testes, castration and sexuality

[ronniCDTG (imported)]

m 60yr old man, so children are not an issue, have been cross dressing about 2 years. Am involved in a serious BDSM based relationship woman, we are not married nor are likely to be. She is the male and i the female, meaning we have completely crossed the sexual roles.

It was at her request and encouragement that my cross dressing began. The more feminine she pushed me to become the more masculine she, now he, has become.

However, before someone jumps that I am being totally forced in a non-consensual manner, once begun the more comfortable and natural it has felt. Numerous times I was told that there was something about me that made him/her convinced it was just a matter of getting it started and then encouragement.

We are at a point where some breast growth is hoped for and I will try some herbal products along with progesterone in the hopes there will be some development. Surgery is not an option at this moment. I also have to be careful of blood clots.

The other matter that I have not been able to find adequate information on castration, either by surgery , chemical or other means and sexuality.

My GF, or boyfriend, is interested in an elimination of the balls. For him they get in the way of play; prefers the smoother, more feminine look, children are not in either of our futures and I seldom get erect for long and even less act the male role. Basically while I am reluctant at this point in my life I am not giving up that much.

WE have also discussed the crushing of the cord on one and leaving one.

BUT our major concern is regardless of how it is done there is the loss of testosterone and I have read several people who had had this done describing losing interest in sex and also the depression.

When they discuss the lack of interest in sex is this as a MAN? What about the guys who transform and part of it is having the testes removed, do they also STOP being interested in a sexual life EVEN if they are now a woman?

Totally losing any interest in sex seems like a difficult situation to live with if I am wanting to be more feminine and instead lose the DESIRE to respond and be his woman, we are left with permanent non-fixable situation.

ronni

[ramses (imported)]

You will need to take estrogen most likely to keep a female sexual interest but that can be a problem with blood clots so you would really need to be medically supervised. Herbals are not inherently safe either so do your research.

She may also be able to control your libido with her having control of your testosterone if you have your testes removed.

[DavidB (imported)]

I have had castrate level T for over 2 years and all the sex isnt at the top of my list at all, but we still do have sex from time to time and its very enjoyable

[mrt (imported)]

I would encourage you to seek a GID (Gender Identity Therapist) who has experience with all this and can help you decide what you should do.

I would not "experiement" with hormones, castration etc. Having a doctor prescribe whatever is the safe way to deal with this. As to the fears of estrogen use read everything you can on HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) and in particular the debate over synthetic Estrogen and the Human or Bioidentical versions.

Talk to your doctor about refering you to a GID expert or do some Google searches for one in your area. Don't freak out about talking to your Doctor they are professionals and this is not off the radar.

I would NOT waste time with Herbals btw. I doubt they do anything but deplete your finances.

m 60yr old man, so children are not an issue, have been cross dressing about 2 years. Am involved in a serious BDSM based relationship woman, we are not married nor are likely to be. She is the male and i the female, meaning we have completely crossed the sexual roles.

It was at her request and encouragement that my cross dressing began. The more feminine she pushed me to become the more masculine she, now he, has become.

However, before someone jumps that I am being totally forced in a non-consensual manner, once begun the more comfortable and natural it has felt. Numerous times I was told that there was something about me that made him/her convinced it was just a matter of getting it started and then encouragement.

We are at a point where some breast growth is hoped for and I will try some herbal products along with progesterone in the hopes there will be some development. Surgery is not an option at this moment. I also have to be careful of blood clots.

The other matter that I have not been able to find adequate information on castration, either by surgery , chemical or other means and sexuality.

My GF, or boyfriend, is interested in an elimination of the balls. For him they get in the way of play; prefers the smoother, more feminine look, children are not in either of our futures and I seldom get erect for long and even less act the male role. Basically while I am reluctant at this point in my life I am not giving up that much.

WE have also discussed the crushing of the cord on one and leaving one.

BUT our major concern is regardless of how it is done there is the loss of testosterone and I have read several people who had had this done describing losing interest in sex and also the depression.

When they discuss the lack of interest in sex is this as a MAN? What about the guys who transform and part of it is having the testes removed, do they also STOP being interested in a sexual life EVEN if they are now a woman?

Totally losing any interest in sex seems like a difficult situation to live with if I am wanting to be more feminine and instead lose the DESIRE to respond and be his woman, we are left with permanent non-fixable situation.

ronni

[dancinggizmos (imported)]

MRT you always have wise things to say...

I would encourage you to seek a GID (Gender Identity Therapist) who has experience with all this and can help you decide what you should do.

I would not "experiement" with hormones, castration etc. Having a doctor prescribe whatever is the safe way to deal with this. As to the fears of estrogen use read everything you can on HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) and in particular the debate over synthetic Estrogen and the Human or Bioidentical versions.

Talk to your doctor about refering you to a GID expert or do some Google searches for one in your area. Don't freak out about talking to your Doctor they are professionals and this is not off the radar.

I would NOT waste time with Herbals btw. I doubt they do anything but deplete your finances.

[mrt (imported)]

MRT you always have wise things to say...

Hey I appreciate that! Thanks.

I know a few people comment that I'm "anti" this or that. My main "deal" is that people not hurt themselves or others. I still think about people like DonFL who died trying to do surgery (for example) on their own.

I don't think being born with the wrong parts of being homosexual is that big a deal anymore. I know that 10 or 20 years ago the concept was just too much for people to grasp but WHY in a modern society is it that odd? For our members with GID this is probably the best time ever to talk to a doctor about it and have it treated as you would anything else! And by doing it that way you insure a couple of really good things. One that its a reasonable thing to do. I think of the SPACE UFO people who felt it was important to be castrated so they could go on the mother ship. NOT sane... Not a good reason for surgical castration. Then you have people with GID that can be guided best how to do this in a safe way. Using drugs that are monitored by a doctor so you don't blow out your liver for example! Having surgery done by someone who knows what they are doing and are experienced (Like Dr Bowers for example)

Its great to have a forum like this to talk it over but I think its best to make "decisions" under a doctors care.