss, but sex allows us to tolerate those things about our loved ones that we might not without that sexual glue. While sex might not be the mainstay of your relationship, it affects every other part of the relationship. I would not want my partner having their needs met with someone else because then they have the glue and not me.
Elizabeth
We all have different points of view. For me, sex was nature's curse. Now, sans testosterone and sex, life is good. Absence of the interest in or need for sex for both me and my partner has been a positive. We can focus more clearly, and rationally, on all the other aspects of our relationship. But that is just our particular situation. Everybody has their own situation. I can see it might be a problem , me being non-sexed, with a partner who had a need for sex. I could accommodate that, but not with any emotional need or interest or satisfaction; merely mechanical. Guess it depends on the other person if that is adequate fulfillment or not.
I talked with Troy the other day about returning to work and he said he would support whatever I decide to do. So I'm going to start putting out some online applications today, and probably sometime next week will keep the car and do some pavement pounding. I'm going to concentrate on book stores and pet boarding facilities to begin with, and will broaden my search from there if needed. However one thing I will not do is food service. I'm nervous about going back to work but also excited to see how this pans out over the next few weeks.
Well I have a job interview tomorrow. It's with PetSmart, the company I was with when I had my breakdown, just at a different location. I would be working in the PetsHotel again taking care of dogs & cats. I only applied there for the hell of it and am not 100% sure I want to go back to work there but I figure it's worth at least checking out. It seems ironic to me that of all the places I have applied to they are the first ones to call me. I'll go to the interview tomorrow and see what happens.
Well I went to the interview but haven't heard anything back from them. I'm kind of surprised, I figured I'd be a cinch to get rehired at PetSmart since I had a good reference from my supervisors there. Maybe I said something wrong at the interview, I don't know.
Also, I heard from my SS disability attorney the other day. They said my file is in the "pre-scheduling" phase, which means it's been assigned to a judge and now it's just a matter of getting it onto his dockett. They said I should expect to hear something about a hearing date in the next month or two. So now I'm torn. If my case is that close to a hearing I'm thinking maybe I should put off the job hunt until something happens there. Only thing is, money hasn't been the reason for the job search so much as boredeom, and if I get the disability then I will still have to deal with boredom as an issue. I'm going to have to think about all of this before deciding how to proceed.
EunuchAusTX (imported) wrote: Tue Jun 19, 2012 4:35 pm
Well I went to the interview but haven't heard anything back from them. I'm kind of surprised, I figured I'd be a cinch to get rehired at PetSmart since I had a good reference from my supervisors there. Maybe I said something wrong at the interview, I don't know.
Also, I heard from my SS disability attorney the other day. They said my file is in the "pre-scheduling" phase, which means it's been assigned to a judge and now it's just a matter of getting it onto his dockett. They said I should expect to hear something about a hearing date in the next month or two. So now I'm torn. If my case is that close to a hearing I'm thinking maybe I should put off the job hunt until something happens there. Only thing is, money hasn't been the reason for the job search so much as boredeom, and if I get the disability then I will still have to deal with boredom as an issue. I'm going to have to think about all of this before deciding how to proceed.
