Becoming the person that I am

[Danya (imported)]

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ou have come a very long way since

the time we met in Chicago last Christmas. You've reached this point by your continuing persistence in getting past what, at times I think, seemed like nearly insurmountable barriers to becoming...you. I am very happy for you!

[graylayer02 (imported)]

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ou have come a very long way since

the time we met in Chicago last Christmas. You've reached this point by your continuing persistence in getting past what, at times I think, seemed like nearly insurmountable
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barriers to becoming...you. I am very happy for you!

Gracias beaucoup, Frau Danya. You were one of those people who was there for me during the worst.

Events sort of forced my hand, I think. The whole time I felt like I was one step ahead of assured destruction. That feeling has finally passed, so to speak.

[graylayer02 (imported)]

I pretty much knew all along that this would happen at some point So do you actually identify as female now, or are you just presenting that way because it is easier? I know in the past you have mentioned not identifying with either gender, so that is why I'm wondering. In any case, I am glad that you have found where you are supposed to be!

You did? I seem to have taken almost everybody else by surprise. What was it that made you think that I would make this change?

It's weird. I don't think of myself as different than I was a year or two years or five years ago. I still don't identify with the gender binary. But if we relax the (false) binary definition of what it means to be male or female or something else, then it's clear to me that I'd rather move throughout the world perceived as female. It's also clear to me that my body works better for me when it's running on estrogen and that I have sort of reached a point where people perceive me more as female somewhat by default.

So to answer your question, I consider myself "a woman, I guess, for most practical purposes". That works for me.

[graylayer02 (imported)]

Quick update here.

I've now been full-time for close to 3 months. Very little has happened of note. When people think of trans things, they think of something sensational. For me it's mostly going to work, doing my shopping, and dealing with bureaucracy and the occasional residual medical thing.

I have gotten my morning makeup routine down to a minimalistic 15-minute job, thanks to the hair removal kicking in.

My voice is in a sort of upper-androgynous range that kind of works in person. It sounds weird over the phone. I'm still working on it.

I almost never get referred to as 'he' although there might have been the one time I got 'he'd last week when I presented butch on my way to laser.

Naja. Everything is in order here. So this is what living feels like.

[graylayer02 (imported)]

6 mo post name change here.

Honestly, there isn't really much new to report. For once in my life, things seem to be going well. All of the transphobic abuse at work? Never happened. Being beaten up on the street? Nope. In fact, people seem to respond better to me now, for the most part. It's THAT much of an improvement.

[Cuckolder (imported)]

Sounds great...another girl to be and it looks like you are happy beeing on the female side of life

[graylayer02 (imported)]

Update, in no particular order.

Things gender-wise are better than ever. It's like a switch 'flipped' about half a year ago, and my background anxiety levels went down considerably. Yay estrogen!

A proper vagina would be nice, but it's not a top priority.

Boob growth continues. This is also nicer than expected.

These days I'd say I get read as 80% female, 18% "huh?", and 2% full-on male.

Also, the relationship I have now is great. That helps.

Voice training is hard! I don't identify entirely as female (sort of non-binary transfeminine if you're getting technical, but "female" is a good first-order approximation). I seem to have gotten my voice up into androgynous-land at least.

Sorry if I haven't been posting much lately, but my attention has turned toward other things. I finally seem to be in a good place with the whole gender thing.

[Frida G Cavic (imported)]

I would like one day becoming myself too. I´ve started with something. Money is the limiting factor for reach my goals.

[Losethem (imported)]

I'm very glad to hear you've found a comfortable place in life. Do keep in touch, it helps those folks that are still working with transitions to know others have had success with theirs.

If I'm ever in your area, I'd be happy to drop by and say hello.

--LT

[~Tiamat~ (imported)]

You rock, entirely.

Do keep in touch, even if you end up more than a Ryanair away x C x