A newbie looking for Calm and Peace

[Eunuchus (imported)]

I just joined a few days ago. I am interested in Chemical Castration. I think about sex constantly.Sex with

woman and men,also masturbation. I simply want my libido to go away. I have heard castration in any form

can help a man obtain peace of mind and a calmness.

I have been diagnosed as a sex addict. I see a psychiatrist and a counselor. The Dr. won't help lower my libido other than anti-depressants.

My counselor tells me, I should not do chemical castration,due to permanent damage or side affects.

So I am not getting any professional support.It is very frustrating. I want to try castration to see if it is right

for me. I may seek permanent castration if it works and I can handle it.

How do I go about trying this?

I am also in the St. Louis area. Is there anyone here from St. Louis?

Thank you,

Eunuchus

[Scootzsx (imported)]

Hi Eunuchus

Welcome to the site. I am pretty new here myself but I also have a diagnosed sexual addiction, although I have managed to remain celibate for 8 months now but it obviously hasn't removed the sex drive or my excessive need to masturbate.

I really do understand your frustration with the medical community as I have experienced similar indifference, although I do wonder if you have fully considered the ramifications for your long-term health and wellbeing if you go down the path of chemical castration or a more permanent form of castration to address a sex addiction?

I don't want to sound like your shrink or counsellor but maybe you should consider persevering a little longer with talking therapies to understand the root cause of your sexual addiction before you do anything that may be irreversible.

I also most likely have body dysmorphic disorder so my sex addiction is only part of the reason why I wish to be castrated, although having a full potency of sex hormones really does not help keep things in check so I truly do get where you are coming from. I don't think I personally would be considering castration to address my sex addiction though.

SSRI anti-depressants can calm things down slightly and depending on how you are affected a side effect of taking them can lead to erectile dysfunction and/or inability to ejaculate. I am currently taking two SSRIs and the recent increase in dosage has made my ability to ejaculate very difficult, but I still think of sex all the time and can sustain erections. I find this more frustrating than ever to be honest because at least after I wank and cum the sex thoughts abate for a while.

Anyway mate good luck whatever you decide to do.

Mark

[loveableleopardy (imported)]

In all seriousness I think that most of us have some kind of a sex addiction: it's called being a man.

Unfortunately most of society doesn't want to talk about this, and even most of those who have to listen to you won't be interested in taking in what you have to say.

To many, they can't get past, "how can you have motivation in life without your sex drive?"

When really there should be greater freedom for people to live their OWN lives.

[paring (imported)]

Well, you doctor and you counsellor have given you support, you just can accept it. If doctor don't want to prescribe anti androgen it's because these can bring some really bad side effects, I know I've been there. Living without libido is cool but the day you'll experience the side effects you'll regret it. Here is a clue of what you may experience after 1-2 years, memory lost, lack of concentration, osteoporosis, weight gain, diabetes, joint pain, depression. Most eunuchs here are on testosterone replacement therapy, so am I. Anti depressants are also anti androgenic, Prozac is probably the most anti androgenic of all anti depressant, this medication by it self can suppress your libido. Isn't it what you want?

I just joined a few days ago. I am interested in Chemical Castration. I think about sex constantly.Sex with

woman and men,also masturbation. I simply want my libido to go away. I have heard castration in any form

can help a man obtain peace of mind and a calmness.

I have been diagnosed as a sex addict. I see a psychiatrist and a counselor. The Dr. won't help lower my libido other than anti-depressants.

My counselor tells me, I should not do chemical castration,due to permanent damage or side affects.

So I am not getting any professional support.It is very frustrating. I want to try castration to see if it is right

for me. I may seek permanent castration if it works and I can handle it.

How do I go about trying this?

I am also in the St. Louis area. Is there anyone here from St. Louis?

Thank you,

Eunuchus

[Riven (imported)]

I think you're getting some good advice here Eunuchus. When you say you're not getting support from your doctor and psychotherapist, I know what you mean, but really they are giving you the support that they 'hand on heart' believe is right. It might not be what you want to hear though, and that's something you have to deal with. My wife and I approached our doctor on the same subject many many years ago and came away feeling unsupported because the doctor didn't seem to take us seriously. In hindsight I think the doctor was probably being dead serious, but I think she was ill equipped to deal with us over the idea. This is something that takes some talking through. In the same way as gender reassignment candidates have to work hard to convince the medics of their seriousness, those of us who seek testosterone suppression for other reasons can not expect to be automatically supported on that path. Doesn't mean the doctors aren't wanting to help you to be healthy and happy: They just don't have a 'model' for chemical castration regularly and reliably providing the effect we hope for.

I think gregrowlerson has a point when he says "

most of us have some kind of a sex addiction: it's called being a man

". I dare say guys like you and I don't have a much higher sex drive than average, but it's how we feel about our sex drive that matters. Some of us don't like to feel 'in need' of sex so much of the time. It's difficult to talk about because it isn't an easy thing to quantify, but this is the right place to get some perspective on your feelings. You may, or may not, get your doctor to prescribe chemical castration, but if you do end up trying chemical castration you have to be prepared for finding that you're not one of the few who like, or can handle it.

Society at large can't cope with the idea of guys opting to give up their sex drive. What are we supposed to do? We grow up believing that masturbation is, well, un-cool to say the least - which is why 'wanker' is such an insult. So it can't be surprising that some of us end up wanting to be rid of the drive. Trouble is, you can't get rid of sex drive without getting rid of the rest of your drives. And that's on top of the physical problems (hot flushes, lethargy, gynecomastia, osteoporosis, etc.) that you get as a result of castration. Your doctor probably knows about those problems, but maybe doesn't have the time or patience to go into all that - particularly if s/he isn't sure how serious you are.