wife's issues

[Buddy666 (imported)]

Thanks for the replies.

All I can say as a reply about my wife's surgery is that it took a total of 6 hours, (abdominal) due to the disease involved pretty much everything was cut, she is a petit woman who had a shorter vagina to begin with and now it is down to about an inch or two. Sure it is possible to use expanders etc, she is not having it. She is ok with no sex and repeatedly tells me to get a sex friend. (Common thing here in Japan) So for that I think the culture is too different but thanks for the support.

We will see how it goes this morning. Again last night at around 6 I was screwed, 2 sleeping pills again did nothing..... buggered

Well, in my home its OK to have a sex friend as long as not for <3 (love.) My last one cost me $ (money) though so it did not happen often. Funny that you say "buggered" because that is an Olde English term for anal sex. But, you 2 probably wouldn't because of your un-ending testicular pain.

I sympathize with your plight as I have pain issues too. My Fibromyalgia causes all-over pain, lowered pain tolerance, and even back pain, testicular pain, pain in my penis and pain with orgasm. My urologist knows and says he cannot help, and my primary care doctor says my back is to blame (Spina Bifida, not the serious kind) even though all my tests come back normal.

I too tried Lyrica and everything else known to man (almost) to no avail. I suggest you see a Pain Management Specialist before surgery for a 2nd opinion, since sometimes the testicles are not the cause, and it could be referred pain as is likely my case. They will do a nerve block, and if that doesn't help, then the problem is higher up in the nervous system.

I wish you well and hope your pain is resolved very soon!

PS, @ the other posters, thanks to all for all the info and I will be getting checked for low Testosterone due to medication use among other things.

[SplitDik (imported)]

I had two nerve block surgeries which both failed inside two months. I was finally faced with an implant to try and control the pain or orchiectomy.

I'm curious as to why the nerve block surgeries would fail. A neurectomy or neurotomy should mean there is no neural connection to the testicle. Further removal shouldn't help if you had pain after a neurotomy ... what happened in your case?

[RichTOwen (imported)]

I'm curious as to why the nerve block surgeries would fail. A neurectomy or neurotomy should mean there is no neural connection to the testicle. Further removal shouldn't help if you had pain after a neurotomy ... what happened in your case?

Hi SplitDik,

In my case they didn't sever the connection in the nerve block surgeries. Instead, they first tried a large dose of what amounted to local anesthetic, and then later on tried RF ablation. Neither one was successful after a month and a half. That was the point where I demanded a second opinion from the urologist I was seeing as the only option he would consider was a neuro-stimulator implant. With as involved as it was and the fact I would need battery replacements every few years, I wanted an orchie instead.

[califsun08 (imported)]

Your story sounds similar to mine. I suffered for years with testicular pain and I ended up taking antibiotics for nearly 3 years. I got sick of the pain and having the urologist tell me that there's nothing majorly wrong with me. The doctors tried antidepressants and i just got sick of the side effects. My primary doctor had enough with urologist and found me a doctor that was going to offer help. It took the right doctor to understand this was a quality of life issue. The decision to remove the non-functioning testicles was between my doctor, my wife with the final decision was me. After suffering for so long, this decision was easy. After the testicles were removed, I also had a plastic surgeon remove the extra scrotum tissue. Now its all healed and I'm happy that the pain is gone. I'm on testosterone and feel normal. I just have nothing down there. I can't be kicked in the balls ever again.

[Caponized (imported)]

I read this thread to today, and was saddened. There's lots going on here, and i suspect only some of it visible.

I too have a wife, a fine lady. We actually talk to each other, and even try to include the "difficult things". We have learned that each is actually more understandng than either suspected, and that a foot wrong is soon forgotten if the intention was good.

I am a father, husband, and also the owner of painful testicles which we have hawked round more urologists that we can remember. We are now in process for orchiectomy, and the Mrs agrees. She even wants to accompany hubby on the trip. -HRT for continued potency of her mate was her only wish.

It is wonderful what you can do by talking things over, and even more by listening.

-just my twopennyworth for the day!

C

[fredbutz (imported)]

Hey,

I lived in Japan.

While there I had a military related accident that ruptured a lung among other things.

I had to have a surgery, where there remove the tissue from the outside of the lung and abraid the inside of your chest so the lung sticks to the chest and fixes the hole. But to do this they have to break a lot of ribs.

I was in serious pain for nearly a year and working on a oxicotin addiction. AT one point my wife said, "why don't you try acupuncture."

So, one of the translators on base recommend a acupuncture provider. I saw him twice and never had pain from that surgery again.

Maybe give it a try.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

Just happened by this thread, and my! Yes lots of issues here, but I can agree, talk about it with your partner. My wife didn't warm to the idea of my losing them, but is ok with it now as it has solved issues, including pain. I too have had many surgeries and she has been there with me for most. Cheer up, y'all! We have made it through many adventures, and with t-cypionate alternate weeks, all's well and functional between us. She also take hrt and I guess we have it about right. Everything works. The secret? Don't have one; talk to your partner. Human animals are not entirely rational but surprisingly adaptable.