youngest Transgender

[kristoff]

This need not degenerate into a grammatical debate, please.

[polarthong (imported)]

A presentation in one of the surgery sessions was a case study of a young MtF in the Netherlands. She was put on GnRH agonists at age 12 – essentially chemical castration. At 16, she was eligible for both estrogen and sexual reassignment surgery. The presentation was on the development of a technique to provide a neo-vagina where the penis is too small to use for the tissue. Instead, a four-hour surgery (with two surgical teams) removed a section of her colon to use in constructing a neo-vagina. Skin from the thigh was used to supplement the tiny bit of scrotum for constructing labia. Since she was not forced to go through male puberty, she should be much happier as a female than a transwoman who has masculinized before transition.

I do wish this had been an option for me that age.

[erikboy (imported)]

I would like to ask transgendered people few questions for better understanding.

1. When did you first realise, you are in the wrong body. Or perhaps when you realised you were expected to behave different than you were behaving?

2. When did you realise that everybody else is wrong and your body is wrong? I suppose there was not one attempt to make you behave as your birth sex demanded.

3. I suppose there are not only male and female genders people identify with. Then, When did you realise it is different than female or male?

4. It is known that gender is something in our brains. It is not genetics (XX, XY...) or external appeareance. It might be that you recognised your true gender very early. It might be it happened later. It is already set when you born. So it is there, only nobody knows and you do not know either when you born. Question is, how do you feel if you are reffered to your sex you are born, when it is clearly obvious or widely known that you are identifying with opposite gender? For example, if you are born female, and you feel like male and everybody knows that, then somebody refers to you as she? Does it insult you, do you feel embarrassed, does it make you laugh... ?

5. Continuing question number 4. - If you are reffered to with your birth sex back in time when you either weren't obviously aware of your identity gender, would you feel insulted, embarrassed or does it make you laugh..?

6. What do you think Kim would feel if she read that sentence: "She never broke his voice?"

7. Continuing with 6. How do you feel, did I refer with 'his' back in time to her birth sex or the time she was supposed to break her voice as a male?

8. If you were Kim, do you feel insulted by that sentece? Perhaps we should ask herself

9. How you wish you are refferred to in the past, present and future?

Just curious.

[kristoff]

I would like to ask transgendered people few questions for better understanding.

1. When did you first realise, you are in the wrong body. Or perhaps when you realised you were expected to behave different than you were behaving?

2. When did you realise that everybody else is wrong and your body is wrong? I suppose there was not one attempt to make you behave as your birth sex demanded.

3. I suppose there are not only male and female genders people identify with. Then, When did you realise it is different than female or male?

4. It is known that gender is something in our brains. It is not genetics (XX, XY...) or external appeareance. It might be that you recognised your true gender very early. It might be it happened later. It is already set when you born. So it is there, only nobody knows and you do not know either when you born. Question is, how do you feel if you are reffered to your sex you are born, when it is clearly obvious or widely known that you are identifying with opposite gender? For example, if you are born female, and you feel like male and everybody knows that, then somebody refers to you as she? Does it insult you, do you feel embarrassed, does it make you laugh... ?

5. Continuing question number 4. - If you are reffered to with your birth sex back in time when you either weren't obviously aware of your identity gender, would you feel insulted, embarrassed or does it make you laugh..?

6. What do you think Kim would feel if she read that sentence: "She never broke his voice?"

7. Continuing with 6. How do you feel, did I refer with 'his' back in time to her birth sex or the time she was supposed to break her voice as a male?

8. If you were Kim, do you feel insulted by that sentece? Perhaps we should ask herself

9. How you wish you are refferred to in the past, present and future?

Just curious.

See post 11 above. We will NOT have a repeat of the wars that erupted here before. I will trash them again if they are posted. Keep it civil.

[DeaconBlues (imported)]

Sounds OK with me. Especially ther demeaning part.

Sorry to say it, but I could not DISagree more. I do hope you were speaking facetiously, you know, joking around a bit.

Up until somewhere around 1980, I was quite the homophobe. It was a long and painful process for me, to start being honest with myself, but eventually I came to see that most of my hatred and fear was in fact misdirected. I had hated homosexuals because I had been told to hate them, by the people who wanted to destroy me from the inside out. I should have seen the manipulative haters for what they were, but that takes time to see through their disguises.

To this day, a carry shame and guilt for some of the cruel and hateful things I thought, said and did. Seeing a picture of the fence where Matthew Shepard was left to die really hit me very hard( http://www.matthewshepard.org/site/PageServer ), because I knew in my heart that at one time, I could very well have been one of the trashy creeps who did something like that.

If there is any one arena where we should fight the fight, to erase the sick hatred, it is NOT on the streets of Selma in some riot or demonstration, it is in the schoolyards. In the elementary schools, that is where the hatred takes hold and grows, or is erased. The hatred is not taught in the lesson plans of the teachers, but it is strongly reinforced when children are allowed to act out their hatred by apathetic and lazy

school administrators and teachers.

I would like to ask any of the readers here something, especially the ones with school age children. IF this "youngest transgender" child was in the same school and classroom with your own child... What sort of treatment would she be getting from her classmates? Would she be the teased and bullied "sissy boy" who was never accepted or allowed to play with the other children?

[Tclosetgirl (imported)]

I was 5, and I knew but I had a dad that would have no such part of that - and for the next 30 years I was in absolute confusion.

And because I have an established "life" I don't want to risk it to take a risk and change my gender..

But I have changed my body, it's a very femme body but for "now" it's where I will stay.

Great video, wish I had parents like that when I was growing up - but people were too conservative back then.