Couple of naive questions about MtF transsexuals

[punkypink (imported)]

I can't go to class feeling like everyone else is an enemy. And yes, they really have ALL turned against me. Some are openly harressing me and nobody else is lifting a finger to stop them. Uni admin will sit down with the lot and let them know they're idiots, if that still doesn't help I'm going to give it a couple of years for the current batch of morons to graduate and continue the course with a new batch of people.

[Uncle Flo (imported)]

Is there any possibility that you can change to another, more suitable school? I do not like to think of you having to suffer through this nor to think that you have spent so much time, money and energy only to be thwarted by fools. --FLO--

[noxmagnus (imported)]

Question 2) A lot of these girls can still shoot pretty massive loads, even though they have very feminine bodies, non-muscular, big breast development, etc. I assume that they must be hormonally mostly female without much testosterone, yet if that was the case wouldn't their ejaculate volume be greatly reduced?

I'm going to have to say that alot of the effect for these transexuals is achieved as much or more via avoiding workouts that build major muscles, waxing and electrolsis, and surgeries- especially implants.

[devi (imported)]

Perhaps I was lucky but my experience was that the jocks watched out for me because of the cheerleaders. The cheerleaders took a liking to me. They liked my smiles and the fact that those smiles were what I overheard them desribing as "free". I never made the move on them in other words. I was pretty near asexual and never dated. I was actually unaware that I was smiling at everyone as if they were my sisters or aunts. I was also about the lightest weight out of anyone. Anyway one time in particular I was cornered and was being picked on and to my amazement several football players stepped in as a cheerleader was telling them what to do. That's actually how I found out.

[Buddy666 (imported)]

I can't go to class feeling like everyone else is an enemy. And yes, they really have ALL turned against me. Some are openly harressing me and nobody else is lifting a finger to stop them. Uni admin will sit down with the lot and let them know they're idiots, if that still doesn't help I'm going to give it a couple of years for the current batch of morons to graduate and continue the course with a new batch of people.

I wish you all the luck in the world dealing with the ignorance and the ignorant. Some people mistakenly think they have the right to voice their opinion in a way that will belittle others. Some people can only feel good about themselves by putting others down, so don't value their opinions or take what they say to heart.

There's an American saying, "Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one!"

Good luck and you always have us to talk to and lift you up! Take care, TTYL... Buddy.

[kristoff]

There's an American saying, "Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one!"

And at least half the time, they are full of schit...

[A-1 (imported)]

I can't go to class feeling like everyone else is an enemy. And yes, they really have ALL turned against me. Some are openly harressing me and nobody else is lifting a finger to stop them. Uni admin will sit down with the lot and let them know they're idiots, if that still doesn't help I'm going to give it a couple of years for the current batch of morons to graduate and continue the course with a new batch of people.

Try taking some classes on line, if your school has them. There also should be a support group on campus for the Gay/transgendered. If all else fails, there is always the Office for Civil Rights in the Department of Education.

If you are attending a religiously supported college, you will most probably end up going to one that is state supported. As a rule I would not recommend a religious-based institution for someone in your circumstance.

Whatever your major happens to be, find a sympathetic adviser in that major area and let them help guide you. The courses that you take online will need to transfer to the college that you attend if they are from another school. So, you will need to have them evaluated for credit transfer before you enroll in them.

DO NOT QUIT COLLEGE. IT IS YOUR BEST BET FOR A PROSPEROUS LIFE. MAKE SURE THAT YOUR COLLEGE IS ACCREDITED BY A REGIONAL ACCREDITATION ORGANIZATION (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Regional_accreditation). STAY AWAY FROM INSTITUTIONS WITH NATIONAL ACCREDITATION BECAUSE THEY ARE PRIMARILY FOR-PROFIT INSTITUTIONS AND THEIR CREDITS AND SOMETIMES EVEN THEIR DEGREES ARE NOT WORTH SHIT. THEY WILL NOT BE RECOGNIZED BY REGIONALLY ACCREDITED INSTITUTIONS.

O.K.?

[kristoff]

Good advice, but she's in England... Perhaps Punky can translate to the local circumstances...

Try taking some classes on line, if your school has them. There also should be a support group on campus for the Gay/transgendered. If all else fails, there is always the Office for Civil Rights in the Department of Education.

If you are attending a religiously supported college, you will most probably end up going to one that is state supported. As a rule I would not recommend a religious-based institution for someone in your circumstance.

