In love with a eunich

[angelsent (imported)]

I just fell in love with a wonderful beautiful man who castrated himself six years ago, in order to keep from straying from his then wife. He did it to help his marriage and it ended in divorce. So now here I am or rather here we are, about a month into our new relationship. He had already forwarned me about his condition but I didn't know what to expect. The first night we were intimate I got to feel it and the shaft itself had been shortened so its a little longer than a thumb, he had cut an inch off and he has no testicles, although he did get an erection. Sex was unsatisfying, I didn't have orgasm, he tried to manipulate it so he could be on top and make love missionary position, I got on top and still it was too short.

I do love him. He thought that it was going to be a deal breaker but he was wrong. I want to try different things sexually so that I can cum. Oral sex is great, but still didn't come. I guess because we've only been together twice sexually. So there's still alot of time to play with different things. We talked about him getting a strap on, which is fine with me and he even agreed to look into reconstructive surgery and have the penis redone and maybe take some testosterone. We are very serious and love each other very much. I want to stay with him forever. Is it possible that we can have a normal sexually active life, even after the castration? We both have children from previous marriages so thats not even an issue. But I'm hoping that by reading everyone's posts here I can understand why people do this. Any advice will be gratefully taken. Thank you and God Bless.

[jemagirl (imported)]

It sounds to me like you have the answer to solve almost all the problems in a relationship. You love each other, and that's what it takes to make it all work. In that regard loving a eunuch is no different than loving anyone else. It's just the particulars that are different and as far as that goes the particulars are different in every relationship.

Of course the spring loaded vibrating strap-on switch dick should help with the sex part

[angelsent (imported)]

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" D where can I find one of those?

[bobbie (imported)]

Understanding why other people may do this may or may not be of any use to you. Everyone does it for his own reason. You mentioned his reason which is not uncommon. It is a radical steep that he thought would work with his relationship. Sad to say it is not the best choice. The divorce is a common outcome. Castration to please the other is often doomed to failure. His desires were reduced or lost but it also reduced his ability to please his wife.

Hormones may help him to feel more normal and preform more normal. The inch removed will be harder to replace. It will never be like it was. It will take great work from both of you to make the relationship to work. You both need to connect on the mental and physical ( not sexual levels ). The relationship I would think has to be above the sexual part to really work.

I would say you have your work cut out for you. I wish you all the luck!!

[randy (imported)]

Have you considered reducing your own sex drive to match his?

[Sweetpickle (imported)]

Slow down.

A satisfying sexual experience doesn't have to include standard intercourse.

You may need to relax to be able to orgasm from manual or oral sex.

Men really can't "force" a woman to orgasm, they can only help them with the process.

Make sure you show your appreciation for his attention. Moan a little.

Work on a mental image that excites you.

[sduyck_2000 (imported)]

I would suggest a little masturbation on your part to learn exactly what gets you to orgasm

I can do a excellent job ...once taught by my wife with just my hand..she needed to know which buttons to push and show me those buttons

my wife only had a great orgasm in a blue moon from intercourse in the missionary position

I never had any of my penis removed

a eunuch penis can function quite well if properly stimulated

that would seem to me going to a unnecessary extreme

[nullorchis (imported)]

I'm kind of in left field on this one. My goal has been to just get rid of my libido, eliminate sex drive, eliminate ability to have sex, eliminate thoughts of sex so that I could focus on and enjoy all of the other aspects that life has to offer.

The sex drive that nature has built into us is way too strong and powerful, and disruptive and destructive. It ruins marriages, careers, and lives because it overpowers clear logical thinking. Nature only wants to reproduce; it doesn't care about any other consequences. When you don't want or need to reproduce the best way to start enjoying all else that life has to offer is to just get rid of mental, emotional, and physical sexuality. At least for me this is true. For you, I guess not. I use to think that being castrated would be really sexy; but I was overlooking the fact that without balls there would be little to no sex drive. Finally I realized being with low or no sex drive, but retaining my parts was preferable, so that's what I have done. Works for me, maybe not for you, but that's OK; one size shoe does not fit everyone.

[EunuchAusTX (imported)]

I'm at the opposite end of your situation. I'm a eunuch partnered to a non-eunuch. He knew of my plans to be castrated when we got together and was very supportive despite the fact that he has a high sex drive and has no desire to lose it. We've found ways to work around my lowered sex drive, including lots of oral sex, hand work, and cuddling. Also, I don't necessarily recommend this for everyone, but we also opened the relationship sexually. He is free to have "playdates" as long as he tells me about them beforehand, follows safer sex guidelines, and doesn't let his outside activities interfere with our time together. My point is that we found a range of solutions that work for us, and if you and your new love work at it you will find the right solution(s) for you. I wish you well as you embark on this new adventure.