Becoming the person that I am

[graylayer02 (imported)]

@freddyde: Why wait? You can make small changes incrementally (though in Germany the gatekeeping is very strict for most medical interventions--I had to DIY a few things). E.g., you can do beard removal, grow your hair out, or play with your gender presentation in bits and pieces (pun intended). Drag is also an option, if that's your thing. (It wasn't mine.) In fact, if there is one pattern that I have noticed, it's that people who adopt a gradualist approach seem to have relatively fewer problems going forward. That's because there's a lot of trial and error in figuring out what's right for you. For me it turned out to be slightly different jeans and sweaters than before, but for others there can be bigger changes.

@losethem: As the Germans say, selbstverständlich.

@Tiamat: Likewise.

Also, I just realized the key to getting better service in restaurants: Wearing my hair down.

[Frida G Cavic (imported)]

@freddyde: Why wait? You can make small changes incrementally (though in Germany the gatekeeping is very strict for most medical interventions--I had to DIY a few things). E.g., you can do beard removal, grow your hair out, or play with your gender presentation in bits and pieces (pun intended). Drag is also an option, if that's your thing. (It wasn't mine.) In fact, if there is one pattern that I have noticed, it's that people who adopt a gradualist approach seem to have relatively fewer problems going forward. That's because there's a lot of trial and error in figuring out what's right for you. For me it turned out to be slightly different jeans and sweaters than before, but for others there can be bigger changes.

Thanks for your words. Actually I made a big step the last year when I announced to my family my true orientation. Little by little They is going to accepting me. From then little changes have occurred almost Without I´m really realising. The second step was chemical castration. I´ve done a different hairstyle. did my nails inconspicuously . My behaviour towards others have changed too. Now I´m more delicated and smiling. Male attitude has diminished. I think that It´s caused by antiandrogens but I think also that It´s because my mind is changing into who I am really.

[C&TL2745 (imported)]

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I think that It´s caused by antiandrogens but I think also that It´s because my mind is changing into who I am really.

Tal vez no sea la castración química misma que hace la diferencia, sino por fin ser cómodo siendo quien usted es.

Best wishes.

Sandi

[Frida G Cavic (imported)]

Gracias Sandi!

Efectivamente, pienso lo mismo, los antiandrógenos me han ayudado, pero soy yo mismo el que se ha estado redescubriendo!

Desafortunadamente en mi localidad y en general en mi pais una cultura machista y de discriminación prevalece, obstaculizando las oportunidades para la diversidad de género llámese transgéneros, homosexuales, eunucos etc.

Aun así sé que con pequeños cambios saldremos adelante

Bendiciones!:)

[graylayer02 (imported)]

I know, long time no update, but I've been busy in a good way. I got married; there's been a lot of travel for work and fun (including India!); and there is the chance that we'll be moving (for work) within the next 1-2 years. Sorry, but my wife is more of a priority than posting here.

Nothing new to report on the gender front. It's like things simply 'clicked' psychologically sometime in August 2014 and have gone wonderfully since then. The past two years have been remarkable, and now I have someone wonderful to share a future with.

The only things I miss: being able to stand up to pee in a sticky situation (like a Soviet bloc public toilet), and being able to travel in weird countries without worrying about sexual harassment. (I'm looking at you, Morocco.) And not worrying about my weight (in the land of chocolate). Apart from those things, most things are significantly better now.

My super-power: being a woman above the age of 35, I have a secret power of invisibility.

Oh, and I want ALL OF THE CHOCOLATE!

To my total surprise, I don't really get sir'd all that much anymore. I thought that I was just too manly to make it (in a bearable way). Nope. I've heard from multiple people that they were relieved when I came out and made the changeover, because it gave them something binary-ish to peg me as, which is a bit messed up, but those cis people are weird, aren't they?

[Frida G Cavic (imported)]

That´s wonderful news. I love India so mystical , traditional and exotic. It´s Good things is going well for you

[Uncle Flo (imported)]

graylayer02, it is good to hear from you and to know that you are doing well. --FLO--