Whatever your major happens to be, find a sympathetic adviser in that major area and let them help guide you. The courses that you take online will need to transfer to the college that you attend if they are from another school. So, you will need to have them evaluated for credit transfer before you enroll in them.

DO NOT QUIT COLLEGE. IT IS YOUR BEST BET FOR A PROSPEROUS LIFE. MAKE SURE THAT YOUR COLLEGE IS ACCREDITED BY A REGIONAL ACCREDITATION ORGANIZATION (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Regional_accreditation). STAY AWAY FROM INSTITUTIONS WITH NATIONAL ACCREDITATION BECAUSE THEY ARE PRIMARILY FOR-PROFIT INSTITUTIONS AND THEIR CREDITS AND SOMETIMES EVEN THEIR DEGREES ARE NOT WORTH SHIT. THEY WILL NOT BE RECOGNIZED BY REGIONALLY ACCREDITED INSTITUTIONS.

O.K.?

[punkypink (imported)]

Perhaps I was lucky but my experience was that the jocks watched out for me because of the cheerleaders. The cheerleaders took a liking to me. They liked my smiles and the fact that those smiles were what I overheard them desribing as "free". I never made the move on them in other words. I was pretty near asexual and never dated. I was actually unaware that I was smiling at everyone as if they were my sisters or aunts. I was also about the lightest weight out of anyone. Anyway one time in particular I was cornered and was being picked on and to my amazement several football players stepped in as a cheerleader was telling them what to do. That's actually how I found out.

The problem is, I am NOT asexual, nor do I see why I should be just because I happened to be trans. Like most other human beings, I have the right to desire, or I should, by right anyway, but by left, people discriminate based on what is between the legs. Perhaps what is unfortunate is that I am a pretty independent person, I'm frank, I'm not afraid to do what's right, so I don't portray myself as someone who is needing and "deserving" of the help of others. Not to mention, the one person who holds the view that I am simply not a woman because of what I have between my legs is the most influential of the social circle and the rest choose to align themselves with him. At best, they allow him to spread his lies about me unchec

ked, at worse, they've also been lying to my face.

Good advice, but she's in England... Perha

ps Punky can translate to the local circumstances...

Yes I am in England. I do not believe they have online classes on offer in my course. In any case due to the stress and inability to function in a classroom full of people I cannot trust, I've already missed 3 weeks of the last term. This is a problem because we run different modules each term, and those modules I've missed have ended, and the deadlines for the work due for them has passed. This has obviously added a lot of extra stress because now I face the real possiblity that I've already failed the year (2 of the modules were core modules).

As for support groups, most LGBT groups are mostly full of L and Gs. The guy I mentioned who insists I am not a woman and is the current ringleader of all that has befallen me is gay. I also often face a lot of discrimination from lesbians. As such I no longer trust LGBT groups to be adequate support. Most exist as an excuse for gay cisgendered people to go out, get drunk and pull.

There are almost none, or very few trans people in most of the university LGBT groups, and what little there are often tend to regard me as not being a "real" trans person because I don't believe it's whats between the legs that decides our gender. I'm sure you've all known trans people like that, the "superficial first" brigade, everything about being trans for them is looks looks looks, hormones, surgery, etc.

It is very disheartening to believe in non-superficiality and be called a pervert for it you know? Getting called everything from a "crossdresser" to "wannabe" to "man in drag" etc by other trans women or lesbians is getting me down. I thought at first that being trans without the usual accompanying degree of body dysmorphia was a blessing, but now I see just how much of a curse it is. There is almost nil support for people like me, and to be honest, it doesn't help when straight men with a crossdressing fetish come and muddy the waters for true trans lesbians like me. If anything it's a bloody wonder I am still half sane as I am.

I'm sick and tired of all that shit to be honest. If I wasn't such a coward when it comes to suicide, I'd have offed myself a few months back. yea ironic isn't it... I'm not afraid to do what's right, I'm not afraid to do a lot of things... but I have no guts to do myself in. What an utter failure I am.

[billie_tv (imported)]

Punkypink

You are facing a huge and vicious cycle I cannot imagine. As hard as it is in such a difficult situation, be strong and don't let them see that they get to you. They themselves are unhappy and sad people, hiding from their own insecurities, and if it takes picking on you to make them feel purposeful, then they should be the ones who off themselves. It's difficult, but there are people who care, who might be many miles away. Stick to who you are and don't let them destroy you. Only you can give them that. You're going places P. Maybe they know that. And that's what scares them.