Problems for eunuchs 'comming out'.

[androboy (imported)]

I totally agree guys . But therein lies a complication: I persue this dream to attain happiness about myself (don't we all!), but if I wound up having to conceal this *dark* secret from the outside world... have I really achieved happiness at all? Why do any of us feel the need to hide this?

rog,

are you getting castrated to make yourself happy or make a statement to the outside world? if your desire for castration is for personal happiness, then the very fact that you have accomplished your personal goal should bring you happiness without the need to proclaim it to the outside world.

the outside world is a big place filled with strangers who really don't have any need to know your most intimate personal facts.

i don't make any secret of the fact that i am gay -- at the same time i don't go around introducing myself by saying "hi, i'm david and i'm gay and oh, by the way -- i'm also a eunuch."

by the same token, i don't tell people on first meeting them that i like red firetrucks over the yellow ones, that i much prefer anchovies on my pizza over canadian bacon, or that i like panda licorice over all other brands of licorice. folks in the outside world just don't need to know any of that in the beginning. i'd rather they get to know who i am first and then we can get down to sharing the more and less intimate additional facts about me.

the outside world just doesn't need to know that much about me or anyone else at a first greeting. and, to tell the truth -- most of my friends really don't need to know that much intimately personal information.

are you seeking to be looked upon as a person or as an object -- perhaps an object of curiosity, an object of ridicule, or even an object to be avoided?

you are a unique person first, last, and always and the outside world should come to know you as a person. after that -- in the right circumstances and as the situation warrants, you can share more personal details.

again, good luck with the upcoming surgery and your decisions about everything else. i hope that everything turns out even better than you could have hoped and dreamed it would -- it did for me. my only regret is that i had to wait so long and go through such unbelievable shit to get what was right for me.

david

[Riverwind (imported)]

Why do you need to come out?

Life goes on, I have been chemically castrated for a year and no one knows. Having my balls cut off in 2 weeks will not make a difference and I still will not tell anybody.

[Christina (imported)]

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As I've already mentioned, I'm a 21 year old eunuch-to-be (9th September this year! .. can't wait! ). But I'm concerned I'll have trouble letting people know of my decision.

I gather Andrew is quite open about his choice, and I'd love to know how you best explain to someone - causing the *minimum* amount of distress! After all, there is a huge social *shock factor* surrounding this whole issue!

I'd love 2 hear from anyone with experience telling friends too. And, particularly those who's friends may have *avoided* them, since 'comming out'.

...and, of course, anyone just willing to comment!

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Hello thefraj,

I may be able to give you some insight on your decision for "comming out". My situation is much different than yours. As a male to female transsexual, I will have changes that cannot be overlooked, and "must" come out in my transition. You, on the other hand, can decide who you want to tell or not. As I begun my transition, I made the decision to tell a few of my family and close friends of my plans. I picked the ones that I thought I could trust, and I made the right choices. If you do tell anyone, it should be someone you trust and can talk with. It helps to talk to someone who is understanding and would care about you. No one has to know of your situation unless you want them to know or you have an S.O. Then they should be informed of your decision before hand. If "you" want castration and it makes "you" happy, then why risk telling anyone that might not understand your decision.