loveableleopardy (imported) wrote: Sat Nov 05, 2011 8:02 pm Virtually nobody would go past the "platonic" that you speak of Punky.
But how do we change this?
It's not just a case of us saying to ourselves, "let's be better people."
It worked for me. So why not others? There was a time when I thought "yuck, penis" not anymore. Once logically I saw no reason for superficiality, and once I saw gender was distinct from sex, and that gender is what decides who we are, I decided that allowing myself to be put off by something physical like that was just illogical and irrational. I thought "if that is not what defines us, why am I even averse to it?" I decided I want to be better, and almost involuntarily, I completely lost the "yuck, penis" mindset.
loveableleopardy (imported) wrote: Sat Nov 05, 2011 8:02 pm Perhaps it would be possible for me to be less platonic, but I am not going to find out if that is possible since I'm not going to give anybody else a fair chance now - be they physically attractive or not. All I can go off is when I was available to give others a fair chance, and rate how much of a bastard I am from that
What I mean is, not writing people off based on how they are physically. If you're equally platonic with everyone fair enough. If I'm to be written off I'd prefer it to be on who I am inside etc.
loveableleopardy (imported) wrote: Sat Nov 05, 2011 8:02 pm I think that women have a greater ability to be less superficial/platonic than men. It is somewhat ingrained in us men to be instantly attracted to hotness, though some of us can see that as all that it is, and then try to work out deeper things from there.
Ingrained? Psychologically as a result of social conditioning, or because of your physical sex? I can argue that my existance is proof that physical males are not ingrained to be attracted to physical hotness. But even if it is, does that mean we should be superficial? It is one thing to say "I do enjoy physical attractiveness and if the person I like is physically attractive that is a bonus" It is another to say "If you are not physically attractive you won't even get your foot in the door". Nothing wrong with enjoying physical attractiveness, as long as you take it as a nice bonus to have rather than a critical criteria.
As for the rest. well, if humanity is really that hopeless no point for me to continue living on, especially since people don't give me a fair chance or see me for who I am anyway. Whats the point of living on seen by society as someone you are not? And really, if someone will say outright I have no chance with them based on how I physically am, they can jolly well f*ck off with their "oh but I do see you as a girl" because that is f*cking bullshit. I really hope superficial people will die off sooner the better.