I was leaning more towards a male lover being responsible - but a female? that could be hot also. I'm sure curious what others think - hope to get a few responses.

I find the idea of a husband being castrated or having the castration arrangerd by the wife's lover a compelling story line. Does anyone else find this to be exciting and something they would enjoy reading about?

Oh man!!! Castrated by the wife's lover or having him arrange it? What hot scenario!!! Would enjoy reading or hearing that story.

Your fantasy very much parallels mine - the idea of
the wife taking a lover and he

ends up being a strong dominant type who wants control is quite compelling. I often chat about this and have found some who desire to be in the same predicament while others desire to be the lover in charge who ...