mynhii85 (imported) wrote: Sat Dec 03, 2011 12:27 am
Do you think it's possible that the person who objectifies us can eventually fall in love when they really see who we are over what we are? "Normal" people are sometimes physically attracted to someone first before they can love the person, aren't they?
I guess this is the reason why I'm still single. Living in American, I can see that when two good looking people open a conversation with each other, the next thing they are going to do is to get into bedroom. Perhaps it's different in UK.
Frankly people who are out actively looking for the objects of their fetishes are probably going to be caring only about their own gratification and needs 1st and will never reach that 2nd stage. Even if they do you can never be sure how much is or isn't just a good bit of acting to secure their "grand prize" for a guarenteed life-long sexual satisfaction. Would you REALLY want to settle down with someone who saw you as a sexual object first and only as a person later? I don't like something like that hanging over a relationship the rest of my life.
As for "normal" people hah good luck to them. you realise those people are not that happy anymore these days, because they have a relationship effectively built upon nothing. As for the UK, I think they get too drunk of their faces to care about the person's looks. Lol. But still enough to care about what's between the legs sadly. Not that I approve of getting into a drunken fucking stupor. Well I mean, getting drunk is fine, getting drunk to get laid is just stupid.
I saw another member who was complaining in another thread about EA being a place filled with social commentary and not solely focused on fetish and fantasy anymore. He's lamenting a good development of the EA because now it intrudes upon his getting off on it! I won't say who, just that he has been on EA quite awhile. My point is fetishists are selfish people. Even if they fall in love when they see who's inside, it won't ever be the first thing they like about you, nor the most important. I deserve better than that, and anyone who says I don't and should settle for objectification because I'm trans, is very much a transphobe who can go fuck themselves.
Bottomline: I don't exist for the sake of others' sexual gratification. Fetishists of trans people would do well to remember that. Most of them don't even care about what they call us. Look at the name of the site Macumbakaloo linked on page 1. Anyone who gives half a shit about people like us would never ever step foot there, or morally support the site in any way. I don't think Macumbakaloo cares about how the site portrays and exploits us and makes it harder for us to gain acceptance with the general public. He'd gladly contribute, however tiny, in his own way, to the misery of people like us, just to get off. Most of them are the people who call us things like "shemales" and "tranny" when we're trying to get the general public to see past the outside, to see that we're women, to stop categorising us by something physical and superficial. Frankly I'd like to see them keep their ignorant, superficial disrespectful filth to the other sections of the forums.
