Disproportionate numbers

[Losethem (imported)]

None of this applies to me. I'm gay and I simply wanted my balls off. I am happy I did it, and would do it again if they grew back. My body is how I wanted it.

[dis539 (imported)]

i find all this interesting because everyone says that they are gay, straight or bi, but i have done a lot of thinking about this and i would say my sexuality is "submissive". Now i have had sex with both men and women but what i enjoy is being submissive and to be used by my partner for his/her pleasure. My pleasure comes from their pleasure.

[mrt (imported)]

i find all this interesting because everyone says that they are gay, straight or bi, but i have done a lot of thinking about this and i would say my sexuality is "submissive". Now i have had sex with both men and women but what i enjoy is being submissive and to be used by my partner for his/her pleasure. My pleasure comes from their pleasure.

I think most relationships (gay, bi, straight) have some amount of this. If your sexuality is all about JUST yourself? Ahh... Not too healthy. Maybe for people who wank a lot and live with mom...

On the other hand if its ONLY about the other person? I think in all things a little bit of balance is a good thing.

[butterflyjack (imported)]

This is a very interesting topic...The self loathing part hits home with me...For many years, I have tortured my penis...sewed it up to look like a vagina...and finally, after retiring(I was in a job where one would be nude in front of fellow male workers) I pierced my penis...It remains heavily pierced to this day...

I have had a castration fantasy for a long long time...I have also been a crossdresser since my youth...and have a strong foot fetish...

I am, in this same vein (I think) a recovering alcoholic, over sixteen years sober..All these things may very well be interrelated...The interesting question , to me, is....am I gay? Bi? Straight? I think bi would be closest to the truth...

I still love women..especially large women..Overpowering women...(again ..fits this mould)...

Anybody else here as screwed up as me?? Let's hear it!

dragonfly

[sensenbender (imported)]

If you include the bisexual count in the gay stats listed by Kristoff you have nearly equal numbers of 'gay' and 'straight' members of EA. How gay is 'gay'? How straight is 'straight'? I don't consider myself to be 'gay', but I am a 'homophile', i.e. a man who likes men. I also like women. I'm even married and have been for 35 years, although we're now getting divorced. My earliest sexual fantasies were of Brigit Bardo. My earliest sexual drawings (at age 10) were of boys with balls but no dick (I put a hole in place of the dick so the boy could be fucked through it). My first lover was a boy of 14 when I was also 14

I have thousands of pictures and films on 'gay' themes and very few that show women or girls. Yet I get off sometimes on stories about little girls getting fucked, etc. I am not self loathing at all. I love being male and I like sex, both real sex (mostly being fucked) and fantasy sex with masturbation. I have castration fantasies and I like to use sex toys to push my balls away so I look and feel castrated, but I wouldn't want to actually lose my balls or my testosterone count. I write castration stories and post them on EA.

Bottom line is I doubt the distinctions between 'gay' and 'straight'. People are just sexual, period. And those who are asexual used to be sexual and didn't like it for some reason known only to them and perhaps not even to them. It is said that the sex act is a small death. One expells a small portion of one's life force, one's living tissue (i.e. sperm). Expelling the testicles altogether is a somewhat bigger death. My conclusion, then, is that castration and castration fantasy is a form of death wish, just as sex is partly a desire to create new life by relinquishing one's own.

[sensenbender (imported)]

The 'self loathing' explanation does not explain the thousands of erotic stories on this very site for which the central theme is castration. Guys get off on the idea. That's not self loathing, that's a fetish.

[sensenbender (imported)]

This response hits home for me as well. I'm not submissive exactly, but I'm not aggressive either, not sexually. I could fuck a guy (or boy if it was legal), but I'd rather be fucked by him, and my real turn on is seeing him get turned on. I also like affection and kissing and such, but my turn on there is feeling his hunger for the affection and my being able to fulfill his need for it.

[Johnny_60016 (imported)]

It is probably a mixture of several factors.

Yes, Gay men are more aware of their sexuality. Straight men tend to think of sex as vaginal, oral or anal. Most don't think beond the 3, and they are always the ones doing the penetrating.

Those of us who are gay think about the whole body as being sexual.

There is also the Freudian side. I was raised to believe that homosexuality is a sin, wrong, the worst thing possible. Also I remember hearing the arguement that '2 penises cannot create a baby' and that the ONLY purpose for sex is procreation.

I also recall that if you enjoy sex then there is something wrong with you because it is NEVER to be enjoyed as it is ONLY for procreation.

I'm sure that part of the reason I want to have a penectomy is that since I was about 8, I've enjoyed the feelings from my penis. I felt then, and still feel that I shouldn't be allowed to have that enjoyment.

[Riverwind (imported)]

I'm sure that part of the reason I want to have a penectomy is that since I was about 8, I've enjoyed the feelings from my penis. I felt then, and still feel that I shouldn't be allowed to have that enjoyment.

You should unlearn what you have learned throw it out with the bath water.

If you enjoy sex then that is great, why would you want to end it? because someone else wants to control your life? only you have the right to that body of yours, enjoy it.

River

[Sweetpickle (imported)]

I love sex. It's wonderful. But I am not obsessed with it.

I have always liked both male and female.

When I was a kid I chased girls and caught boys.

I find sex quite different with the two, women tend

to be about romantic sex, men are more willing to

stretch the boundaries. With women usually they

are expecting more than I want to give.

I am comfortable with both men and women socially,

but I can only do one roll at a time.

I am able to understand the appeal of practices that I

didn't think of first. Usually if it's not degrading I'm happy

to participate.

At ea I stick mostly to gay sex chat, mostly because I usually

don't want to "do" some guys wife in front of him.